Moms of same sex twins/triplets

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Moms of same sex twins/triplets

At what point, if ever, did you see an increase in your twins wanting to wear the same clothes or have the same things as their twin? I am trying to prepare for the eventual meltdowns. ROFL The girls are wanting to switch cribs and high chairs right now. They have not asked to wear the same outfit as their sister, but I know it has to be coming. After all, they are girls! Ha! I do not buy the same shirts or pants for the girls ever and I am afraid that this will cause an issue in the coming year. I assume it will hit full force by age 3. Of course, it could never happen. After all, their normal is that they do not ever match. Who knows?

Joined: 06/04/07
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What, they're not running to their dressers and pulling out exactly what they want to wear?!???!! You're lucky (for now)! The cribs and beds were always assigned to a specific child and they never challenged that, but we stuck them in the highchairs randomly until they learned to climb up themselves. They're the ones who established who's chair was who's. They haven't fought over chairs or toys though. But clothes... ugh. We have tons of clothes where they all coordinate but aren't the same and tons that are the same. When coordinating, they can fight as to who gets to wear what (including our 3 yr old as they are all now wearing the same sizes for most of their clothes). When all wearing the same, no one argues. I'm thinking they currently prefer it this way. But with coordinating, the one who cooperates in getting dressed first gets to pick their outfit first. By the third kid, even if they're throwing a fit for not wanting to wear what they were given but wanted to wear what the first one chose, they're usually putting the outfit they were given within 5 minutes after making nice threats of what the consequences will be if they're not dressed (or cooperating with assisting them to get dressed) within a certain time. Why can't they just wear underwear all of the time? Wait, they argue about that, too. *Sigh* Yeah, sometimes having the same clothes have their perks.

Joined: 01/25/02
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Well since mine match some of the time, they do like to match, but they don't demand to be matching either. But they do fight over (sometimes) who is wearing what. Usually I can find something similar to soothe the other yet undressed child (like two monster shirts). With their toddler beds, we didn't give them a certain bed, and just watched which one they gravitated towards. Almost immediately Abram picked the train bed and Wyatt went for the firetruck bed, and I can't get them to sleep in the other's bed for anything (mostly trying to get Bram to sleep with Wyatt instead of on the floor, a nightmare of a phone ringing in his bed keeps him from sleeping in it for about a week now, but he plays on it no problem. lol).

But yeah, mine are boys and already want what the other is wearing. lol

Joined: 04/09/06
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I will say that I pick out their clothes before they are even out of the crib most mornings. That might be helping my cause. Biggrin They also cannot open their dresser drawers because they are too heavy. So, for right now, I have it made. I don't see it lasting long though and I kind of wonder if I should be planning ahead with some matching shirts for the spring and summer.

Joined: 01/25/02
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Well, maybe you could buy a few matching things, but don't let them see them both together, because you may get lucky. Smile If you end up with two and don't need them, give the extra set for a bday present for a friend or something. Smile

We don't have a dresser, just a bin for pjs and the rest hung in the closet, so they can see what is there and tell me no to so many things I suggest. lol.

Joined: 06/04/07
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I would just start with two of the same shirts and give them to both at the same time to see how they react. If they love that they are wearing the same thing, I would then get more outfits that they can wear together. My girls love pointing out pairs of anything (objects, patterns, etc) they see two of and call them twins. I don't know if this is part of how they're identifying themselves or with J identifying her younger sisters.