Oh, and I really do think so much of it is born temperament. I had my doubts when I had awesome mellow kids and my friends were little wild ones. I just figured it was my awesome parenting. lol. Then I had twins and my Abram is a little more free spirited. He is sometimes my challenge, especially when I have three mellower kids, and it really is temperament. Of course you can help or hurt things along depending on how you parent, but they really are born with their little personalities!
Rachel, momma to 4
dd 9, ds 7, twin boys Dec 09
I nursed my twins for 2years and 2 weeks! A little sad to be all done now.
I understand that they are trying to communicate with me, I just don't know what they want most of the time. It's still a guessing game. :/ I ask them what they want, like "Are you hungry? Do you want to eat?" and sign "eat" or "drink" or "change" or what have you. So, I think it's just a matter of time. I'm not as worried as I was before. Some kids just take their own time. Now, if they don't improve in the next year, I might be a little more worried.
I just started taking the girls out for extended public events on my own this past fall. (Twins ~3+3months, single ~2+2months). Before then, just short planned trips places like the grocer store and with another adult as much as possible. Make sure they are fed and rested and be home within 2 hours gave me pretty good success.
Also, just because they CAN walk doesn't mean they should. Best advice ever from the Twinspiration book. My girls are really well behaved for their age, but they are still 2 & 3. Still testing boundaries, still can't sit for any length of time, still easily distracted, etc. Pack snacks and/or other activities when appropriate and hope for the best.
We have a talk on they way to where we are going about what they need to do and what happens if they don't do it. ie: If one of you doesn't listen to mom, we all go home early.