"It Gets Easier!"

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"It Gets Easier!"

As of today, I'm a SIX MONTH SURVIVOR!!!

All I have to say is holy. effing. shoot. this is hard. We managed a completely exhausting day trip to a friend's wedding this weekend. We arrived 4 minutes before the ceremony, none of us dressed and half of us in dirty diapers, and guess what ... diapers changed, babies in cute outfits, adults looking somewhat put together after flashing everyone on the sidewalk ... we made it on time. There was a big cushy chair in a nook off of the restroom, but also a smelly homeless person living there, so I did my nursing in public and it all worked out okay. We missed the between-ceremony-and-dinner fun in lieu of screaming and pumping, but we made it to the deliciously fun dinner with smiles and babies and even managed to have fun with friends and soak in some of the oohs and aahs over the babies. So yes, we're alive and surviving, though I wouldn't exactly say thriving, and we're working on the next leg of the journey to "it gets easier!"

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Yay, you made it Yahoo :yahoo: I can't believe they are 6 months. Our babies are growing way too fast :(. I bet when they were born you didn't believe you'd make it to 6 months. I sure didn't. I thought I'd have a nervous break down by then. I got a chuckle out of your wedding story. I have my brothers wedding in August and I'm scared to death to take them! And they'll be 11 months by then. Good for you for going. Now you have soilds feedings and the threat of mobility to look forward to Smile I will say this, I find them much easier now. We have a solid schedule and it's nice to have a break from bfing (although Brad would be equally happy with just boob) and they are starting to play with each other. Except for them not STTN, that still sucks. Don't get me wrong, I still have my break downs (had one yesterday over a spoon fight with kaylee...and she won, my 8 month old is stronger then me!) but I am finding it easier to get out and know more how to keep them happy and entertained. Here's to the next 6 months Smile

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I'm censoring Facebook comments on this matter.

Here's what I don't need: advice from parents of just singletons and/or "encouragement" that ends in any sort of "just you wait!" type of comment. You know what? I like kids, I'm freakin' awesome at handling preteens, it's this baby crap that's impossible, so just quit telling me how effing difficult your ONE child is and what I have to look forward to!

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I almost lost it one day when a friend of mine made her BF come home because she was stressed out and needed a nap. She had one baby and he was maybe 2 weeks old. All they do is eat/poop/sleep at that point. Hence why me and fb are on a break. I was getting so mad at the singleton moms. I rather come here and complain to you ladies!

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Like.

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Know what I hate...when MILs try to tell you how to get you babies STTN because they had 4 kids close together and they were all STTN at 6 weeks.

Do I sound bitter?!

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My twins just turned 4 and their younger sister is 13 mos behind them. I don't know about "easier" since you just get new and different challenges. (Though no more diapers is awesome!) I can say that more nights than not we get 4+ hours of sleep in a row. As for a night of uninterrupted sleep? I honestly can't remember the last time that happened.

Easier is relative ~

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I agree that easier is relative. I think that it gets easier in the sense that they become less physically dependent on you and can do things for themselves. That part is easier. The emotional demands are draining. The tantrums because they want to be independent and still cannot completely express their needs makes me want to run away and never come back. Seriously...the other day I was dreaming of a vacation without my kids. I think my DH and I need it. However, we don't have anyone to watch the kids, and I am not sure we can afford it. Sad

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Love this convo, and keep wanting to "like" it. lol. Smile

And yeah, it is not any easier yet, just different challenges. I don't have as physically demanding twins, but they are still often very clingy whenever I want to get anything done, they are extremely destructive (not purposefully always, just toddler curiosity x2), and yes, the toddler tantrums are not so fun either, times two.

and Mel, I hear ya, I would love a weekend away, but my dad and his wife have said they can do one night, which is better than nothing, but with travel time, yeah.. and I'm certainly not getting any other volunteers. Sad

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Well, I'm ready for different challenges then. Babies are not my thing and pumping every effing three hours around the clock is most definitely not my thing.

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I am not much of a baby person myself.

The twins are getting close to a year now (11 mo on the 11th) and I am starting to enjoy them more. It started to change for me when they got around 9mo. They start getting separation anxiety around this time and it finally feels like you are mom instead of just the caretaker. They have a personality, are mobile and have a preference for you (with smiles, hugs and kisses).

It still is a lot of work, just more enjoyable for me now. I am hoping it will continue this way as they age.

I know I enjoy my daughter more and more every day and she is almost three.

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I LOVE the baby stage. My babes are 9 months and I am so sad. But Jennie is right that it gets more fun. They are now very clingy to me and as much I might complain about it I secretly love how much they want me. When I am feeding one, the other is always right there wanting up. I tried to tandem but they keep just trying to get rid of the other! As much as I love and miss the infant stage I am loving the kisses and their excitement to see me.

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Thank you all for posting. I am just finishing up my first trimester with twins and I have a big mountain to climb. Hope our family and marriage will make it.

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"neoncandle" wrote:

Thank you all for posting. I am just finishing up my first trimester with twins and I have a big mountain to climb. Hope our family and marriage will make it.

Oh dear God, please stop reading this ... Year One is a trainwreck.

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Like!

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"triplespiral" wrote:

Oh dear God, please stop reading this ... Year One is a trainwreck.

The most rewarding trainwreck EVER!