Just Turned Down a Wedding

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Just Turned Down a Wedding

It stinks. I've been thinking of adding weddings to my offerings. Wanted to do some portfolio building for budget seeking brides.

Got an inquiry a few days ago and was considering taking the job until she mentioned that the photos were the #1 priority for her and she sent me a link for another photographer that had the style she was looking for. That photographer is local! I recommended that she hire that photographer. LOL

It stinks cause I get so little work these days and really could use the money. But it just didn't seem right to take the job.

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That totally stinks! I would be leary of taking on that wedding as well, though. If that's her #1 priority, and it's not something that you typically do, she may end up pretty dissapointed. Hopefully she comes back to you for pregnancy/baby photos though, whtn the time comes! She must like your work!

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Well, to be honest Amber- you did the right thing. If she was looking for what that person does, you were honest with her- which is right. I am NOT saying you couldn't nail it b/c I know you can, but I love the fact that you didn't do what you wanted, you did what you felt was right. It was tough b/c of business being down, but I admire you for that.

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That's really too bad. Sad I think you probably did the right thing too, but it does suck. Sad Sure hope you can get some other business your way!

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"sadieruth" wrote:

Well, to be honest Amber- you did the right thing. If she was looking for what that person does, you were honest with her- which is right. I am NOT saying you couldn't nail it b/c I know you can, but I love the fact that you didn't do what you wanted, you did what you felt was right. It was tough b/c of business being down, but I admire you for that.

I was thinking the same thing too. While I also have no doubt you could have done a great job, that's a lot of pressure for your first wedding if she's claiming it's the most important thing to her. I think your honesty and integrity will be rewarded in the long run. I bet she refers you to a friend or something knowing you have the bride's best interest at heart.

This reminded me of a recent post by a photographer I like:

http://christiehobson.com/blog/why-i-wont-shoot-your-wedding/

OBVIOUSLY you're a MILLION times better than the photographer who shot her wedding--I'm just saying Chrisitie is awesome too and shares your sentiments about wanting what's best for the bride. Smile

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Thanks everyone for the support! It really does help. I was worried that DH would be upset at me turning it down...but he has been really supportive as well.

Just in case it helps anyone out there....this was the e-mail response I sent to her declining the work:

"Thank you so much for the links. It looks like you have a very clear idea about what you're looking for in your wedding photos. The images in the sites you shared are stunning and a lovely style. Unfortunately, because this would have been my first real wedding, I wouldn't be able to promise any certain style to the photos. It takes time to develop photographic style, and while my portraiture style is solidly developed, my wedding style is in its infancy. I can promise that I would work very hard for you to try to achieve what your looking for, but as the pictures are of highest importance to you I suggest you find an experienced wedding photographer that matches the style your seeking. If budget were the #1 priority, then perhaps you could consider a lesser experienced wedding photographer.

Caroline Tran happens to be local...and amazing! Have you inquired about her availability? She may also be able to point you in the direction of other local wedding photographers with similar sensibilities.

Thank you so much for your inquiry! I wish you the best of luck in your search for that perfect photographer. This is such a special day and you really should have confidence that it will be captured exactly the way you want it."

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Good on you Amber for being upfront and honest with her. In the long run much better to turn down the job (and money) if you weren't confident you could give her what she wanted rather than risk her being dissatisfied and your name being associated with that. Bad for business :).

The Christie Hobson article was hilarious. We had a tight budget for ours and had a friend do our photos as a gift. He was a nature photographer and I knew going in that it wasn't his speciality. As such I didn't get my expectations too high. I think he did a nice job, certainly better than the ones in the blog, but they aren't the quality I would expect from a dedicated person. My sister on the other hand paid a lot for a lady who specializes in wedding photography and was able to supply a lot of positive references, had great examples in her portfolio and on her website, etc. She ended up bitterly dissapointed. The pics aren't flattering and some are outright weird (looks like her husband is missing a leg in a couple). Plus, she specifically asked for several shots (with her grandmother, with her nieces and nephews, with her dog and holding a cocktail at the neon cocktail bar). She got none of them and it wasn't because she didn't ask again in the night. The lady always had another shot in mind first and what my sister wanted was ignored. They have 2 dozen pics of her inlaws (including parents portrait, sister in law and boyfriend, the inlaws without her) and 1 group shot poorly taken of her own family that was rushed in right before photographer left. It was bad (sorry to hijack)

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That email is great Amber!

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Really great email, Amber. You're a class act.

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Good for you, Amber.

As a side note, I have a hard time looking at my own wedding pictures these days. Since I actually know a few things about photography now, I see how much is wrong with them, and knowing how much I paid the guy that did them absolutely kills me. I would've paid you, or any number of the other ladies on this board, the same amount, and even with less experience, I'm positive that I would've gotten much better quality photos.

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I have no doubt you could do it. But, if you aren't 100% comfortable, it's a good thing to not accept.

I feel like I see too many photographers jump into situations they aren't ready for or don't feel comfortable doing. A wedding is something you NEED to be confident in (especially when it's the #1 priority of the bride). You can't 'reshoot' a wedding!

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I agree with everyone else about not taking something of that "magnitude" on if you're not comfortable! I think I would HATE myself if I messed up someone's special day! Not that you would, of course! I think you'd do GREAT! But I agree, definitely need to feel comfortable before you throw yourself to the wolves!

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That sucks, I am sure a wedding will come up that will be right up your alley one day.