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Sarafina is continuing to have trouble gaining weight. I am not sure what to do. She is refusing most foods. She will eat pizza, PB and J, cheese, most fruits, pudding, and such. However, she is refusing a lot of food. She won't weat most meats. She used to love spaghetti, but now screams and tries to throw it on the ground. Sometimes, she will eat Mac and cheese. She gags on pediasure.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can help her find foods that she will eat? Any smoothie recipes that are healthy and high in calories?

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In my twins club someone was talking about sneaking in protein ... they mix an instant pack of oatmeal with a couple a tablespoons of water just to moisten it, mix that with an egg, and bake in a muffin tin for 15 minutes at 350. It can be packed with whatever you need to sneak into their diet, maybe some high cal dried fruit? I have no idea really though about getting her to eat since mine aren't eating food yet, but I know the eating struggles because my girl hasn't even hit 10 lbs yet. Sad

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"triplespiral" wrote:

In my twins club someone was talking about sneaking in protein ... they mix an instant pack of oatmeal with a couple a tablespoons of water just to moisten it, mix that with an egg, and bake in a muffin tin for 15 minutes at 350. It can be packed with whatever you need to sneak into their diet, maybe some high cal dried fruit? I have no idea really though about getting her to eat since mine aren't eating food yet, but I know the eating struggles because my girl hasn't even hit 10 lbs yet. Sad

K didnt hit 10lbs until she was over 4 months if that makes you feel better.

Mel-As for food, DD1 WAS an amazing eating...up until about 6 months ago. She likes what she likes and I can't get her to eat anything else. Even things she LOVED before she is refusing, so I understand your frustration. There has been nights where she sat at the table by herself for up to 2 hrs because she needed to eat her dinner before she could leave. It breaks my heart, but I am noticing a weight lose and its scaring me. I cant control what she eats at school and the majority of the time her lunch comes home only 1/4 eaten. We seem to be eating a lot of pork here because she loves it. I'd love to find a great smoothie recipe that I could give her.

so no I have no solution...I'm in the same boat!

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We're at 22 months and are having the same problems. I feed them what they'll eat, and if I can't find anything for them to eat, then I give them formula.

Could you make a fruit smoothie and throw some formula in? She'll be getting her vitamins. It looks like she's eating some good food. Maybe she's just not hungry all the time you give her food? I mean, she's eating, just not a lot, right? I wouldn't worry too much. :vibes:

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Krista - I am sorry you are dealing with that right now. Have you thought about just setting a timer and if she doesn't eat in that timeframe, the food goes in the fridge. We did that with my DS btw ages 3 and 4. We try not to make a big deal about how much they eat. With my DS, we also just set an amount of food he had to eat in order to go play. So, we would say he had to eat 3 more bites. It may be that we felt he needed more than 3 bites, but as long as he ate some food, we were okay with it. He responded well to that. We also gave him choices. So, we would say, "You can either eat 3 more bites and go play or you can sit here until the timer goes off, and go straight to bed. " Usually, he chose 3 more bites and playing over the less attractive option. We tried our best not to make meals a battle. He is a much more adventurous eater now. I can tell you that it gets easier.

I love that oatmeal idea with an egg. I wonder how it turns out? Sarafina might not eat it because she hates oatmeal, but my son might love it. Biggrin I think I might try some Carnation Instant Breakfast with Sarafina. It is easy and I can mix in just a little bit and slowly increase it. It might be a lot better and cheaper than Pediasure. I need to figure out the smoothie thing though because I think we can all benefit from them. I am not very good with a blender. Biggrin

Kim - Thanks! I try not to worry too much. Her ped wanted her to gain a pound every 3 months, but I think she has only gained 10 ounces, if that. So, she is not really gaining the way he wants. He never worries about her weight as long as she stays on her curve. However, the one pound every 3 months is to stay on her curve. We are losing her ped because he is moving out of state, so I am on the hunt for someone new. Who knows what their philosophy will be. I worry about that more than anything. Their ped has knows all of my kids from birth. He knows that I don't make big kids and doesn't really worry about their size too much.

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The oatmeal supposedly turns out like a regular muffin but with parent-sneaking foods (and maybe honey or cinnamon to hide it).

D is no longer following her curve and our ped wanted to wait a month for another data point but I'm taking her in this week. He keeps insisting that she's just petite. But she's too little. I'm not small at all.

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A close friend of mine has a 14 month old who was not gaining weight, he was below 5%ile and falling off his curve and she had to see a nutritionist per her ped. The nutritionist said to use the Carnation Instant Breakfast, smoothies (try yogurt, bananas, strawberries, blueberries and whey protien, tastes great!), cream cheese on graham crackers, avocado, nut butters on bread/crackers etc. At the last appointment (2 months after seeing the nutritionist) her son had finally gained enough weight to stop going to the nutritionist.

