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I'll warn that this is my second middle-of-the-night pump tonight so I'm definitely not rested...

I was telling Meg and Krista this, but I'm feeling really resentful of parents of singletons again. I have it relatively easy for twins -- I didn't deal with fertility issues, mine were never in the NICU, one of mine is a champion nurser and sleeper -- and I don't have other kids so I feel like I'm in no position to complain but "those people" are driving me nuts. I think what bugs the most is that they have the luxury of wistful thoughts of their baby's first days while I feel like this is still just survival. I guess it's hard to feed/diaper/change one baby ... but then they get to go out. Yup, I love the babies n' stuff, but why did they have to arrive together?

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:bigarmhug: The problem is that we are the minority in the mommy world. Not many people can provide empathy to our situation and we are confronted with singleton moms all the time. Biggrin

I still feel this way on occasion. It is so hard to go places with both of my girls, even if their overall care is less exhausting. There are times that I look at my friends who have singleton babies and I think to myself, "They have it so easy. Do they even realize how stinking easy their life is?" It is all perspective, but I just want to shout when someone with a singleton complains. It is like...Hello, I have two here, try it with both of them, then we can complain! Lol I have learned to let myself feel those resentful thoughts for just a brief moment and then I make myself let them go.

The reality is that I have twins. I cannot change my reality (and I know you don't want to change yours either Smile ). I can change my perspective when necessary (because those resentful thoughts creep in and they are poisonous to my mental health). My twins are awesome! Really, they are fantastic little beings who are getting more and more fun everyday. Just this morning, the girls were wearing hats, pretending to be cowboys, and saying, "Yee Haw!" How adorable. And...I get to experience that cuteness times two. How blessed am I?

I can promise you that it will get easier. You are deep in the trenches of infant clingy neediness and sleeplessness. As you get more sleep and the babies start to need a tad less from you, it will be amazing how refreshed you will feel. That doesn't mean that the challenges go away. They just become different, and if you can go at parenting with patience and perseverence, you will find that you will continue to survive and thrive with multiples. All I can say is that even with a singleton, parenting is never easy. My 8-year-old is actually harder than my twins at this point. He doesn't need me for the physical things anymore, but he needs me for his emotional needs even more now than he ever did as a baby. Okay...enough of my ramblings. I hope they helped some. Biggrin

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:bigarmhug: You know what I keep telling myself, and it seems to be the only thing that helps me get through the horrible nights. It could be a lot harder. Their are lots of women, some on this board, who have triplets and even quads and they are probably sick of hearing us twiners complaining!!!!

Seriously though, it doesnt matter anyones situation, twins are hard. And I am completely resentful of some women who complan about their one baby who STTN. But, in the end, I have two amazing babies that I wouldn't give up for the world (athought I could do w/o the sleepless nights). It is so much easier with one, but hold on because I've been told numerous times that they will eventually start to entertain eachother and with a singleton, you're their only friend! And, now that Kaylees reflux is all but gone, she has become more independent and less needing and I'm loving it. Say it with me "I love my children, I love my children..".

And like I said before, dont bother complaining to mothers of singletons, they will NEVER understand.

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I second both Krista and Mel!

That first year was killer for me! Killer, so physically exhausting that it drained me mentally as well. But yes, it does get a bit easier as they get older. I panic less about taking both out with me than I used to, but I still try to avoid it when I can. Smile But I sometimes have pangs of singleton jealousy as well, like when ppl are talking about signing their babies up for swim lessons, yeah, not at all possible unless I can round up another adult to do it with me. Or yeah, when they complain about tantrums, and I think, oh you have no idea until you have twin tantrums. lol.

But yes, the built in play mate is so nice. My weekly email from baby center this week talked about how at 2 most kids just do parallel play and do not interact with each other, mine are so socially advanced (ha ha! I hate when ppl say they kids are "so advanced!"), they are always bringing each other toys so they can play with each other, gesturing the other to come to where they are etc. Smile

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Thanks, guys. We just had a well-timed stranger in the grocery store come up out of nowhere with his maybe 4-year-old twins after spotting our double snap-n-go just to say, "It gets easier." I guess we looked like crap?!

