There aren't words (OT, Infant Death Ment)

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There aren't words (OT, Infant Death Ment)

I don't know how to start this, there are no words to make this any easier...my hands are shaking as I type this, b/c each time we have to say what has happened, it becomes more and more real.

You all may remember that my sister had a baby boy on February 20th of this year. I shared the pictures from his birth, and his newborn portraits. He was a beautiful, beautiful baby boy.

Sean Matthew passed away Tuesday morning, just 9 days short of six months old. He was asleep in his crib--he managed to grab a blanket that was draped over the crib rail (not even in the crib with him), got tangled up in the blanket, and lost his life.

My sister found him. She is beyond devastated. I have never in my life witnessed such agony, and I hope I never ever do again. We do take peace and solace knowing he is in heaven with the Lord, but the pain here on Earth is very real.

Please, please ladies--keep blankets out of cribs. We've all heard the warnings, myself included, but never experienced the most awful pain of knowing why those warnings exist. You feel like the whole world should stop spinning and acknowledge the pain.

It's hard for me to say any more right now, I'll just share a few pictures. They were supposed to come over Monday for more portraits. I...............

Her seeing him for the first time:
Courtney Meeting Sean_web

Hearing his first cry..

Courtney Hearing Sean Cry_web

In the hospital..
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Sleeping after bath_3_web

Newborn pictures
Sean_8_B&W_web

Courtney and Sean_1_B&W_web

Sean_10_web

Happy Boy_web

Sean_14_web

Sorry, I just keep posting pictures. It's all I have right now.

Please pray for her and our family. This is the most difficult thing we have ever faced. I love you all dearly, I know this is a photography board, but I also have dear friends here and I know we have your support.

XOXO

Meagan

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OMG! I am so sorry! I can't even form a coherent thought about this. I am so sorry!

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I have no words. This is so sad. You and your family are in my thoughts and my heart.

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I'm so so so sorry. I can't imagine the pain.

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Oh Meagan I'm truly sorry for your families loss.

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Oh no...Meagan, I am so, so sorry. My heart is broken for you and your family. Sad I don't even know what to say... My thoughts and love are with you guys. Sad

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Oh Meagan, my heart breaks for you all. Please know that your sister, you, and your whole family will be in our thoughts and prayers. May healing come quickly so that his life, short as it was, can be truly treasured.

(((HUGS)))
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omg that is just horrible. I cannot even imagine. In such difficult times I hope your sister and the entire family can cope as best as you all can

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I just cant imagine! There are no words of comfort I can offer, just know my thoughts are with you and your family.

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Oh Meagan...my heart is breaking for you and your sister and family! I can't even imagine. Please know that you are ALL in my prayers! I will have my small group praying for healing as well. Big huge hugs my friend!

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My heart breaks as i read this...may God wrap his arms of comfort and love around your sister and your family...

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Meagan, I am so sorry to hear of this tragic event. My heart breaks for your sister and your family. There are no words to describe the pain that your sister must be feeling. I will keep her and your family in my prayers. Take care of your sister.

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I am so sorry.Thoughts and prayers to you and your sisters family

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OMG Meagan, my heart breaks for your whole family. Sweetie, I am so so sorry for her loss. There are no words that can help, I am sure, but please send her all my love.

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Meagan I'm sooo sorry I'm in tears, my heart aches for you and your family. (((hugs)))

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I"m sorry for you loss, you family is in my prayers.

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i am in tears... i am so very sorry for your loss... my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

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I'm so sorry. Made me go and check on my little one.

Your family will be in my prayers.

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Meagan, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart is breaking for you, for your sister, for your family. I can't tell you how many times I've had blankets draped over the crib like that. How devastating!

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oh my goodness...... I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. I cant even think about what you must be going through.

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I am so sorry... such a beautiful angel. If you or your sister needs to talk to someone, please email me - [email]tifferdawns@yahoo.com[/email]
No story is the same, but I found so much comfort in the support of those who understood.

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Your family is in my thoughts and prayers! I can't even imagine how hard this would be to deal with! I'm very sorry for your loss!

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I am just in tears for your family. Praying for you all

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Oh Meagan, I am so so sorry. I'm sick to my stomach hearing this. I will keep your whole family in my thoughts.

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OMG Meagan. I'm so so so sorry. Sad I can't express my sympathy enough.

Please PM or email me if you or your sister need anything. Sad

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I am so very sorry for your family's loss, I can't even begin to imagine. I will be holding your family in my thoughts

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**I'm a lurker on this board, but share the same bb as Megan and Luke**

Meagan, I am so, so sorry for your sad loss. What an absolute tragedy for your whole family. Take care through this tough time. Such a beautiful baby boy!

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I'm so so so sorry for your families loss
I can't stop crying so I can't even imagine how you guys must feel
I'm sure there are no words to make things better but your family is in my thoughts

My daughter is over a year but I'm headed to her room now to get her blankets out of her crib.

