Husbands and your photography hobby

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Husbands and your photography hobby

Just for the sake of a little fun "girl talk", I was curious about what your husbands are like with regards to your hobby?

Mine is super supportive and really helpful. He encouraged me to scout out great places to shoot for our upcoming Vegas trip, he stopped soooo many times on our road trip to Alberta this summer for me to take shots, even when I didn't ask to stop, and if we're out together he gets the kids to look if he can see I'm lining up a shot. He was so tempted to send me to a macro photography course this summer, knowing how much I LOVE macro; but it was so much money that he finally realized we couldn't do it -- but you could see the decision pained him greatly! He even suggested that our next date be a trip to the city to take some cool slow shutter speed shots and stuff like that. And he's my "tech guy". He reads DP Review stuff ALL the time and tells me about the latest camera news, new lenses, what's worth buying and what isn't, etc. Even though we can't afford most of it, he figures out what would get the most bang for our buck when we can afford a new lens or whatever.

The one thing that makes me smile about him, though, is that he is 100% genuine and "real"... which means, he isn't really all that crazy about me cloning out, say, some food on one of the kids' cheeks; or taking a moment to straighten their shirts before I take a shot. He likes photography to record what life is really like. So it's kind of a funny thing, because the more I've gotten into photography, the more I realize that attention to detail is really a big part of what makes a great shot. The right clothes, straight collars, moving 1 foot to the left to get some unslightly thing out of the photo's background, etc. And he's like, "But that's the way it IS! Take the shot!" (My mom is super detail-oriented and now he's teasing me that I'm becoming just like my mom. Oh dear! :O)

What about your husbands or significant others?!

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It's weird with my husband. Sometimes he can be completely supportive, but other times, it's like he could completely care less. It's like he really loves the outcome of the photos that I take, but he doesn't want to help get the shot at all. Remember the overalls shoot I did with my boys last August? It was like PULLING TEETH to get him to help me. It took forever for us to actually get out and get it done, since I had to have his help to round up the kids together, because he just didn't want to do it. After that, I only asked him one other time to help me, and the only thing he had to do was make sure the kids didn't run out in front of a car or get hurt while I wasn't paying attention.

He was really not supportive when I was doing shoots for friends for free. Once I started charging a little, he was ok with it, and didn't complain too much about watching the kids (unless it upset HIS schedule :rolleyes:)

But man, he loves what I come up with. He'll go on and on about a photo, and he'll brag to everyone at work. He really wants to upgrade my camera for me, but we have to wait until his bonus or tax return time. I can see him reacting negatively to the $2000+ price tag of the 6D that I want, so I better start having some more shoots to make up the difference Wink

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"Ladybugsteph" wrote:

But man, he loves what I come up with. He'll go on and on about a photo, and he'll brag to everyone at work.

That's so interesting, because my husband won't usually brag about my pics... not that I know of, anyway. He will be complimentary, for sure, and I know he believes in me, but he's not really one to make a big fuss, either.

"Ladybugsteph" wrote:

I can see him reacting negatively to the $2000+ price tag of the 6D that I want, so I better start having some more shoots to make up the difference Wink

I was reading (courtesy of DH!) a review of the 6D on DP Review yesterday, and their review is pretty mixed. I'd love a full-frame someday, and it's certainly more affordable than the Mark III; but the review sounds like it's a bit of a disappointment overall. I think they were just expecting more from Canon on this release. The comments on the review were similar -- fairly disappointed tone overall.

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A lot of people were wondering why you wouldn't just go out and buy the Mk II instead. For me, not being a pro, I think it comes down to size. I read that it's quite a bit lighter than the 5D series, yet you still have that full frame sensor. I'm a little disappointed that they didn't do more with the focus system, but for a full frame, I think I'd let that go myself.

I just get so frustrated with my husband, because he's so hot and cold with the whole thing. One minute he's perfectly fine, but the next he's not. I tried to get him to agree to letting me rent a lens for our vacation. He was so incredibly against it, and practically yelled at me for asking! Yikes!

It's hard for me, because I know what I need to do to get the shots that I want, but I'm too limited by my equipment at the moment. My ISO only goes up to 1600! I struggle so much to get the shot inside our house with lots of windows, let alone at Disney World in the restaurants in a couple of days when the kids are meeting the characters.

