Do you ever get discouraged?

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Do you ever get discouraged?

Sometimes I feel like I'm going to fail at this. I spend so many hours of my day reading stuff, and editing and every other day taking pictures hoping to get better. I really do wonder if I am getting any better or if I am just stuck in one spot. I need some pick me ups. Blum 3 I do want to succeed at this. I am tired of failing at things. I'm tired of not finishing what I have started. I want to finish this and turn it into a business someday. I know that's not going to fall into my lap though so I have to work hard at it. It's so hard though sometimes ya know? And I am not the most patient person. Lol We are going for a walk in the forest today and hope that changes my mood. Smile And I'm taking my camera! I don't care what people say. What are some things that make you keep on going? Besides your kids? Smile I show DH my pictures sometimes but not once have I gotten the reaction I was hoping for. My brother yeah. Kinda but we only talk online. And my parents, much less. A picture is a picture. MIL? Forget it...she has not once commented on the nice pictures I've taken of her own grandchildren. It makes me question myself if I am really doing a good job or not. These guys are the only support I have here. Kind of sucks sometimes. I am glad I can come here and show off my images though and on facebook. (if you want to add me let me know ill give you my info). Eh... It's just one of those days! :icecream:

~L

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have you seen my pics? haha I'm feel like I'm in a constant state of sucky. You've taken some great photos so you def have what it takes.
I hope your walk was a success.
I'm on fb and love looking at other's photos if you want to add me, I'll pm your my email address

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I think I just expect too much out of myself and I'm getting tired of being turned down :-? it's very discouraging. If I lived in my hometown I'd have two newborns to practice on very soon and lots of couples and kids. But they are all my friends. Going for the walk now and I hope my mood changes. Smile be back later!

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I completely understand. I find that I question myself and my abilities at least a couple times a week lately. I started "skill building" on strangers recently since my family was getting tired of modeling for me, and some days I would feel sooo in over my head... while others I felt like I was doing what I meant to be doing. I think we all have those days, especially when we're first learning. It's a lot to learn! And I know how frustrating it is to not have your work appreciated by those who you are closest to. They probably just don't realize how awesome your photos are because it's just what they have come to expect from you... and they likely don't know how much it takes to get such great shots. Most people don't really know all that goes into getting a great photo. But everyone here knows it, and I'm sure we would all agree that you have some talent, girl! Don't give up, and don't let it get you down. Hey, maybe you should just not post any new photos of the kids for a few weeks to make them start begging you for the awesome photos again! Wink We are a military family, and we live hundreds of miles away from our family... so I always have to keep up with our blog and facebook photos and what not for family. So I know how much work that is, too! You deserve more appreciation and recognition.

Anyway, I've rambled on... I hope you have a wonderful day and get some great shots on your walk! Smile

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Constantly! I've not been getting much business lately and that can really cause a person to wonder if they're any good and make you just want to give up. Hang in there.

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I think we all have days like that! Dont give up! Even the most talented photographer has off days. You are improving! Maybe you shoud do a progression post even tho it isnt your anniversary. I bet you would be able to tell a big difference. I hope your walk in the forest goes well! Cant wait to see what you come up with!

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"mandie81" wrote:

I think we all have days like that! Dont give up! Even the most talented photographer has off days. You are improving! Maybe you shoud do a progression post even tho it isnt your anniversary. I bet you would be able to tell a big difference. I hope your walk in the forest goes well! Cant wait to see what you come up with!

I did put up a progression post a few weeks ago. 2-3 weeks ago maybe? I don't remember. My year was in August. Smile I can see an improvement in myself but not too sure if others do. Smile

Anyway...had a great walk. I got a few good shots. I can't believe we never walked down that path before. We never really knew it was there until today! So now I know of another place we'll be going to when the days are nice and we want to go do something on the weekends. Biggrin I'll post later on tonight hopefully.

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Oh and I did ask about the pictures I sent. They saw but didn't say anything. Only thing I got was "they are so clear compared to the point and shoot we use". That's it. Sad I'll give it another couple weeks and if I don't hear anything from them then I give up. Not with photography but just with them. I am hoping some day some doors will open for me. I really want to do this but if I keep getting denied I don't know how much more of myself I could put out there, kwim? If complete strangers don't call me up if I put fliers out, then I will not know what to do next. But I am not doing that until around spring time I think.

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OMG, I literally came to the board today to start a similar thread, lol! I am also going through a rough patch where I feel like no matter how much I read, research and watch tutorials & practice etc, that some things are just NOT sinking in and it is reflecting badly on my mood and my photography (trying to master speedlight & ocf and am failing miserably!) I know am not totally crap, I recently passed an online photography course I took with 88% (not bad considering ds2 was in hospital for 3.5 of the 10 week course) and got excellent for my visual & technical awareness. I guess being aware does not always equate to being able to take the picture that you see in your minds eye. *sigh* Stangely enough, I just got back from a forest walk too. I will have to post some examples of my massive failure in a seperate thread just so I can have a specific moan!

Don't worry, I am right here with you! I bet we ALL feel like this at some point or another, no matter where we are on our journey.

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I think that you are in a really tough situation. You are in another country from your family and many friends. It would be hard for anyone in that situation to network and if people aren't being supportive then it is completely understandable that you feel that way.