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Megan, I am so so sorry for your family's loss! I lost a nephew at 7 months and it really is just devastating for a family. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help, even just to talk. My thoughts and prayers are with your family for healing.

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Thank you all so, so much for your kinds words, thoughts and prayers. They mean so much to me and my family.

Jodie, I'm sorry I didn't post in Nov06, it was just too hard to post it again. Thank you for your kind words.

We are having services tomorrow morning--we are all preparing for that, though I think it's impossible to prepare for the burial if an infant.

Please continue to pray for my sister, she needs all the strength she can get.

You are all wonderful women, I can't thank you enough for your support!

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I'm so sorry Sad

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I'm so so sorry. Your family is in my prayers.

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This is something I know we all fear and hope will never happen, I'm so sorry, thinking of you and your family

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Oh my God. I am truly at a loss for words. I can't even begin to imagine the pain that your sister and then entire family is feeling. No one should have to endure such a tragedy.

What a gift you were able to give your sister with those photos. I'm sure she will cherish them every single day.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Truly.

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what a horribly heart breaking thing to have to experience. many prayers for you and your family for strength and healing.

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omg i'm sitting here at work crying. i'm so so terribly sorry. there are just no words. i can't even imagine.

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Oh Meagan. My heart is just shattered for her and your family. Many prayers for strength and grace to grieve. I am so, so sorry.

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OMG how incredibly devastating! i'm so sorry for you and your sister. my prayers are with your family. my heart just breaks for your sister!

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I am so terribly sorry for you and your families loss. I will be praying for each of you that you can find peace.

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You wonderful ladies have just brought me to tears. I feel like this is such a loving community, and I have had so much solace knowing that there are beautiful women across the country praying for my sister through this dark time of grief.

I can stand strong and say that I saw those prayers being answered on Saturday when my little sister had to go her baby's funeral. Though she was completely grief-stricken, I saw an inner strength that I know came from God above. She even stood in front of a room, overflowing with people, and read a beautiful letter she wrote to her son to say goodbye. Grown men were sobbing, but she wanted and needed to read that letter to Sean. It brings me to tears to remember it. In a time of darkness I was so incredibly proud of her, and what she stood for that day.

I have been asked if it is OK to share this story with other boards in this community--and yes, it is absolutely OK. One of the reasons I wanted to share this tragedy is in the hope that maybe this horrible pain can be prevented for another family. No mother should ever have to bury her baby.

Please continue to pray for my sister. She needs all the strength she can get. Tomorrow it will have been one week. I don't even know what to type after that. A part of me is thinking that it feels like it just happened; a part of me is so grateful that my sister has survived this week; a part of me just wants to make sure she gets through each day. We all miss him so much, but the void is obviously magnified tenfold with her. It has been especially hard as people have needed to return home, to work, etc.

Gosh I've written a novel. I'm sorry! I hope I am not stepping out of line by sharing such emotions.

I may not be around too much in the next couple of weeks. I have lurked, but have not had the time or ability to post. I'll be back! Thank you for being such wonderful and supportive friends during this difficult time.

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We all love you and your family Meagan. Please continue to send all of our love and prayers.

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lurker from july 09--
oh hun.. i am so very sorry... your family are in my toughts in prayers...

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Another July '09 lurker --

I am so sorry for what happened, but thank you so much for sharing this story. I am in tears right now. I know all about SIDS risks and am very paranoid about anything that could be a SIDS risk (I wouldn't even let DS put a stuffed animal in my daughter's pack & play, which is where she sleeps right now.), but even I have left my daughter sleeping in the pack & play with a blanket draped over the edge. Thank you for reminding us all of the risks of blankets with sleeping babies. It is very likely that you have saved someone else's child (possibly even my own!) by sharing your sister's story. And thank you for sharing the pictures of your nephew. He was such a precious and beautiful little boy!

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I am so sorry for your loss and that of your sisters. I can only imagine how she must feel.

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So sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.

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I am so sorry for your family's loss. I cannot imagine what your sister must be going through. I will keep your family in my thoughts.

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I'm near tears Sad February 20th is my birthday, too. Prayers to you, your sister, and the rest of your family.

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Meagan,

I just wanted to let you know that I am so very sorry for your family's horribly tragic loss. {{{{{{HUGS}}}}} The photographs are absolutely beautiful and definitely capture such a sweet and precious little boy. Thank you for sharing them again as I missed originally. Know that you, your sister, and all of your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. If there is any other way that I can offer you support please feel free to contact me at [email]missyj@pregnancy.org[/email].

~Missy

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What a terrible, terrible tragedy. I will be praying for your sister and her family. Sad

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lurker from April 07 and November 09. I am so sorry for your families loss. I can not even imagine such pain. I will be praying for your family.

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