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    Default New here, boy/girl twins (feeding issues)

    Hi, wanted to introduce myself. I just gave birth to boy/girl twins last Monday (9/24), I can't believe they're a week old now.

    My daughter was born at 5 lbs. 3 oz. & lost some birth weight. We've been trying hard to get her drink more but it's been difficult. Trying some tricks we read online for NICU/Preemie babies, seems to help a bit but not always. She goes back on Saturday for another weight check, hoping she's gaining weight.

    Has anyone ever had one twin smaller than other? I did see online that Similac has a "NeoSure" formula.
    Do you think maybe we need special bottles/nipples for her?

    Right now we are doing some breastfeeding but more formula feeding. Feeds seem to take forever...
    Please someone tell me it gets easier...

    The main thing I am worried about is soon I have to start taking kids to school, no more help at home. Its 1/2 hour round trip via stroller/walking. Just worried about if they wake up hungry or if I started a feed & time's run out.

    Do I just let them cry till I'm back?

    P.S. Grateful my MIL is here but she leaves in 2 weeks. My Mom is not speaking to me. She dislikes newborns, picked a fight soon as I got home from the hospital. She did this when I had my son too (long story). So I rather not call her for her help.
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    Jen, as you know I don't have twins but Robbie was a preemie and tiny (4.12) and had issues eating at first, falling asleep, not latching (both breast and bottle), within 2 weeks he was downing the bottle with no issues. It took him 10 days to get back to birth weight so hang in there.
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    Whew, that's good to hear! She looks like she's filling out a bit, face wise, coloring, etc. I'll be looking forward to her downing down a bottle!

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    Hi Jen!

    Congrats! Bella was 2 pounds 14 ounces, 6 ounces smaller then her twin. She was exclusively nursed once we came home (Bottles of BM in the NICU), except for one bottle of BM at bedtime until she was 4 months and wouldn't take the bottle anymore. Have you tried Nipple shields? I used them for both kids until 4 months. They worked wonders!

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    Congratulations! It does indeed get easier. It won't seem like it yet but it does!

    My daughter also lost a lot of weight at first. Born 6 lb 10 oz and was 5 lb 9 oz when we left the hospital 48 hours later. We had several weight checks and I think it was about three weeks before she hit her birth weight again. Her doctor never recommended and we never tried a high-calorie formula like Neosure. It just took a little time to get on track. Do keep an eye on the weight though. I feel like at-home scales are probably the worst idea ever for people like me who would have obsessed over it, but I checked her weekly at a breastfeeding support group and that's how we caught her slipping into a failure to thrive situation a couple of months later.

    As far as bottles and nipples go, use whatever works! We have had to switch nipple types several times, I mean, in addition to upping the flow as she got older. For a while she liked the Avent bottles, but that was short-lived. We sometimes used Evenflo nipples but mostly used preemie Dr Browns nipples on my Medela bottles at that point (and the same bottles with Dr Browns size 4 now). Meanwhile, her brother, who was born a little longer but who weighed a little less at birth, grew like a weed. He has been on the charts (15th %ile or so) forever, but she has yet to make it on the charts. At 10 months, he's 19 lbs and she's 15 lbs.

    She had difficulty latching and I despite LOADS of effort for 14 weeks, that just didn't happen for us so I pumped and supplemented for the first couple of months, then just pumped (for her, my son could latch), and recently started supplementing again since she doesn't take solids yet and I'm so over pumping. At this point for you and for a couple of months really, feeds just do take forever. It's so hard, I know. It was so much harder and so much more time consuming than I ever expected (every minute of every day unless you really set out to do something else occasionally like eat a bite of food or take a shower -- and that never seems to total more than a few minutes total each day and the babes cry through it. I know, it sucks.) But it really does get easier one day! Just keep on surviving! As for the walks to school, do what you have to do, the babies will be fine. For my family, we found it worked well to record all their feedings for the first weeks just so we know they ate enough and who I fed last, etc. We actually still now record all of my girly's meals since she has had issues and we want to track patterns that have been associated with formula intolerance. Maybe you can try writing down their feedings just so you can feel more confident that you have fed them enough even with your walks. And the walks are good for all of you!