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Nah. That guy was remembering the absolute insanity of the infant stage and showing you some empathy. I have had many parents of twins seek me out to tell me the same thing. I think it is like a bonding experience. You see someone who is in the trenches with you and you just want to acknowledge them and tell them it gets better. Biggrin :bigarmhug:

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I have singleton jealously a lot. I only wanted maybe one more baby and I wasn't even 100% sure I wanted one more and I got two. It has completely turned my life inside out and it is very difficult for me to handle at times. It's really bad when I see my sister. She just had a baby and her daughter is 10. She can go and do whatever she wants. Relatives and other's don't mind watching her baby and daughter for her and helping her out. She has it so easy and I am so envious. When people see me coming with a toddler and twin baby's they run. My mom tells me - I just can't handle all three of them, i don't know how you do it - so I never get a break besides at work. However, my sister makes it a habit to drop off her baby at mom's and do whatever she wants. Hugh!

On top of it my sister and her husband wanted to have another baby but now my sister doesn't want to attempt it for fear she might have twins. She has seen what it has done to my life and doesn't even want to risk it. Of course her husband is not happy about it, he wants at least one more. So that will be an interesting battle.

I try to keep the jealousy down to a minimum. I can't imagine not having one of my babies. I love them both. I know if I didn't have twins I wouldn't have had all three of them so I know I was meant to have them but it is just hard right now. I so look forward to the point where Izzie is 5 and the boys are 3. Then life can slow down some but right now I am very ready to get to that point.

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That's really rough, Jennie, about your sister getting more help when it isn't needed as much. I am amazed that you (and several of you in this group!) are going through all this WITH A TODDLER, TOO! Blows my mind. I have to say it's oddly comforting to hear you say you're also just trying to get through this part. Parents of two or more singletons love to comment on how I just don't realize it because these are my first but I need to savor every moment and drink in the infant stage. Bah. Let's just move on already!

Alrighty, I'm going to try to be more positive again once my daughter gets through this growth spurt.

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Jennie - :bigarmhug: I am so sorry that your sister seems to be getting more help. Sad We don't have much help at all. We have no family who live nearby and it seems like most of our friends kind of distanced themselves once the reality of twins invaded our lives. It really sucks. Like you, we only wanted one more. Our odds for twins, despite fertility treatment, were actually pretty low. We did an IUI and we only had one mature egg. So, we did not really anticipate twins and it is still tough for me. I love my girls and I work hard to appreciate how lucky I am. However, there are days when I do think about what life would have been like with a singleton, especially for my DS. He is struggling with them as much as we are. He loves them and likes to play with them, but his life is just chaotic. I don't really have a fix for it either. They are demanding and noisy. He struggles to concentrate on schoolwork because they interfere so much. Sad It is very hard. We will all make it though. We will have fantastic kids and we will really appreciate age 5 and beyond. I truly believe that. Biggrin

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Sheila -

I think we can all empathize. I see moms at the grocery store with their child in a sling just pushing their cart and getting their stuff. It is a two man job for us to push the double stroller and the shopping cart (and get groceries while one cries).

But the way I see it is that we only have to go through this once. Singletons have to start over with each baby. We get two grown for the price of one. Wahoo!

And you can vent anytime you want to us. I do hope that Dara gets a little better very soon!!!

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I have singleton jealously a lot. I only wanted maybe one more baby and I wasn't even 100% sure I wanted one more and I got two. It has completely turned my life inside out and it is very difficult for me to handle at times. It's really bad when I see my sister. She just had a baby and her daughter is 10. She can go and do whatever she wants. Relatives and other's don't mind watching her baby and daughter for her and helping her out. She has it so easy and I am so envious. When people see me coming with a toddler and twin baby's they run. My mom tells me - I just can't handle all three of them, i don't know how you do it - so I never get a break besides at work. However, my sister makes it a habit to drop off her baby at mom's and do whatever she wants. Hugh!