Oh, and I meant to say that my DH is kind of the same way about me and looking at the details. When they're outside doing some kind of activity, I'll tell them to stand in a certain place, and he just starts rolling his eyes at me. I feel like if I can make some minor adjustments so that I can look back at the picture and know that I did the best that I could to get it, why wouldn't I do it, and why should it matter?

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Mine is pretty indifferent. He is happy for me to save and spend on camera gear (within reason), he gives me compliments if he thinks a photo is good and he is happy for me to spend time editing, etc. He doesn't do anything to actually encourage it though, and sometimes he is a bit sarcastic if I want to take photos of certain things.

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my DH is amazingly supportive..he thinks i'm the best photographer that the world has ever seen, lol. he is very supportive with my spending but i usually only spend what i've made off shoots anyways. He wants to one day buy a little store front so i can get a studio along with my outdoor stuff but i know thats a looong way off Smile hubby brags about my pics when i'm around and always tries to look for scenery and stuff for me to snap Smile

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My DH goes in excitement waves. Sometimes he spends hours scouring over sites and reviews and normally gets me a lens or some other accessory for the holidays. Last Mother's Day, he ended up buying two camera bodies, with the intention to re-sell one, because they were both really good sales (they were both second-hand but in good condition and came with lenses and all kinds of goodies). He likes what I come up with and happily cooks up ideas and places to go, shots to duplicate, and all that jazz. He doesn't understand the intricacies of RAW work and detailed editing and doesn't understand how important the right kind of clothes for a shoot are. I don't think he really understands the concept of a shoot either and wonders why I appear to take the same picture over and over again. He also doesn't understand why I like manual so much, especially since I'm always fine-tuning my settings (and taking too much time!).

Luckily, he's a tech guy and completely understands the "need" to get the latest and greatest thing but is thrifty enough to calm me down from a frenzy. How I lust after that Nikon D800 though, even with its focusing problems (they say there's a problem with a few of the sensors that can be fixed, but it has to be sent away to Nikon to get done right).

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I would say mostly indifferent. He will talk to me about the technical aspects of photography, he'll compliment photos he likes, he will also do lots of research on the hardware if I ask. When it comes to me actually actively taking pictures he doesn't do much, won't go out of his way to allow the perfect shot, maybe I just have to ask.

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For me it's not just a hobby and DH is very supportive of the business. I think he definitely sees the value in the way all of the memories are being recorded and he was very supportive of my 365 project last year. He gets irritated sometimes at my bringing the camera places if I get too wrapped up into taking pictures to really participate. That doesn't happen nearly as much as it used to. I'm much more apt to leave the camera behind these days.

He's pretty patient with it most of the time, but every now and then he'll get irritated at how much time I spend editing. He also gives me what for if I'm up really late at night with the photos and complain about being tired the next day. Really there is very little time that I get to touch up the photos and I often do it late at night to keep from getting in the way of my family interaction.

In any event....I haven't been busy at all with the business and I've started doing Lightroom only edits on the family photos so it's much much MUCH less time spent on photography than it used to be.

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Mine is really supportive and I appreciate it so much. I'm really new so I'm still learning the basics and talk about it with him quite often. I've been kind of confined to a wheelchair the past couple weeks, so when we were at the beach last week he took the camera with him (when he played with the kids by the water) to get some shots for me. So sweet. The shots he got were really good! He told me, "I remembered what you were saying about the rule of thirds, and to make sure I don't chop off hands and feet." Smile

P.S. Tracy- we were just in Vancouver to see the spinal surgeon and I saw so many things that I wanted to stop and take a picture of! It's such a photogenic city. :). My friend Tracey Heppner used to live in Burnaby (now lives in Manila, Philippines) and photographed a lot of the big time downtown Vancouver weddings. I was always stunned by the variety of what she could capture.

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"yellow.rose.of.canada" wrote:

Tracy- we were just in Vancouver to see the spinal surgeon and I saw so many things that I wanted to stop and take a picture of! It's such a photogenic city. :).

It really is a fantastic city! I wish we could get in there a little more often too. I always have a million ideas for shots when I'm downtown. (We live a little east, but I put Vancouver in my profile because it's the nearest big city people would know.) I hope your appointment(s) went well in Vancouver - so sorry for all you must be going through!