One thing that photography has helped me do is put myself out there, for better or worse. Do the daycare or the other parents there know that you are looking for practice? I wouldn't wait for them to say that they love your pictures and because of that they want you to take more. I would TELL them you want to take more and ASK if they are interested very specifically. Honestly no one is going to come to you especially at first. I had to beg to get my first practice sessions. It really wasn't pretty but it was the only way to get practice.

Are portraits part of the culture in Norway in the same way that they are here in the US? I mean do people regularly go to studios to get 3m, 6m, 1 yr, etc portraits done? Do they send out Christmas cards with pics? If so then offer those things. If not, then I would study how portrait photography is used in the culture and start targeting your work in that way.

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I'm not really sure how photography is used here. Everywhere I look everyone seems to have a dslr. Seriously. It's like no big deal to anyone. I'm not even too sure if people do family portraits here. I would love to offer it though. What I ultimately want to do is have my own portrait studio and offer family portrait packages for example. But I have no room for a studio right now and not enough knowledge of it either. So this is what I am doing for now. People do Christmas cards here but like I said, everyone has a dslr and I think a lot of them think that since they have one, they can take photos like mine. Every one of DH's friends has one. I might just have to do what you said. Study how portrait photography is used here. I know one thing for sure is, it's very expensive to hire a professional photographer. That is probably why a lot of people don't get regular family photos. I have not once seen a regular family portrait place around here. You know, affordable portraits like jc penney does (even that's not too affordable sometimes)...not like that is what I want to do. I want to offer more ya know?

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Oh My! Im sorry I didnt realize you had a progression thread up Sad I have been really busy lately. Im excited to see your pics from your new path in the forest! That seems so strange to me that they wouldnt have regular family portraits. Hmmm... That really could be the reason for no one getting back to you.

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I just wanted to say that *I* can see the progression you've made. We all have slumps. We all have slow periods. We all have those days when NOTHING seems like its going right. And *many* on here have no support outside of this board what-so-ever.

I'm lucky, DH is amazing and supportive. Outside of him, it falls off really quickly (but I won't get on that soap box right now).

You have a dream and a desire in your heart. That is all that matters. Hold onto it and know that this rough patch will pass. Just keep working and learning and know that even the most seasoned professionals question themselves all the time - it's part of being in a subjective field where tastes and styles change all the time.

(((HGUS)))

GiGi

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I think if I had friends like I do back home it would make things so much easier. Heck, my progress would speed up I bet! It's just disappointing. I am definitely going to try to put fliers out around spring. It just gets a lot better here around that time. Right now it is getting very cold outside each day and not very comfortable for family pictures outdoors. Maybe indoors though. This Saturday DH is taking me downtown to a photo store. I guess they have all kinds of goodies there. Smile Looking forward to that.

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thanks everyone Smile

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I really think that you should start posting at ILP. Here most of the people are from the US, Canada, UK, and Australia. Over at ILP there are many more people from all over. I know there is at least one pro over there from Norway (Lisa Rostoen, with the slashes through the o's Lol and probably a few JSO'ers you could befriend. Search the site for Norway. I would bet there are a few.

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hmm Smile i might try that. ILP intimidates me though! Lol I might come out of lurkdom one of these days.

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I feel more than a little discouraged! I keep trying to prioritize the first step (buying a DSLR), but financially things have gone from bad to worse over the last year, so I am stuck trying to learn what I can with my point-n-shoot. The harsh sun and dull landscape (desert, dirt and hovels) here is also a challenge.
I hope to become a real photographer someday (not even as a business, just to know what I am doing).

It sounds like you are feeling a bit of homesickness mixed in with your discouragement. You have come a looong way and are really trying to find new ways to improve. I admire you for working so hard and sticking to it, even without the support of people nearby. Hope doors start opening for you soon!

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Thanks a lot Beth Smile appreciate it. Think of it this way...whenever you do get a dslr...you are going to rock! Smile Your photos are great with your p&s! Biggrin You really have an eye for composition.

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have you asked the daycare centre if you can display some info there rather than taking photos of the kids whilst they are in their care? They might not be able to do that without a lot of paperwork and permissions from all over the place, you might even have to have police checks and all that to be in the centre taking photos of the kids but maybe they would let you put up a poster with some examples of your work and contact details or leave some flyers in the sign-in area where parents might see them and take one or do they have a newsletter you could out a little advertisement in?. You could put together a simple website to display some examples and see if that gets you anywhere. You are definitely improving and I know sometimes family can be a bit unenthusiastic about such things Smile My MIL only likes the looking at the camera smiling take snaps and even then if she is going to comment it is on how cute the kids are (which I don't mind at all Smile I think they're gorgeous!) but it is nice when someone realises you actually took a really nice photo of that gorgeous child.

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You know I did think about putting some flier up in their building and setting up some sort of website to post some examples of my kids photos, etc. What I have available anyway. The kids came here for lunch one day and I asked if it was ok to take pictures of them. They have them fill out a paper when registering and on that paper it asks if its ok if pictures are taken of your child. So I asked for permission then, and I don't think that is a problem. Smile I am giving it a couple weeks, or even a month, maybe they might want me still. For something. If not then life goes on and I'll try elsewhere.