On top of it my sister and her husband wanted to have another baby but now my sister doesn't want to attempt it for fear she might have twins. She has seen what it has done to my life and doesn't even want to risk it. Of course her husband is not happy about it, he wants at least one more. So that will be an interesting battle.

I try to keep the jealousy down to a minimum. I can't imagine not having one of my babies. I love them both. I know if I didn't have twins I wouldn't have had all three of them so I know I was meant to have them but it is just hard right now. I so look forward to the point where Izzie is 5 and the boys are 3. Then life can slow down some but right now I am very ready to get to that point.

THIS. We get this all the time. DHs sister had a baby and his parents took her daughter all the time. We have one and they are too tired so they can't really take DD1. The couple of times they did take DD1 (for us to go on a trip etc) they complained the whole time they were "getting too old". Now that we have twins, no one wants to help us out (other then our neighbours how have been heaven sent). People are actually scared of it. Somehow we are able to function in a day, why can't anyone else. Its so annoying.

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Yup! We never get offers to babysit, and I almost have to beg for help. I like to volunteer in my older kids classes at school, and thankfully I can usually talk my mom into coming once a month.. but even that is iffy. I have finally started scheduling things during naptime so it is less intimidating to whomever I can talk into doing it (usually my mom or step-mom)... but yeah...

We do have a family we swap babysitting with, they have 5 kids (9,7,5,3,1) and we have our 4 (9,7,2,2)... so its about even really. But they live 45min away, but we drive it, because we want to get our date night, and it won't happen otherwise. Even when I vent to all my family about how no one will babysit and we never get to go out. :roll:

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I still get sad about not enjoying the infant stage. I am very jealous of seeing new first time moms with their singleton saying how wonderful it is and how much they love it. Don't get me wrong, I love my children more than anything in the world, but I did not enjoy when they were infants. I look back at pictures and feel like I was a zombie during their early months. I did what I could do to get by and really wish I could have taken time to enjoy it. I don't think that anyone other than a mom of multiples would understand the feelings of guilt. There were so many days I wished I could have had them one at a time to enjoy them as infants.

But I wouldn't trade it for the world now that they are 5 years old. It truly does get easier and so much more enjoyable once you are out of that baby stage. Its awesome to watch them together - they really have such a special bond. And its so much easier beacuse they have each other - they can play for hours together without even needing me. Just know that it does get easier and every mom of multiples has been there whether they will admit it or not Wink

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Just today, DH grandma was taking about how she took DH cousins baby for a week and I chimed in "wanna takes ours!". I got straight out "NO". I guess because we have two, we will never get babysitters. The envy/resentment just keeps getting worse.

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I hear you Krista.

Yesterday my sister texted me to say she got over 8 hours of sleep the night before and had to go check on the baby to make sure he was OK. I try to be happy for her but it is sooo hard. I am so jealous of her right not. Her baby is 10 WEEKS OLD and slept through the night. I can't remember the last time I had 8 hours of sleep. It must have been the early stages of being pregnant with the twins because I wasn't very pregnant when I started having to get up multiple times in the night to pee. My twins are 9mo old and one is still not sleeping through the night.

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I haven't posted here in quite a while, but hopped on today. I totally understand how you guys feel. I would give anything to know what a singleton pregnancy is like, let alone the joy, ease, etc of only caring for one baby. I am lucky in that my mom and sister are willing to watch my trio, but they are 1500 miles away so :/. We did just get back from a short vacation with them and they gave us a night off, but coming home and it being just me again...UGH!! I just wanted to say thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in feeling this way.

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Steph - so good to hear from you Smile

I have been wondering how it has been goign for you. I can't imagine how hard it is for you with three. There is so much of a difference between one to two, I just simply cannot imagine three.

