Oh the screaming!!! This is the absolute one thing I dislike about being a MoM. My girls feed off each other and when one starts yelling or crying, the other finds a way to chime in. It grates on my last nerve. I have found myself counting and taking deep breaths quite often. I have had to leave the room and I even ended up telling my girls to stop it this morning. I feel like I lose my patience with all of my kids so easily anymore. It just isn't typical of me, but there are moments where I really feel like my head will explode if someone throws one more tantrum or keeps whining. Please tell me that what I feel is normal. I feel awful. I try really hard to focus on all the fun things with the girls. I enjoy all of their new words and the new things they are learning. I try to have fun with them. I just find it all really overwhelming. Sometimes, more overwhelming than the newborn stage. When I have both of them fighting for my lap (and then big brother jumps in the mix) and both are sending board book missiles across the room because they are frustrated, it feels like a danger zone (for all of us) sometimes.
Well, it is normal in my world too! Ha, sorry you are having a rough time. I honestly think the kids are the most fun now (3) but they are also the most challenging they have ever been. Both DH and I have talked about how we lose our cool and yell at them and how we hate it. I find myself walking away too sometimes to another room to cool off. You are not alone!!
I had the worst day the other day and my DH was at work. He called home and I was crying. Explained the day. He was sympathetic. He called back 2 hours later and said, "Are you still crying?" Yes! Hahah! It was just one of those days. And then they do something that melts your heart and you can't believe you just wanted to kill them a second ago!
Everyone says it gets better and better..it does, but some days.....boy!
I loved age 3 with my DS too. I have to say that age 4 was my favorite. It will definitely get better. I chant that on a daily basis. However, when you are in the middle of it, it is so hard to look forward to the days when life will be a tad more calm. My poor DS too. He is just in the midst of toddler chaos.
I think the challenge from here on out really is how to discipline twins. I have already started some time outs, but the other doesn't realize what that means. One day, Keira was in time out, and Sarafina was bringing her a baby doll and stroking her leg while K screamed bloody murder. Such a sweet sister, too bad mommy thinks you need to get away from your sister.
Here is a for your stressful day!
I found 3 so much harder than 2. I remember the days being soooooo long at that age. And soooooo frustrating some days!
I absolutely love this age now (they'll be 5 in two months). As they get older it's different challenges but they are much easier for me to handle.
And mine always do that in time out. They will be fighting like cats and dogs, then one gets put in time out and the other one is trying to go comfort the one in trouble!
Oh yeah, this is normal. So is the guilt! I feel guilty all the time for losing my patience, raising my voice, getting angry and frustrated, etc. I crave peace and quiet nowadays because it is always so loud! I feel like someone is always yelling, demanding something, whining, crying, or even just shrieking with delight. I just feel overwhelmed and overstimulated a lot of the times, and it is so tough. When they are sweet to each other or their baby brother it is just so precious, but then they will start fighting with each other and screaming and it just all starts over again!
I truly believe it will get better, that's what keeps me going! My niece is five and is now a lot of fun to be around. I think that's a great age and one I am looking forward to. I don't mean to wish the next few years away, and I try to make sure I enjoy as much of it as I can. But man, they do not make it easy sometimes!
Overwhelmed and overstimulated is a great way to describe it. There are times I really just need for it to be quiet because I cannot even think straight. Is it bad that I have been looking forward to age 5 since before the twins were born? Honestly, I love every stage for something and I love my kiddos, but rational thought and language are such great developments.
You are right, I do absolutely love how caring and thoughtful my twins can be, and I know this is typical among all of our multiples. They soothe each other when they are upset, share food with each other, and play with each other. Those things are so precious. Plus, my girls learning to give all of us kisses is just wonderful. Now, if we could have more of that and less of the screaming and whining, life would be grand!
Oh Mel... I know how you feel! Every day I am frustrated, and it just feels like they will be this age FOREVER. Right now, they like climbing up on the window sil from the couch, and because we are in a tiny hotel room, we have nowhere else to PUT the couch, so I am constantly pulling them down, and every day at least one of them gets hurt from falling or trying to climb up. I just can't keep up with it all the time. It's driving me crazy!
Not to mention that I have next to no time to sit down with either of them and teach them anything. I'm so worried they aren't learning anything, because I'm constantly just trying to keep up. GAH!
It will get better. That's what we have to keep telling ourselves. Ugh. It's so hard though. Keep your spirits high. If you have to take a time out, you have to. I sometimes just put them in a play yard so I can have a minute!! But the play yards are where they sleep so I don't like to do this often...
OMGosh yes! I feel like this too!
Keira is climbing up on our kitchen chairs. We obviously cannot get rid of them or move them, so I cannot really stop her. She fell the other day and hit her head hard on our wood floor. Sometimes, I am just not sure how to keep them safe. It was so much easier with one. I envision crayon markings and marker drawings on my walls in the near future.
As for one-on-one time and teaching them things, I am so with you. I feel horrible that my girls do not yet know how to count or the start of learning their letters. My DS could count to 5 or 10 at this age and knew some letters. My girls just don't seem to pick it up like he did, but they also don't get the attention either. They fight over my lap and I can never seem to satisfy them. I know that will get better. I also know we need to plan more one-on-one time at night, but it is hard with working full-time. Splitting three kids among two parents is really challenging.
I cannot imagine living in a hotel room and managing twins. You are doing marvelous. Do you have room for a superyard in that room? From the pictures, it doesn't look like it, but that is one way to contain the twins with some toys without putting them in their pack-n-plays. That would probably mean folding up the PnPs though. Just a thought.