I read the link that Kerry sent, moved my reflector and light and tried again:
flash is about 10'ish feet away...overexposed.
2.my assumption is the power is too low for being so far...underexposed
3. I then changed the aperture
I think I'm getting close with these 3...
7. and a labelled pull back of my livign room when i do indoor sessions. i'm still trying to figure out how i'll be able to move around with the flash in that positon with a beanbag or other subjects in the way