I don't really know if it would work - I always hesitate to give any advice b/c I just don't feel qualified LOL One fairly easy baby hardly makes me an expert on anything but diaper changing. But with Evan from day 1 we did a lot of rock and comfort him and lay him down. We did it pretty much from day 1 though. I wasn't good at CIO and DH was WAY worse so we always went to him and picked him up. If I was fairly certain he wasn't hungry I'd just calm him down and lay him back down, let him cry a few minutes and repeat. But by the time he was Andrew's age he was pretty much STTN - usually he'd wake around 4 to eat and I'd just feed him in the dark and put him back down. That faded around 10 months or so.
Hmm... seems like you're trying almost everything! DS1 had some sleep issues. He wasn't up 6x a night, but he was up for a couple hours straight at night pretty often until he was 2. The music, dark room, and a very strict bedtime routine all helped. The temp thing can be weird. LO sleeps much better in an air conditioned room with a onesie and swaddle blanket than he does in a warmer room with just the swaddle. I think feeding on demand is awesome. I mentioned it because some babies learn to "snack" and will eat often during the day and at night. So, teaching those kids to space their meals helps them space round the clock (DS1 was like that). Others eat more often during the day because they're filling up for night time. LO is like that. He eats every 1-3 hours during the day but will go 6-8 hours at night. My technique with DS1 was change something. Anything (sleep couldn't have gotten much worse!) wait a few nights and see if anything improves. If not, change something else.
I really, really hope you get it solved. Sleep issues are so draining. I can't imagine going through that without DH around! Does he at least let you rest during the day at all?
Mary - ooooh. test. I think we'll have an oops next, too, but hopefully not for a few years!
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
8.16.12 & 12.16.12
The only other thing Virginia reminded me of was that sleeping in total around 6-8 months I got very routine about. Naps were a certain time, bed was a certain time, the routine leading up to naps and bed was a certain way. For the first 6 months or so we were pretty loose and it all worked fine but after that we needed a schedule and I needed sleep to take place in his crib. I was pretty set on the schedule and it took a while for naps with Evan especially some days we'd spend an hour fighting to get a 45 minute nap. But eventually it clicked and we had a nap time, bed time, STTN
IN other sad news a rescue friend passed in her sleep Thurs night and we all just found out today. I'm so sad. She was a wonderful woman in her 50s. I just can't believe it.
Jen recommended a book to me on Facebook called the Sleep Lady, so i'm going to give that a try.
Sorry to hear about your friend Katie
Andrew - born 12/21/2010 5 weeks early!
Sandra - Natalie hated the swaddle early on but as she got a little older loved it, that may work. I've never properly co-slept so my girls transitioned to beds well.
I find routine is good to get a baby to sleep, so something like a bath, a book, a bottle then bed, this can be transitioned into toddlerhood without the bottle to get them to settle in too. Routines have worked well on both my girls.
Katie - Sorry to hear about your friend. What happens to the animals in situations like that?
Last night my parents took the girls and we went to see Cowboys and Aliens, it was a fun and entertaining movie, I strongly recommend it.
It's a holiday Monday here and a pretty quiet day. I cleaned up the kitchen then got my gardening done, which was way past due the weeds were invading! During a short part of Natalie's nap I relaxed and played World of Warcraft, it was good to just be able to chill out.
Been having some serious baby fever lately, not really sure what brought it on this time. I'm still a bit saddened that I won't be having a 3rd, for some reason I've always wanted 3 (2 girls and a boy in that order, like my grandma).
* Amanda *
Amanda - in this case she had her own dog and one foster dog. RIght now her husband has both dogs. We have extended an offer to take the foster (and their own dog if he needs it for a time) but we actually don't expect him to take it up except perhaps to go to her burial. She was actually in Nova Scotia when she passed. She was originally Canadian and was in the ministry for the United Church of Canada - a life long dream of hers she finally had the ability to follow. She was at seminary for a few months finishing up her schooling. She will be buried with her father in Canada. They had no children just the two dogs. So sad.
On an unrelated note Evan has had diarrhea the last 2-3 days and his poor little bottom is so red He's never had it this bad or long I'm sure it's just a bug he's eating and drinking totally fine but if it doesn't clear up soon I'll call the doc b/c his bum can't handle it much longer
Sandra, as soon as I switched from BF to a big bottle of whole milk or formula at bedtime when Luke was 13 months, he started sleeping 12 hours through the night.
Katie, so sorry to hear about your friend. I hate when it happens so young and unexpected.
Amanda, we're planning on seeing Cowboys and Aliens this weekend. Glad you can recommend it.
Mary, oops are fun too!!
AFM, I'm totally stressing out over money. I wish I could go back in time to college and major in advertising or something that makes more money than Art Education. I never knew it would be so hard to find full-time work. I'll be at my old job three days a week and sub-ing on the other two days (but that's not reliable income).
The reason for my emotional uproar, I called my (newly changed) insurance to check on maternity cost. Instead of a nice solid $500 fee for the delivery (and everything that goes with it) I will have to pay between $1000 and $3000 (or 20%). I'm freaking out because we are very strapped for cash as it is. Plus, my insurance will go up $80/month when we add the other kid. At least my car will be paid off soon so we'll have that money free...the thought of a new car will just have to wait...