With my DS he wouldn't even try foods, so we instituted a "you must eat one bite" rule. The first night he went to bed immediately when he refused, had a royal fit, screaming kicking etc., once he had calmed down he came out of bed, ate the one bite and has NEVER refused to try one bite since. That was 3 months ago. He eats at least one bite of every food item on his plate.

Now my DD is refusing foods. Mealtime is so stressful! Good luck, I hope she eats more for you soon!

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Ugh ... just to hijack this, my girl got her official "failure to thrive" diagnosis today and a bunch of referrals. She is up just 5 ounces in a month.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Ugh ... just to hijack this, my girl got her official "failure to thrive" diagnosis today and a bunch of referrals. She is up just 5 ounces in a month.

I'm so sorry, shelia. Just one more thing to add to your stress Hugs x 1000

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Ugh ... just to hijack this, my girl got her official "failure to thrive" diagnosis today and a bunch of referrals. She is up just 5 ounces in a month.

I am sorry! :bigarmhug: Just so you know, my DS got that label at 6 months. Guess what? He was just moving to the growth curve he is on currently. He dropped on his curve and the ped labeled him FTT. It made me so mad! Sad

Mel- Thanks for the suggestions. I appreciate it.

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I have two average eaters, and one picky eater. The picky one, Eric, would have a diet whittled down to very little if I followed his lead.

What we do in this house is this: food is never an issue. Kids also don't get to dictate what is served. I serve a wide variety of foods each day, put reasonable portions of everything on everyone's plate (whether they like it or not), and set it in front of them. They are allowed to ask for more of something (which they get if they are sampling the other items as well), and tell me when they are done. Sometimes (rarely) someone won't eat anything. And that's fine! I don't offer substitutes, and they are allowed to get down from the table. I do try to make at least part of each meal with something that I know they will like.

We also eat very little fast food - maybe a few times a year (or freezer food for that matter, ie. processed in any way).

We don't ask them to try the food, take just one bite, etc. If someone is eating only part of the meal and asking for more of something else, we will ask them to eat a little of the remaining foods before getting a second helping of the desired food.

So food is not an issue in this house, because I won't let it become that. I refuse to take on that battle. Eric is small - always has been. About the 10% for both height and weight. And that's fine! He is the pickiest, which is also fine, but it doesn't mean I cater to him in any way.

Good luck!

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I've got 4 kids and two picky eaters and two slow gainers. Brilee has almost always been small (somehow she was 12lbs at 2mo, but went down from there). We tried everything to curb picky eating (I was so convinced that it was a learned habit). We would make her sit at the table until she ate, she would purposely lay her head down and fall asleep. We tried putting food back in the fridge until they were hungry, yeah, at 3-4 she went 16hrs without eating and started vomiting (two different occasions). We tried asking her to try one bite, etc. Nothing. My girl is sooo stubborn! Finally we decided it was not worth the battle. However, I am not a short order cook. I cook a meal, and if she does not like it, she can make her own dinner (she really cannot go without eating, I just think that is mean, and she sometimes cries wondering why she is so picky). Which usually means cold cereal or pb&j. At 2 we were told she needed to be fattened up, but of course, the healthy fats. We did Ovaltine in all milk (I have compared with carnation nutritionally, almost exactly the same, but ovaltine is cheaper), and did full fat yogurt and milk, etc. You have to look harder for it, but it is available. We put lots of butter on bread, etc. She was not as tiny as Sarafina, but has never gone above the 30%, usually more in the teens to twenties.

Tucker is a great eater, always eats anything, rarely refuses to try anything and has always been in the 60%+.

Wyatt is good, he's 30% weight now, but 65% height, but the kid is PICKY! He is so much like Brilee, even worse than she was at his age, so I worry. There is no convincing him to try anything at all. I just offer healthy food (we really buy very little junk food, boxed dinners, frozen prepared meals, fast food, etc). If he doesn't want to eat, I don't force it. But he's not tiny either.

Abram, the kid eats anything. He is a very good eater, asks for food, eats more than Wyatt (typically) and he just barely finally made it on the chart in the 7%. We still do Ovaltine, etc. But our ped seems less worried about it (different ped than I had with Brilee, due to distance when we moved across town). Abram follows his curve okay, though we did have some worries at some point. All of my kids have been grazers, and our ped has said that is okay.

