The fighting has already begun

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The fighting has already begun

They fight over every toy, my attention and Kaylees soother (Brad takes it out of her mouth to chew on it, and then she screams). And I'm that horrible mother that video tapes and laughs as they fight! Its going to be a long 18 years!;)

Just thought I'd share

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"krista83" wrote:

And I'm that horrible mother that video tapes and laughs as they fight! Its going to be a long 18 years!;)

Just thought I'd share

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"krista83" wrote:

And I'm that horrible mother that video tapes and laughs as they fight! Its going to be a long 18 years!;)

Just thought I'd share

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Well, I already look like a crazy for not understanding how to hit the reply button, so I'll just reply again. I cannot even believe this. Mine have only just started looking at one another. I can't believe they're fighting! That's hilarious/crazy/awesome/weird/sucks for you! Still can't believe these leeches will turn into people.

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Oh yes my girls fight!!! And they hate when one touches the other and then the screaming starts! LOL

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Oh yeah, let the fun begin. DH and I would laugh to, I think he had a facebook post about it once, how he wanted to just chant, "baby fight" over and over. lol. I don't think he got many comments, only parents of twins can understand. lol

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Just wait until they can crawl!!! Lol Keira crawled before Sarafina, and she would crawl right over the top of her. She smooshed her face into the carpet and S would just lay and cry. OMG!!! She gets K back for it now though. She pulls her hair and pushes her over all the time. K is not aggressive like that, so she just looks shocked whenever S treats her that way.

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Abram is my more aggressive one, and Wyatt usually looks shocked every time he gets bit. It is so frustrating. Any suggestions for biters? We have tried biting back (as a last resort, I'm tired of Wy having bite mark bruises all over), time out, hugs and sorries, etc. Nothing seems to help much.

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Honestly, I think biting is somewhat more developmental. I think learning how to express yourself with language helps curb it. I really think that it is a way to communicate anger or displeasure for some kids. I think consistency helps too, which I am sure you are already consistent.

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You are probably right Mel. The frustrating thing is that Abram is so good at expressing himself. He will say, "nooooo Wyatt" right before he chomps or pushes him. But my sister and I were talking about it this weekend, she had a biter, he's 15 now. But some kids just have to scream to let out anger, or bite etc. We do time outs every single bite, and hugs and sorries after. He knows the routine now. Smile And it has gotten better than it was a few months ago, but so hard when my other baby has constant bruises in the shape of little teeth.

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Yeah, sometimes you just have to let off steam somehow and for Abram it is biting. Just because he is good at expressing himself doesn't mean he has the means to tell you or Wyatt that he is upset. Keira is better with language than Sarafina..and can even tell me she is mad, yet when she gets really angry, she sits on the floor and screams at the top of her lungs over and over and over and over again! It drives me mad. She throws things, she smacks whatever is in front of her (milk, plate, bowl, cup, toy, etc.). She just has a temper and we are working hard on learning to calm down. Deep breathing, counting, etc. Most of the time, I ignore the extreme tantrum because she is too far gone for me to rationalize with her. If I catch her before she gets mad, I can usually distract her or get her to breathe for me. It is so hard. This age is rough! I tell you...age 5 and rational thought...that is my goal for surviving twins. ROFL

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"melnzai" wrote:

I tell you...age 5 and rational thought...that is my goal for surviving twins. ROFL

I gotta say 5 is a great age! I never thought I'd see the day that I thought having twins was easy Wink

Of course, the fighting back then was cute. Now its just annoying because the know better Smile

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"brady77" wrote:

I gotta say 5 is a great age! I never thought I'd see the day that I thought having twins was easy Wink

Of course, the fighting back then was cute. Now its just annoying because the know better Smile

You just made me the happiest person, knowing it will get better. 4 and half yrs from now, but still, it gives me something to look forward to!

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"brady77" wrote:

I gotta say 5 is a great age! I never thought I'd see the day that I thought having twins was easy Wink

Of course, the fighting back then was cute. Now its just annoying because the know better Smile

That is how I felt I when my DS turned 5. It was just a great age. I loved ages 3 and 4 too, but age 5 was the best. Independent, follows directions, can be reasoned with...it was awesome. I never thought that age 8 would be hard, but I think it is harder than the toddler years. We are dealing with anxiety about school performance and friends...he talks back and fights us sometimes. It royally sucks. Sad There are days that I am at a loss about what to do with him.

Krista- It is bad, but I have been counting down to 5 since the girls were infants. Lol I think there are several of my posts in their early infant stage that had some form of comment about the girls turning 5. HA!

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

You are probably right Mel. The frustrating thing is that Abram is so good at expressing himself.

Rachel, we have Poko dvds (it is a Canadian show so don't know if you can get them), they teach young kids how to express emotions such as anger. The only problem is that Robbie at almost 7 is still using the stomping (and poem) that they use. Robbie has out grown them and so if you want I can pop them into the mail for you. Just FB me your address.