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My DH is pretty supportive, but gets impatient very quickly if I ask him to help me set up something with the boys. He's given me the ok to buy a wide lens for our trip to Mexico in December. He know what it'd mean to me and how nice it would be to have a wide frame lens on the beach and for all the scenery photos.

He has his hobbies that he spends quite a bit of money on, so I think he knows not to fuss if I spend money here and there. And really, I haven't spent that much on photography. Someday I'll upgrade my camera. I'm guessing it will be when this one breaks Smile

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DH is very supportive. He even accompanies me on shoots and helps carry my bags and posing people (mostly friends and family). He helps also ordering prints for me, mainly administrative stuff... lol.

But it is very wonderful to have a supportive spouse. I am hoping he'll let me upgrade by xmas time to a 5DmIII... hoping....

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Sorry Amber and El, I am so much in 'hobby' mode, I just always call it that. I know there are lots of pros here, and people worthy of being pro too!

It's so cool how many supportive DHs there are here! Smile

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My DH is very supportive on the whole. But he does have moments when he gets irritated at how much of my time it can take. He will read reviews for me, and helps by looking up different how to videos for Photoshop. One tutorial he found on sharpening and noise reduction has made such a difference in my RAW edits. He knows it's something I'm passionate about, and that with enough practice I would like to go pro one day. He's all about that, and tells people as much. OH! And he is thinking about joining that photography club with me. Smile He says that there aren't enough pictures of me with the kids and he knows how hard it is for me to get out from behind the camera. He wants to start learning too so he can be my photographer.

Now on the flip side--- I wish I could learn to be as supportive of his love for all things computer related. Most of it is just over my head, so I don't really know how to be supportive of it. :/

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Danielle, how awesome your DH wants to join the photography club with you!

"daniellec.parker" wrote:

Now on the flip side--- I wish I could learn to be as supportive of his love for all things computer related. Most of it is just over my head, so I don't really know how to be supportive of it. :/

Well, computer stuff is a bit hard to get involved in, in some ways. I used to work as a computer geek (tech writer / web designer) and even I can't really engage well with DH about computer stuff. Unless you're really doing a lot of reading so that you can engage on the "have you heard about the new processors that are specifically designed for home-theatre PCs" type of chit-chat, it's kind of a solitary thing! Mind you, he does that kind of reading about camera stuff... but that's his nature. Mr. Research. Smile

My main ways of joining DH in his hobbies are basically to have learned a lot about hockey (and now I love it too!) and to watch super-hero and action movies with him. Smile

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Okay, I've gotta chime in on this one. My DH is really supportive whenever I feel like I need new gear or something. He's all into helping me research products. He knows I want to upgrade my body and he won't let me settle for something less than what I really want just because it's less money. He's great with helping me pack up my gear, set up my backdrop stand, tripod, or whatever, lug around my gear for me. But it's weird... He never really comments on my pictures, praises them, critiques them, etc. He doesn't say much of anything, but I assume he likes them, otherwise he probably wouldn't be so supportive, lol. And I always try to get him to help me wrangle the boys for pictures, and he's usually got no patience for that, so I'm usually on my own there.

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"TracyF" wrote:

Sorry Amber and El, I am so much in 'hobby' mode, I just always call it that. I know there are lots of pros here, and people worthy of being pro too!

It's so cool how many supportive DHs there are here! Smile

Tracy - this is a hobby for me too. I only do "special" shoot for some family and friends... but otherwise really not in business. I don't think I want to be, not at this point anyways... lol

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I'm lucky - I too have a really supportive DH. In fact, he's taken the lead on almost everything photo related in our family. He researched and got me my camera, my awesome lenses, even my strobes! For Christmas he got me a beauty dish for one of my strobes. And he's hinting around that maybe we can work in a new body this year (I got a raise *whoop!* and we might be able to put a bit of it aside).

He goes with me to shoots (I only shoot friends and family) and is my "crew." He sets up lights and backdrops. When we are outside, he mans the reflector (another gift from him).

He looks for photoshop freebies that I can use (like texture kits, etc) and just, in general, is super supportive.

The only time he loses patience is when I'm spending our "quality time" at the computer editing. And then, both of my boys prefer to be behind the scenes rather than in front of my lens. I feel the same way, I can't really fault them for that.

Fun thread! Cool to see so many supportive family members!

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GiGi