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Hi Steph! I cannot even believe I complained in front of a triplet mom...

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Hi Steph! I cannot even believe I complained in front of a triplet mom...

Ha ha! Yes, triplets have to be a lot harder than twins. However, I think we can all agree that moms with just singletons are living the easy life. ROFL

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So I was about to singleton-resent vent again when I noticed the date I first started this thread. So uh ... do we get period-like hormonal cycles before the period actually starts back up again? Either way, damn I'm resentful!

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It must be AF because the witch is visiting me right now and I am resentful, too!

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Hey! I know that I don't post in here very often now that my twins are older, but I just wanted to chime in as a mom who has survived those baby/toddler years. I understand. I think that almost ANY mom of multiples can empathize with you. I used to really HATE singleton moms at times - especially the ones who complained about HOW HARD it was to have a baby and not get sleep, etc. I wanted to shout at them, curse them, tell them they had NO IDEA how hard it could really be! The entire first year was literally a living hell for me... and the toddler years weren't much easier. To top it off, I had a singleton when my twins were 16 months old. Now that my girls are 9, though, it's almost like I have two singletons - I mean they are the same age, and are definitely sisters, but they have different teachers, different friends, different sports/activities... and when I look back on the younger years, I almost miss feeling that "specialness" that being a mom of multiples give yous.

So my point is - feel resentful! Believe me, we've all done it! And go ahead and feel sorry for yourself - lord knows that once in a while, we have to do that, we have have to mourn some of the experience that we missed of having just one baby. I still to this day say that I would never have wanted to give up one of my girls, but I just wish that I had only had one at a time! But when you are having a good day, when the babies are both in good moods, or when you get those rare moments where you feel lucky to have been able to experience having twins, take it all in and store those thoughts away so that you remember the good days, too, once those first few years are all over with. And soon you'll be the the supportive parent telling the new mom of twins that it WILL get better - I catch myself telling moms that all the time. Smile

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Thank you, Melissa!

Got pulled away before I could finish ...

Empathy and "permission" for resentment are always appreciated, as is the reminder that we're lucky, too. My girl is finding everything funny these days, particularly the dog and ESPECIALLY her brother. It's pretty cute!

And finally, congratulations on your pregnancy!!

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Thanks Melissa! Sometimes, I think that toddlerhood/preschooler days are worse than the infant days. Keira would not get off the potty today because Sarafina left her alone in the bathroom. I had to go in and talk about how sad she felt and give her hugs. Then, she was ready to get off the potty and get dressed. I would never have to deal with that with just one baby! However, it also helps me appreciate the kind of relationship my girls have. They are best friends. Sarafina felt bad that Keira was upset while I was getting her dressed. It doesn't mean I let her go back into the bathroom because I had to get them out the door to daycare in time for me to get to work. However, their relationship is special. No matter how resentful I get, I look at them holding hands, taking turns, giving each other a toy that they were playing with, or just hugging, I know how special it is to be a MoM. It is just hard sometimes.

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"Sweet Pea Twins" wrote:

Hey! I know that I don't post in here very often now that my twins are older, but I just wanted to chime in as a mom who has survived those baby/toddler years. I understand. I think that almost ANY mom of multiples can empathize with you. I used to really HATE singleton moms at times - especially the ones who complained about HOW HARD it was to have a baby and not get sleep, etc. I wanted to shout at them, curse them, tell them they had NO IDEA how hard it could really be! The entire first year was literally a living hell for me... and the toddler years weren't much easier. To top it off, I had a singleton when my twins were 16 months old. Now that my girls are 9, though, it's almost like I have two singletons - I mean they are the same age, and are definitely sisters, but they have different teachers, different friends, different sports/activities... and when I look back on the younger years, I almost miss feeling that "specialness" that being a mom of multiples give yous.