Sandra - I'm not sure if anyone else mentioned it, but the ladies on my June 09 board RAVED about The No Cry Sleep Solution. I've never read it myself, but several ladies had amazing success with it. Good luck! Cal isn't a great sleeper (has always eaten at least every 3 hours around the clock)... But after he eats, he does go right back to sleep, so I'm lucky in that respect.
Katie - Sorry to hear about your rescue friend. That's SO sad, especially for her age. I always hope I'll just go in my sleep like that, but I always picture it when I'm like 100 years old, not so young.
Cari - Sorry about the money stress... I always feel that way when I'm about to have a baby, but these things have a way of working themselves out!
Amanda - Sorry about the baby fever. It can be pretty brutal.
AFM - Today has been overly frustrating. I took the boys to the doctor for the ringworm... Of course Sean's is 99% faded... I've been treating his with antifungal cream for probably about 10 days. The spot where Cal's started is also quite faded, but then he had more crop up on his other arm, which are still visible. Well... Since the doc doesn't have the whole history to go on that we have and was not able to see Sean's, she doesn't think it's even ringworm (it TOTALLY is)... She thinks Cal just has eczema and sent in a rx for a topical steroid. *Sigh* So anyway, I'm 100% sure I'm right and she's wrong (lol)... So I'll just start treating the new spots with the antifungal cream. Grrrr. She said to call back if it's not better with the steroid in a week, but I'm not going to sit around and let it spread and not treat it for a week when I know it's RW and not eczema.
Then to make matters worse, I asked the receptionist about that 422-dollar credit they owed me from where I paid a bill that my insurance had also paid. In case you don't recall, I found out just over a month ago at the boys' well-checks that I had paid this bill that I shouldn't have because my insurance paid it... From JANUARY 2010!! A YEAR AND A HALF later, I found out. Soooo... They said the head doctor has to be the one to issue refunds and he'd mail me a check. Well, a month passed and I heard nothing of it and did not get a check. So I called... the billing lady told me it was sitting on his desk and he had to be the one to write the checks, so he'd do it. But it had been "sitting on his desk" for A MONTH. Seriously?! So she said, "Well, I can't write refund checks, but if you want, I can refund it to your card." So I thought, "Why did she not just tell me this to begin with??" So I gave her my card info and she "issued a refund"... I got a receipt in the mail on Friday. Well... It's not showing up in my account, so I asked the bank, they have no record of it, and said to ask my doc's office again. So today, I asked again and they got a bit snarky with me and said they did their part and they have no control over how long it takes the bank to credit my account. I told her that I had just talked to my bank and they can't even see it as a pending transaction. They gave me attitude about it and I'm like You should be happy I'm not screaming at you and making a scene, because that's what my customers do over FAR LESS money (and I know we share some customers). They've been keeping MY money for a year and a half and are not returning it to me in a timely manner. They should be kissing my butt. Sooooo... I called the bank back again and they told me that they should at least be seeing it as a pending credit by now if my receipt says 7/27... They have no record of it, so they filed a missing funds dispute for me, and my doctor's office now has 10 business days to get me my money. GRRRRRRRRR. SUCH a pain to get MY money. Grr grr grr. End rant.
Sean Thomas - 6/30/09 @ 7:17pm 8lb 8oz, 19", 40w5d
Calvin Michael - 2/28/11 @ 7:39pm 6lb 8oz, 18", 37w5d
Nolan Matthew - 5/1/13 @ 11:54pm 6lb 4oz, 19", 38w4d
May 26, 2010 - 7w1d
Mary, that sounds so frustrating! If it was me, I'd be crying trying to deal with all that. In fact, I did cry on the phone with the insurance company when I found out how much it cost. I'll blame the hormones, but really, I'm a crybaby when I get frustrated.
AFM, I posted an ad last night on craig's list trying to sell a headboard our IL's gave us and I already had a lady come over and buy it and haul it away. That was an easy $75. What else do I have lying around...
Sandra- Evan is still up a lot at night too. Usually 3 x's but then Aiden still wanders out of bed another 1-2x's so I am feeling you in the sleep department. All 3 of my boys have been crappy sleepers for the first year of their life. And not to sound totally depressing but I think I've had 3 full nights of sleep since Mason was born 5 years ago. Hopefully it doesn't take that long for you!!
Mary- That is crappy. It amazes me how fast they seem to want their money but when it comes to issuing a refund to someone... totally different story!
Cari- Congrats & hi. I've been MIA for the board for a little while but normally post more.
Katie- I hope Evans poop problems clear up soon. Poor guy
Mason Reid 7/4/06 @ 8lbs 2oz 19 1/2 in
Savannah Jean 9/29/07 @ 8lbs 14 1/2oz 19 in
Aiden James 8/4/09 @ 10lbs 4 1/2 oz 21 1/2 in
Evan Alexander 11/23/10 @ 8lbs 7 oz 20 1/2 in