    Unfortunately, my daughter continues to have feeding issues at 10 months so I can't say what normal will be, but I hope things go more smoothly for you and your girly soon!

    And I wanted to add that you'll find calculations and formulas for how much they should be eating and how fast they should be eating and how much they can take at a time ... but realize that your girly will likely be different and once her weight is climbing back up, try not to listen to people (other than the pediatrician!) who say that a baby should be taking an 8-oz bottle by a certain age (I'll tell you my girly takes 2-3 oz at a time now) or that they need X number of ounces at a certain weight.

    Anyway, I wrote too much.

    Congratulations!
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    We seem to be having a better day today, she took 2 oz earlier which is better than 1.

    Heather, thanks for the suggestion, my problem right now is finding time to even breastfeed & pump, with 2 older kids and my MIL here it's been crazy... but I'm determined and told everyone I need more *privacy* time. So off I go to use my pump that surprisingly still works great from when I had my other son five years ago.
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    Yes! It gets better! Kay has always been at least 2 lbs smaller then Brad. She had reflux horribly and it hindered her weight gain. Establishing bfing is hard. I tell everyone, get to six weeks, something happens and it gets easier
    And set mini goals (make it six weeks, then 3 months, then 6 so on) that helped a lot. Once it get to six months it seems second nature and a lot easier because you are not their primary food source anymore. Kay had a lazy latch and it was painful, but I keep at it and my nipples ended up getting use to it. She still had a horrible latch but we are used to it know.

    I don't envy you right now, the first month is hell. But you'll make it through. With every stage comes new challenges but it does get easier. Do what you can to survive because that is all that matters right.

    Congrats again.
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    Quick update: Fae gained weight this week, yay! She's now 5 lbs. 6 oz., which is super. We're very happy about that. Next up, is getting a double stroller, DH wants to get the Bugaboo Donkey but it's out of stock right now (they changed the frame on it).
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    I feel your pain girl! Well, I can say I am still balancing everything in between feedings. However, going back to work and trying to get out the door at a certain time is quite a challenge. I also have a kindergartener and so I understand that aspect too. So let's start with her feedings... Neosure is a little heavier in calories so if your concerned about weight gain, you could talk to your pediatrician about that one. I dont know specifically what your little ones health status is (nicu, apnea, etc) but my pediatrician said as long as they are gaining weight, they will have their feedings where they eat good and some not so good (ie spitting up or not finishing their bottle)... on the flip side, in the beginning Anthony was not eating enough - hardly any really- this was in the NICU and they were concerned about him getting dehydrated, losing more weight, etc and decided that they would give him a gavage (sp?) tube for whatever he didnt eat - for example if he was told he had to have 20ml but only ate 10, they would put the rest through the tube. So I guess it really depends. I would say if you are really concerned push up your appt. If not, just continue to try to encourage feedings by sort of tickling the chin, maybe offer her extra feedings (like we are on a 2.5-3 hours schedule but I feed both at the same time) and maybe try a different bottle/nipple?

    I can say that everyone here says it gets better... for me, I can attest that it hasnt changed much (mine are just over 2 months) but its gotten better bc I have gotten into a routine and therefore, things have gotten easier. I have had many days where I am wondering how I will get through and do certain things, certain activities and so far, I have managed lol... although there is still a long road ahead haha I just keep thinking of other women (here) can do it, I can!

    I dont know if that helped but hopefully you will get in a routine soon and things will get easier!
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    She's feeding so much better now, taking in 3 ounces.

    I was wondering if you've gone back to work by now. Are you doing a school drop off in the mornings too with the twins? I was reading online last night about doing the "car seat" trick, feeding them at the same time that is. I think that's a huge challenge, when they both wake up and want to be fed at the same time.
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