go on a date with your so/spouse?
Before the twins we went more often, but still maybe once a month or so. It was much easier to get a family member to babysit so we could go when it was two kids. And I don't think its even the four kids that is the deterrent (so many large families in my family), its the twins. I have offered babysitting swaps with family members and friends, and no one ever takes me up on it. I think babysitting baby/toddler twins is just too much.
That said, we went on a date tonight, my good friend (mother of 5 kids from 10mo-8.5yrs) watched her five and our four. The babes did fine, and I am so grateful to her and her dh for watching them. Next week we are watching their 5 so they can go out. But we have to drive 45min to their house, so its not super convenient, but I just can't seem to get a sitter otherwise.
There are some teenage girls around here that I know are trustworthy, but I worry about leaving them with two babies, if they both start screaming and crying, I just don't know if a teenager would handle it well. There are even a few sisters, I thought of having two sitters, but then I have to pay two sitters and pay for the date, and well, that sure gets costly. I don't even know the going rate for teenage sitters, but it ain't cheap. lol.
So it just got me thinking about it... did you date more before twins?