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    Quote Originally Posted by isuche02 View Post
    I have singleton jealously a lot. I only wanted maybe one more baby and I wasn't even 100% sure I wanted one more and I got two. It has completely turned my life inside out and it is very difficult for me to handle at times. It's really bad when I see my sister. She just had a baby and her daughter is 10. She can go and do whatever she wants. Relatives and other's don't mind watching her baby and daughter for her and helping her out. She has it so easy and I am so envious. When people see me coming with a toddler and twin baby's they run. My mom tells me - I just can't handle all three of them, i don't know how you do it - so I never get a break besides at work. However, my sister makes it a habit to drop off her baby at mom's and do whatever she wants. Hugh!


    On top of it my sister and her husband wanted to have another baby but now my sister doesn't want to attempt it for fear she might have twins. She has seen what it has done to my life and doesn't even want to risk it. Of course her husband is not happy about it, he wants at least one more. So that will be an interesting battle.

    I try to keep the jealousy down to a minimum. I can't imagine not having one of my babies. I love them both. I know if I didn't have twins I wouldn't have had all three of them so I know I was meant to have them but it is just hard right now. I so look forward to the point where Izzie is 5 and the boys are 3. Then life can slow down some but right now I am very ready to get to that point.
    THIS. We get this all the time. DHs sister had a baby and his parents took her daughter all the time. We have one and they are too tired so they can't really take DD1. The couple of times they did take DD1 (for us to go on a trip etc) they complained the whole time they were "getting too old". Now that we have twins, no one wants to help us out (other then our neighbours how have been heaven sent). People are actually scared of it. Somehow we are able to function in a day, why can't anyone else. Its so annoying.
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    Yup! We never get offers to babysit, and I almost have to beg for help. I like to volunteer in my older kids classes at school, and thankfully I can usually talk my mom into coming once a month.. but even that is iffy. I have finally started scheduling things during naptime so it is less intimidating to whomever I can talk into doing it (usually my mom or step-mom)... but yeah...

    We do have a family we swap babysitting with, they have 5 kids (9,7,5,3,1) and we have our 4 (9,7,2,2)... so its about even really. But they live 45min away, but we drive it, because we want to get our date night, and it won't happen otherwise. Even when I vent to all my family about how no one will babysit and we never get to go out.
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    I still get sad about not enjoying the infant stage. I am very jealous of seeing new first time moms with their singleton saying how wonderful it is and how much they love it. Don't get me wrong, I love my children more than anything in the world, but I did not enjoy when they were infants. I look back at pictures and feel like I was a zombie during their early months. I did what I could do to get by and really wish I could have taken time to enjoy it. I don't think that anyone other than a mom of multiples would understand the feelings of guilt. There were so many days I wished I could have had them one at a time to enjoy them as infants.

    But I wouldn't trade it for the world now that they are 5 years old. It truly does get easier and so much more enjoyable once you are out of that baby stage. Its awesome to watch them together - they really have such a special bond. And its so much easier beacuse they have each other - they can play for hours together without even needing me. Just know that it does get easier and every mom of multiples has been there whether they will admit it or not
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    Just today, DH grandma was taking about how she took DH cousins baby for a week and I chimed in "wanna takes ours!". I got straight out "NO". I guess because we have two, we will never get babysitters. The envy/resentment just keeps getting worse.
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    I hear you Krista.

    Yesterday my sister texted me to say she got over 8 hours of sleep the night before and had to go check on the baby to make sure he was OK. I try to be happy for her but it is sooo hard. I am so jealous of her right not. Her baby is 10 WEEKS OLD and slept through the night. I can't remember the last time I had 8 hours of sleep. It must have been the early stages of being pregnant with the twins because I wasn't very pregnant when I started having to get up multiple times in the night to pee. My twins are 9mo old and one is still not sleeping through the night.
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    I haven't posted here in quite a while, but hopped on today. I totally understand how you guys feel. I would give anything to know what a singleton pregnancy is like, let alone the joy, ease, etc of only caring for one baby. I am lucky in that my mom and sister are willing to watch my trio, but they are 1500 miles away so :/. We did just get back from a short vacation with them and they gave us a night off, but coming home and it being just me again...UGH!! I just wanted to say thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in feeling this way.
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    Steph - so good to hear from you

    I have been wondering how it has been goign for you. I can't imagine how hard it is for you with three. There is so much of a difference between one to two, I just simply cannot imagine three.
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    Hi Steph! I cannot even believe I complained in front of a triplet mom...

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    Quote Originally Posted by triplespiral View Post
    Hi Steph! I cannot even believe I complained in front of a triplet mom...
    Ha ha! Yes, triplets have to be a lot harder than twins. However, I think we can all agree that moms with just singletons are living the easy life.
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    So I was about to singleton-resent vent again when I noticed the date I first started this thread. So uh ... do we get period-like hormonal cycles before the period actually starts back up again? Either way, damn I'm resentful!

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