So, my wonderful twin mom friends, when do these babies start sleeping more than 2-3 hours at a time? I haven't slept in a month b\c when one goes down, the other wakes up! I've tried to keep on same schedule, but that is almost harder.
I can do this, I can do this, I can do this.
It really just depends on the kid. I know that is not helpful to you. Mine did not start sleeping for more than a 2-3 hrs stretch until closer to a year, but I know that is NOT the norm, I think. lol
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
Hi Meg! Congratulations on surviving so far! I'm 100% certain there's nothing harder than the first month. (Thank God they're not triplets, right?) I was getting a little more sleep -- sometimes a super-awesome 4 hours in a row in that second month -- but I'll say that the second month sucks, too, simply because you're so freakin' tired from the first month. (I don't say this to be discouraging, but rather so that you're not comparing yourself to one-baby moms.) But here's the good part: by 8 weeks they will SMILE and seeing that is essentially equivalent to your getting a full night's rest. Keep on living. The impossibleness varies in intensity night by night but I swear I'm a zillion times happier now at four months with less hormone crazies and far more sleep. Can I throw in some unsolicited advice? Everyone always says to accept all help. I found most people's help was useless. Instead, be quick about kicking people out when they start to bug. I spent way too much time trying to be accommodating toward people who wanted to see the babies under the guise of "helping." Oh yeah, and schedules? Ha! I know the books love to talk about schedules but that's just silly. You CAN do this!!! You already are!!!
An old post: http://www.pregnancy.org/bulletinboa...0642-wtf-sleep
I am not someone you want to be asking this to right now! I get less sleep now then when they were first born. Sorry not trying to scare you. Does not mean you will be the same. These two were actually good sleepers in the starting. They normally did 4 hr stretches after 1 month and then B went to 8 and K went to 6 and it was like that until the dreaded 4 months happened and everything went for a *$#%. I think my case might be special because I think Shelia is getting more sleep from her boy then. I do know they dont start real sleep habits until 4 months and by 6 months their sleep habits are fully established (as the books tell me, so I'm screwed ). But like Shelia said they will start to smile and goo and laugh and it makes everything worth it. I didn't want to make these guys CIO but I'm at my breaking point...get ready for the screaming! One thing that may be on your side is that you are bottle feeding, right? If you BF you are do much more likely to just pop a boob in their mouth as oppose to trying to get them the self sooth. I am completely guilty of this ( which is way I am where I am right now!)
Mine still dont sleep very well. From the beginning I have been getting up with each baby every 2-3 hrs, but what really sucks is when they are rotating when they are waking! I was dead on my feet by 4 months as I was up nearly every hour feeding/changing someone! We are doing some CIO now and I am getting a tad more sleep.
I guess it all depends on how structured you want to be and the personalities of your babies. I had my girls on what I would call a schedule. No, I didn't feed them every 3 hours, but when one woke and was hungry, I woke the other one and fed that baby at the same time. I found that they didn't refuse the bottle if I woke them to eat. It really saved my sanity and it helped me to get rest. Now, I did ff and I did not bf, which may have helped us to at least have some modicum of a schedule. Typically, babies really won't have a "schedule" until 4-8 months. My girls started two naps per day at the same time at about 6 months, AND they fed less often because their stomachs could hold more formula at a time. We also were huge fans of the velcro swaddlers and my girls slept through the night (6 hour stretches) by 10 weeks...I swear it was the swaddlers and pacifiers that helped with that. I think by the time we hit 6 months, we felt almost normal again. It was still stressful and very exhausting, but it didn't seem as bad as that first month. Just know that it will get easier and it will get better...well, until they are mobile and running around like mad pulling each other's hair and pushing each other down.
T slept 4.5 - 5 hours last night between feeds. A was up every hour to two hours, just wanting to suck on something. We figured she has her nights and days mixed up (she slept soundly for 3-4 hours today). So we've decided to "be mean" and try to keep her up all this afternoon/evening to see if that helps tonight...
Some of it may be that T can down 4 oz at sitting, but A is still only eating 2. T is fuller, longer, so that she can sleep longer. I'm hoping we can get some more time. It seems in all of our stories, one sleeps well and one doesn't. Wonder why.