So my point is - feel resentful! Believe me, we've all done it! And go ahead and feel sorry for yourself - lord knows that once in a while, we have to do that, we have have to mourn some of the experience that we missed of having just one baby. I still to this day say that I would never have wanted to give up one of my girls, but I just wish that I had only had one at a time! But when you are having a good day, when the babies are both in good moods, or when you get those rare moments where you feel lucky to have been able to experience having twins, take it all in and store those thoughts away so that you remember the good days, too, once those first few years are all over with. And soon you'll be the the supportive parent telling the new mom of twins that it WILL get better - I catch myself telling moms that all the time. Smile

Melissa, I agree so much. Although it would be so much easier, we get those precious moments of hand holding, talking, giggling together and a built in bestfriend. I love it.

I had to share this story. A friend of mine who has twins 3 weeks older then K and B was telling me today about a bachlorette she went to this weekend. A friend of hers has a 3 year and a 9 month old baby. My friend said that her friend kept telling this story about how a women with twins told her how much harder it is to have a toddler and a newborn then it is to have twins. And she kept saying this over again to a mother of twins. I'm sorry but its nothing like twins when you have babes close in age and I get so resentful of these moms who think they have it so much harder. It infuriates me.

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I had to share this story. A friend of mine who has twins 3 weeks older then K and B was telling me today about a bachlorette she went to this weekend. A friend of hers has a 3 year and a 9 month old baby. My friend said that her friend kept telling this story about how a women with twins told her how much harder it is to have a toddler and a newborn then it is to have twins. And she kept saying this over again to a mother of twins. I'm sorry but its nothing like twins when you have babes close in age and I get so resentful of these moms who think they have it so much harder. It infuriates me.

Having a 3 yo and a 9 month old is not harder than twins. No way! That 9 month old baby isn't taking off in a different direction from your 3 yo at the park or the pool!!! They are not potty training around the same time. They do not play with each other instead of going to sleep. The 3 yo is at a completely different place developmentally than the 9 month old. When she has two kids who are at the same place developmentally, then we can talk about it! Those types of comparisons drive me nuts. We all live in our own reality though. I am not sure anyone can ever really understand the reality of twins unless they experience it. I am not sure what twin moms she is socializing with though. I am pretty sure that most would not say that she had it harder than a mom with twins.

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You want to know the awesomest part of having twin babies? When you get mastitis and a 103 F fever and vomiting and chills like nobody's business and they both scream at you and need things all day and you try your best to get them dealt with while you wait 6 hours until the end of your boyfriend's work day to get to urgent care that doesn't even accept your insurance but you don't care and you're at home mostly just crying and saying, "SHHHHHHH! I'm sorry! I'm sorry!"

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You want to know the awesomest part of having twin babies? When you get mastitis and a 103 F fever and vomiting and chills like nobody's business and they both scream at you and need things all day and you try your best to get them dealt with while you wait 6 hours until the end of your boyfriend's work day to get to urgent care that doesn't even accept your insurance but you don't care and you're at home mostly just crying and saying, "SHHHHHHH! I'm sorry! I'm sorry!"

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I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you get better soon :bighug:

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Oh Sheila! I'm sorry! That sucks. How are you feeling now? I was so sick last week, I seriously laid on the couch all day with no energy to do anything. I was so grateful the twins were old enough to be tv entertained while I was stuck on the couch, and that they could fetch little snacks from the fridge for me to open for them. Sucks that you are feeling awful and two little ones! Sad

Krista, yeah, I don't know who that lady is socializing with, because that is just nuts. I am thankful for my family members that realize how hard twins are and tell me all the time that they could not do it (I'm sure they could, because we all do, but it is nice to know that ppl realize how much work they are!) And tons of ppl have kids 3yrs apart, I have never heard anyone say 3yr gap is harder than twins, that is just crazy sauce! I sure get tired of the ppl with kids 1yr apart telling me how its just like twins, or harder. Thankfully my sister has confirmed it is NOT at all the same, and twins are definitely more difficult, and her boys are 14mo apart (20 and 21 now). Smile