I don't know how my cousin's little one survives. I watche her 2-3 times a week, and she really eats next to nothing, and they were worried about milk allergies (she had them as a baby) so cut that out for a bit, and now she is refusing that too. But she comes her happy, she plays, giggles, talks, etc. She is obviously fine. She does not look unhealthy and has energy, I think those are more important to look at than actual size.

Hugs to you Mel, and you too Sheila!

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Oh, and when I saw the post title, I thought, Oh good, I'm not the only one gaining weight. bahaha! lol

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

Oh, and when I saw the post title, I thought, Oh good, I'm not the only one gaining weight. bahaha! lol

Lol that was a well needed chuckle;)

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

Oh, and when I saw the post title, I thought, Oh good, I'm not the only one gaining weight. bahaha! lol

ROFL

We are not short order cooks in our house either. Sarafina is just not adventurous. She has never, ever been on the growth chart and probably never will be. She has a petite mom, grandmother, and great-grandmother. She has a cousin who is Isaiah's age, who also is not on the growth chart. It is simply how she is built. However, I want to do my best to keep her on her curve. I am just looking for other ways to feed her things she likes when I can and any ideas to help me find new foods for her to try.

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I feel like cheese is every food's best friend. And I'm pretty sure I'll never have an underweight problem as a result! I was just thinking, do you have a cheese store or fancy cheese section at the grocery sp Sarafine could try a bunch of different kinds? My nieces surprise me with all the cheeses they're into. One was begging for gruyere when she was 2. Anyway, I know I will eat a thousand more vegetables or pieces of whatever with extra cheese.
mmm, cheese. I think I'll make some eggs with feta when I'm done pumping.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

I feel like cheese is every food's best friend. And I'm pretty sure I'll never have an underweight problem as a result! I was just thinking, do you have a cheese store or fancy cheese section at the grocery sp Sarafine could try a bunch of different kinds? My nieces surprise me with all the cheeses they're into. One was begging for gruyere when she was 2. Anyway, I know I will eat a thousand more vegetables or pieces of whatever with extra cheese.
mmm, cheese. I think I'll make some eggs with feta when I'm done pumping.

Now I want cheese, good thing there's some baby bells in the fridge.

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One more tip that helps with DS - try dipping sauces! If he can dip it in something he's MUCH more willing to try a new food. ketchup, syrup, honey, sour cream, salsa, fruit dips, mustard, hummus, anything you can think of!

And Cheese is one of my favorites too! Smile Maybe try sprinkled cheese on veggies, pasta?

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Ha! The dipping thing can help. My picky daughter is so not a condiment fan. But I remember when she was about 4, and I was talking to her about maybe putting something on her mashed potatoes to help her like them, I was thinking, you know, ranch dressing. I asked her what she thought might entice her to eat them, she sweetly said, "maybe frosting?" lol

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So my girls didnt hit 10lbs until 4 months and now at 6lbs they weigh awhole 12lbs each! We had to start supplementing formula after the 4month appt because the ped was not happy with their growth, but he was happy to see 12lbs @ the 6 month appt. I dont have any answers as we arent even on the charts, but I just think twins can be slow growers!

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

Ha! The dipping thing can help. My picky daughter is so not a condiment fan. But I remember when she was about 4, and I was talking to her about maybe putting something on her mashed potatoes to help her like them, I was thinking, you know, ranch dressing. I asked her what she thought might entice her to eat them, she sweetly said, "maybe frosting?" lol

Lol Frosting! I love it! While I don't think it would taste good on mashed potatoes, I like the idea of frosting in general. Yum!

Oh, and I have gained weight in the last year. GRRRR!!!! I just have not been able to work out as much. I am trying to work out 4 times a week. It is helping some. However, my love of sweets really does not help!

"bamsmom" wrote:

So my girls didnt hit 10lbs until 4 months and now at 6lbs they weigh awhole 12lbs each! We had to start supplementing formula after the 4month appt because the ped was not happy with their growth, but he was happy to see 12lbs @ the 6 month appt. I dont have any answers as we arent even on the charts, but I just think twins can be slow growers!

Yay for 12 pounds!!! Smile Keira is a fantastic eater. She is growing well and is staying on her curve. She is about 4 pounds heavier than Sarafina at this point. Sarafina's feet didn't even grow much between August and March. I took Keira in and she went up a full size. Sarafina got to keep her current shoes because they still fit. I know she is going to grow a lot slower because she was like that in the womb, and that is the reason we delivered early. I just wish she would eat a little more. Biggrin Cottage cheese is our friend. She eats that like crazy. She did like the homemade guacamole that my DH made last week. I also bought some Carnation Instant Breakfast. We shall see what she does with that. I plan to use just a little bit to start and increase it slowly every day. She will only get that at home though. I don't want to send it to daycare.