Mothers of Multiples

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Mothers of Multiples

How many here participate in a local group for Mothers of Mulitiples (MoM)? I never knew there was a group in our area until last spring and had registered for the first time in May. But at ours, they (mothers only) meet once a month with guest speakers and create outings for the kids to get together to play and families to get to know each other better. They also hold special garage sales twice a year where MoM members have first divvies on the items before it's opened to the public. I was amazed this resource is out there!

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I debated joining the local group when I was pregnant, but I just wasn't so sure about how it all worked. They did contact me and sent me their newsletter for awhile. I probably should find the info and contact them again. However, I am not sure I have the time to really engage with them, and that would make me sad.

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I'm pregnant and joined a parents of multiples club here. There are a few around where I live, actually. A couple of them seemed to be aimed only at stay-at-home-moms looking for commercial auditions and that didn't seem like a very useful resource for me. The one I joined has informational meetings for expectant parents, guest speaker meetings, clothing exchange gatherings, parties for the entire group, and play groups organized by the multiples' birthdays (there are something like 20 families in the July 2011-December 2011 group). I'm overwhelmed by some of what I see on their online resource (for instance, apparently the super-rich pay their nannies far more than I earn in a year) but there seems to be a huge amount of support for multiples families of every sort.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

I'm overwhelmed by some of what I see on their online resource (for instance, apparently the super-rich pay their nannies far more than I earn in a year) but there seems to be a huge amount of support for multiples families of every sort.

Isn't that mind-boggling? Why didn't we all become nannies to the super-rich? ROFL I hope that the other offerings provide you with some resources and support. It is nice to belong to a group where the other mothers understand what it is like to be a parent to multiples. That is why I love this forum. There aren't many others that really know what it is like when you are in the thick of it.

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There is a local group here, and it's quite big and active but I haven't joined it. For whatever reason, I have no interest. Not sure why. Smile

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"Stompin" wrote:

There is a local group here, and it's quite big and active but I haven't joined it. For whatever reason, I have no interest. Not sure why. Smile

Well, I know for me, it is just another obligation. I will feel like I need to participate or go to events. We are already so busy that to add more seems irresponsible. So, I have moments where I think about joining and think better of it.

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I've gone to a couple meetings (not obligated) and the feeling I got was more of some "me" time without the kids without feeling like I'm adding so much more to my plate. I left there feeling more relaxed than when I arrived. I haven't participated in selling items at their garage sales (one's tonight so you know where I'll be!) because it's been way too busy to sort and price appropriately or just too exhausted to be motivated to add that to our list. We've been too busy to go to the family gatherings, but it would be kind of fun since there's twin girls who were due the same day mine were that are two weeks older that I wouldn't mind the girls meeting.

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"melnzai" wrote:

Well, I know for me, it is just another obligation. I will feel like I need to participate or go to events. We are already so busy that to add more seems irresponsible. So, I have moments where I think about joining and think better of it.

That about sums it up for me. Smile I have gone to the yard sale they have and bought a fair amount of stuff, nice to find twin stuff for a deal. Smile I thought about joining, but really, I am such a homebody that I probably would not go to a whole lot. Smile I will sell stuff there eventually, but need to be sure I am done having kiddos before doing so. But it makes me sad just thinking about selling my baby items.

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

. But it makes me sad just thinking about selling my baby items.

Ha! It is the oppposite for me. I cannot get rid of it fast enough. I am giving it away. ROFL Partly because I just don't have the time to sell it. We have a bunch of clothes I need to take to Goodwill or the local pregnancy crisis center.

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Mel, I went to yard sale more than a few years ago, probably 5yrs ago now, and I was looking at her little girl items for my little girl, the lady was telling me, "my daughter wore that for her 1st grade photo", "she LOVED that shirt", "she wore this for ____". And I bought some stuff from her, and my sis and I talked about how sad the lady was to part with the stuff, and we both decided we would be the same way. I sometimes see hoarder tendencies, lol, because clothes and items hold so many memories for me. Thankfully I have got to see two nieces and a cousin wear some of Brilee's things, and it makes me happy to see other family members wearing things she wore, and I love seeing the twins wear things Tuck wore as well, but selling them just breaks my heart. I hate to think of getting rid of them. Most I think I will pass on to family members (I am the 2nd of 8 kids) and dh has 7 younger sibs as well, but the twin stuff I think I will sell, because I can get some more money for it. We'll see. I'm just sad to see my child bearing years be done. Wink

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Oh, things definitely hold memories for me. I choose to keep a few things, like a cute outfit that reminds me of something. I just know that we will have years and years of memories to make with each other. I am just really ready to move forward with my family. I am looking forward to the things I can do with older kids. For whatever reason, I am just done with babies. I love them, but I just don't want any more myself. I feel complete. So, it isn't as hard to part with stuff now like it was with just my DS. I had a hard time giving his clothes away. There were shirts or outfits that I just loved and hated to part with.

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I'm still having a hard time packing clothes in what to keep and what to get rid of. I keep looking at a onesie and how cute it was on them and then think, I could save it and make a quilt for them with all my favs! I thought the same thing with my older ones, so I've kept many of their fav tshirts, but have I done them? Heck no. I've also hung onto their really good dresses, the classic ones that you still see in stores today. I'm sure I'll do the same with these kiddos so their kids can wear a couple outfits they used to wear. And then I think, well my older kids could have kids in 5 years... It's hard to let them go! Irrational, right?

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Sorry Mel, not totally what I meant. Wink Of course you have memories of certain things. I just see myself in those hoarder episodes sometimes... holding onto things because it feels like getting rid of them gets rid of the memories. I have sooo much stuff, and I come from a long line of hoarders. lol

And Tracey, not too irrational. My mom had 8 kids, there are about 17 years from first to last, and she kept lots of clothes that most of us wore, especially the nice dresses. And it has been so fun to see Brilee wear what were some of my favorite dresses. She wears them long after they really fit (thankfully long dresses were in in the late 70s early 80s) but I think she loves knowing I wore them, and I love seeing her in them. Smile