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"melnzai" wrote:

Having a 3 yo and a 9 month old is not harder than twins. No way! That 9 month old baby isn't taking off in a different direction from your 3 yo at the park or the pool!!! They are not potty training around the same time. They do not play with each other instead of going to sleep. The 3 yo is at a completely different place developmentally than the 9 month old. When she has two kids who are at the same place developmentally, then we can talk about it! Those types of comparisons drive me nuts. We all live in our own reality though. I am not sure anyone can ever really understand the reality of twins unless they experience it. I am not sure what twin moms she is socializing with though. I am pretty sure that most would not say that she had it harder than a mom with twins.

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Krista, yeah, I don't know who that lady is socializing with, because that is just nuts. I am thankful for my family members that realize how hard twins are and tell me all the time that they could not do it (I'm sure they could, because we all do, but it is nice to know that ppl realize how much work they are!) And tons of ppl have kids 3yrs apart, I have never heard anyone say 3yr gap is harder than twins, that is just crazy sauce! I sure get tired of the ppl with kids 1yr apart telling me how its just like twins, or harder. Thankfully my sister has confirmed it is NOT at all the same, and twins are definitely more difficult, and her boys are 14mo apart (20 and 21 now). Smile

Im so glad Im not the only one that thinks this is absolutely ridiculous. But try to explain that to ppl and they think you are just complaining.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

You want to know the awesomest part of having twin babies? When you get mastitis and a 103 F fever and vomiting and chills like nobody's business and they both scream at you and need things all day and you try your best to get them dealt with while you wait 6 hours until the end of your boyfriend's work day to get to urgent care that doesn't even accept your insurance but you don't care and you're at home mostly just crying and saying, "SHHHHHHH! I'm sorry! I'm sorry!"

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How are you feeling?

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It was bad bad bad for days but I am on the mend. Sadly, my daughter still won't touch formula (spent another large sum of money trying) and my supply is shot (bye bye freezer supply).

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"triplespiral" wrote:

It was bad bad bad for days but I am on the mend. Sadly, my daughter still won't touch formula (spent another large sum of money trying) and my supply is shot (bye bye freezer supply).

So glad you are starting to feel better. Im so glad these two take formula. Its been a life saver more then once Smile

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Krista, I have been thinking about your post on and off all weekend, and I had a 9mo old and a 3yr old, and it was NOTHING like twins. Some days were tough, but most days our life was pretty uncomplicated, and compared to twins, it was a freaking cake walk! And I keep thinking about some crazy twin mom, and all I can figure is that she must have only had twins, and that her twins were like tweeners or older and she has forgotten much, and she probably said something like, "Wow, I don't know what I would do with two kids of different ages". lol.

and Sheila, glad it is getting better, sorry for the supply issues and stubborn daughter!

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"rachelrazzle" wrote:

Krista, I have been thinking about your post on and off all weekend, and I had a 9mo old and a 3yr old, and it was NOTHING like twins. Some days were tough, but most days our life was pretty uncomplicated, and compared to twins, it was a freaking cake walk! And I keep thinking about some crazy twin mom, and all I can figure is that she must have only had twins, and that her twins were like tweeners or older and she has forgotten much, and she probably said something like, "Wow, I don't know what I would do with two kids of different ages". lol.

and Sheila, glad it is getting better, sorry for the supply issues and stubborn daughter!

I honestly think that the mother with the 3 yr and 9 month old made it up becasue I dont know ANY twin mother that would say that. And to keep telling that story over again to a mother of twins...I think that is completely rude.

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Just re-reading some of our vents and attempts at positivity. Holy crap babies are hard! You guys alive still?

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Still kicking here, although its been a rough couple of days because the babies have been really sick.

