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    A very close friend of mine lost her husband in a motorcycle accident this last week. The memorial service is this Friday and I am wondering if I should take pictures?

    The last funeral I attended was my grandmother's and I did take pictures. In fact, I wasn't the only one. But I just don't know about this one. It'll be a much more formal affair than my grandmother's funeral.

    Any advice? What would you do?

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    I personally would not unless the immediate family asked me to.

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    I would ask the family 1st
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    I probably wouldn't, but you could ask the family first.

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    I'm with the others. I probably wouldn't unless the family asked, or you asked them. But, honestly, I wouldn't put them on the spot by asking them on the phone/in person. I'd send out an email asking, so they have time to think about their answer.
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    I would've liked to have taken photos at my grandparents' funerals, but just felt funny about it. Seems like not many people do take photos at funerals. So that being the case, yes, I would ask the family too.

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    I'm going by to check on my friend today. I'll ask.

    Thanks, guys. I truly appreciate it.

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    This has actually got me thinking. As a family we are starting to brace ourselves as we believe that my Nan (mum's mum) is nearing the end of her life (she actually told my Grandad this week that she will be leaving him soon) and I am now wondering if I could bring myself to take photos at the funeral. I might talk it over with Mum & Grandad. I don't think I have ever seen funeral photography from the UK, but then it is not something I have thought of looking up.
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    Kerry ... as I mentioned, I took photos at my grandmother's funeral and I am SO GLAD that I did. My whole family cherishes these photos now. Funerals are often family reunions and that is a big portion of what I focused on when taking my pictures that day.

    With that said, my grandma's funeral was very informal. I don't know that I would have been so keen if it was a more formal affair (which is also why I am so hesitant right now).

    Whatever you decide, do try to take some reminders of the day - if not photos, programs, etc.

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    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. condolences to you and your friends family.

    We did this at my Nana's funeral on new years eve. It was a long time since all the family had been together.

    I would ask first.
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