Yup! We never get offers to babysit, and I almost have to beg for help. I like to volunteer in my older kids classes at school, and thankfully I can usually talk my mom into coming once a month.. but even that is iffy. I have finally started scheduling things during naptime so it is less intimidating to whomever I can talk into doing it (usually my mom or step-mom)... but yeah...
We do have a family we swap babysitting with, they have 5 kids (9,7,5,3,1) and we have our 4 (9,7,2,2)... so its about even really. But they live 45min away, but we drive it, because we want to get our date night, and it won't happen otherwise. Even when I vent to all my family about how no one will babysit and we never get to go out.
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
I still get sad about not enjoying the infant stage. I am very jealous of seeing new first time moms with their singleton saying how wonderful it is and how much they love it. Don't get me wrong, I love my children more than anything in the world, but I did not enjoy when they were infants. I look back at pictures and feel like I was a zombie during their early months. I did what I could do to get by and really wish I could have taken time to enjoy it. I don't think that anyone other than a mom of multiples would understand the feelings of guilt. There were so many days I wished I could have had them one at a time to enjoy them as infants.
But I wouldn't trade it for the world now that they are 5 years old. It truly does get easier and so much more enjoyable once you are out of that baby stage. Its awesome to watch them together - they really have such a special bond. And its so much easier beacuse they have each other - they can play for hours together without even needing me. Just know that it does get easier and every mom of multiples has been there whether they will admit it or not
Sean and Emma 10/24/06
Just today, DH grandma was taking about how she took DH cousins baby for a week and I chimed in "wanna takes ours!". I got straight out "NO". I guess because we have two, we will never get babysitters. The envy/resentment just keeps getting worse.
I hear you Krista.
Yesterday my sister texted me to say she got over 8 hours of sleep the night before and had to go check on the baby to make sure he was OK. I try to be happy for her but it is sooo hard. I am so jealous of her right not. Her baby is 10 WEEKS OLD and slept through the night. I can't remember the last time I had 8 hours of sleep. It must have been the early stages of being pregnant with the twins because I wasn't very pregnant when I started having to get up multiple times in the night to pee. My twins are 9mo old and one is still not sleeping through the night.
I haven't posted here in quite a while, but hopped on today. I totally understand how you guys feel. I would give anything to know what a singleton pregnancy is like, let alone the joy, ease, etc of only caring for one baby. I am lucky in that my mom and sister are willing to watch my trio, but they are 1500 miles away so :/. We did just get back from a short vacation with them and they gave us a night off, but coming home and it being just me again...UGH!! I just wanted to say thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in feeling this way.
Steph - so good to hear from you
I have been wondering how it has been goign for you. I can't imagine how hard it is for you with three. There is so much of a difference between one to two, I just simply cannot imagine three.