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yes. still alive, and yes still hearing from ppl that it should be easier now, of course, that comes from ppl that don't have twins. These boys keep me so busy! My bigger kids started back to school a few weeks ago (year round), so back to the schedule, which is nice, but I swear I can never get anything done. They are so messy! Smile But they are hilarious too.. their little sense of humor (s) are really coming out, its cute! Smile

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I am still alive too. I am with Rachel. I am not really sure it has gotten any easier and the girls are over 2.5. The tantrums just do me in. Both girls are so dang stubborn and I just cannot deal with it sometimes, especially when they are both refusing to get dressed. We are slowly attempting potty training. We had Keira in underwear for a little while, but then she started refusing to go to the potty with anyone, but me. I was not going to give in to that, so we put her back in diapers. We need a little more cooperation before going back. Ugh!!

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Well ... as hard as it is, I feel certain nothing will ever suck as bad as the first month. There's just no way!

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We'll see what you think when both kids take off their diapers, pee in their cribs, and wipe poop all over the dang wall! Lol

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Rachel- ppl drive me nuts. How can a person truly believe it will get easier, there's still two of them! Everything is double, how is that easy?

Shelia- the first month was utter hell for me and I never want to relive that. It sucked. Like u said before, it was survival mode, no time to actually enjoy your babies.

Has it gotten a little easier, Yes! Only because they are more independent and are playing with each other and are on table food, which gives my boobs a break (although they actually still nurse quite a bit). Brad is STTN but kaylee is still waking. Already now I dont have to nurse her back to sleep, I just have to rock her. With this new found mobility it has gotten worse. Luckily brad is still just crawling. If it was him walking I'd be in really trouble. A couple if times I've had them go in Different directions!

Funny story. I'm returning to work in a month Sad so we've been actively interviewing nanny's. We've had two now not show up to the interview because "twins and a 5 yr old is too much work", yet I do it every day Wink I guess ppl are afraid of twins!

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"melnzai" wrote:

We'll see what you think when both kids take off their diapers, pee in their cribs, and wipe poop all over the dang wall! Lol

Haha, I missed this one. That's so funny... For me anyway. For you, the one that has to clean it up, that sucks!

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"melnzai" wrote:

We'll see what you think when both kids take off their diapers, pee in their cribs, and wipe poop all over the dang wall! Lol

But when this happens at 8 months, they're dumb enough to EAT IT! :/
Oh my goodness babies are so gross.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

But when this happens at 8 months, they're dumb enough to EAT IT! :/
Oh my goodness babies are so gross.

So glad we haven't experienced this one yet. How did you not vomit?

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"Sweet Pea Twins" wrote:

and when I look back on the younger years, I almost miss feeling that "specialness" that being a mom of multiples give you.

This was months ago, but I just wanted to say that I still think about this statement all the time, Melissa. It's still hard to greet strangers' comments with a smile, but as we approach the big ONE YEAR(!!) mark, it's finally getting through to me that when people say they wish they had twins, they mean the babies are cute, they wish they got the double smiles, and they are certainly not thinking about carrying two in a uterus built for one, holding two crying babies, or potty training two and all the fun I have to come.

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"triplespiral" wrote:

This was months ago, but I just wanted to say that I still think about this statement all the time, Melissa. It's still hard to greet strangers' comments with a smile, but as we approach the big ONE YEAR(!!) mark, it's finally getting through to me that when people say they wish they had twins, they mean the babies are cute, they wish they got the double smiles, and they are certainly not thinking about carrying two in a uterus built for one, holding two crying babies, or potty training two and all the fun I have to come.

I completely understand now. I'm having so much fun with them. Although they are more work they are so much fun. Plus I'm actually getting sleep! I forgot what it felt like! It makes those first 6 months completely worth it (not that I didn't think it would just at the time I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel) they are having so much fun with one another and learn off each other. I LOVE having twins (never thought I'd ever say that!)

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I love my kiddos, but I can't wait to see how they interact! Also, I want normal sleep!!!!!!!