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Happy New year I hope you all have a great 2014!!

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2ww? Don't mind if I do Wink

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Happy New Year!

Wish me an uneventful first day back at work.

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Hope work was ok Amanda. Next week should be crazy for me because my boss is back after over a week off. I also have a ninety day review with her which I am eager and a little nervous for.

So I knew new years was my prime time and we totally decided to throw caution to the wind. I am itching to know now....2ww is frustrating even if you aren't necessarily trying

We have a second viewing on our house (and a new first). Oh how much I want it to just sell.....

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Oh, you're totally pregnant then, Katie. KUP! EDD around Sept 22, right? My sister is 9/22 and my cousin is 9/24... both New Year's babies.

Arthur is finally off the nebulizer and getting back to his cheerful self. DH is in Europe on business, so it has been a zoo around here recently. I started the new year with the worst AF cramps I've ever had. Now I'm on day 7 of spotting/light bleeding, but I'm sure it's annov.

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Yup I think 9/24 would be my EDD exactly Smile We shall see. Saturday I can test Wink I have three tests so I can take one at 10 DPO for kicks - I did get positives with the boys then.

Sorry things have been so hectic. I travel for work next week so DH will have that circus here. I'm in Cali for a week. Ugh. I usually don't go away more than 4 days. A week feels terribly long.

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Virginia - Yay for Arthur being better.

Katie - Hope the week away flies by, at least you are some place warm, -19?C (-2?F) this morning when I came into the office BURR!

*AFM*

Yesterday was a "snow" day because of the cold and squalls for the girls so I didn't get much done around the house, as I had hoped, because I was watching Natalie. Today am in the office again.

Natalie started swimming lessons yesterday evening, she thought they were "Awesome!"

My BFF is due with a baby in early February, she's been having some complications (likely because of another medical condition she has) and will be induced before then because of them. I go to her shower this weekend. DH and Dana are off to a hockey tournament so Natalie, my Mom and I going to the shower.

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GL, Katie!
Amanda - have fun at the shower! I hope everything goes smoothly for your BFF and her baby.

AFM: I'm still really torn over whether we should ever have another baby. Good thing I have some more time to make up my mind. If we were to go for it, I think the ideal time to TTC would be Sept-Nov this year. that sounds so soon.
My sister had her fist RE appointment this week. She's been TTC for 2 years (1 ectopic in that time). She'll hopefully be having her testing done next week. I hope there is something easy the doc can do to help, but I suspect they'll end up needing IVF. I wish I could send her some of my fertility. Or, at this point, maybe all of it.

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Virginia - I think you should go for it Smile You are a great Mama and you have great little boys. I hope your sister gets some answers Sad That has to be hard.

Amanda - sounds like fun! I hope she has a safe delivery

AFM - oh things have been crazy. Not really good crazy. Sigh. We had major house issues in NY. We found out Sunday when a family went to look for a second time. That only made us more depressed. So we've had to do a bunch of work - apparently our furnace had issues (it is 5 or 6 years old there is NO reason for it to have a problem) and a pipe burst and we've got major damages. Ugh. DH is going to NY Friday-Sunday to deal with it (we have hired people who have started already) and to see his dad who was in the hospital last week. He's home now and doing better but it will be good for DH to see him. Just all around disappointment and stress. Not our week but I keep reminding myself it's only money (we may or may not get insurance coverage) and things can be replaced we are happy and healthy and that's what's important. But it's been a rough week.

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Oh no! I'm sorry about the house problems. Are they interested if you fix the issues? It has been bitterly cold up here (laugh all you want, Amanda!). I had to take all the kids out a bunch this week evening though temps were in the single digits and windchills were 10+ below zero (F, I couldn't be complaining if it were C!). Ick. Today I was out and though "wow, it's warming up nicely today. I think I can take my coat off!" It was 20F.

Some days I'm sure I want to talk DH into a 5th, then other days I think about what a roller coaster TTC was last time with the 2 m/c and how stressful the pregnancy with Arthur was. I'm not entirely sure I want to open that can or worms again. I bet if my sister is able to get pregnant before then I'll want to go for it. Especially if we get to stay in this area.

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Virginia - I'm glad everyone is healthy again!

Amanda - have fun at the baby shower.

Katie - in so sorry about the issues with your house! I hope it all goes smoothly. I can't believe you're in the 2ww!

AFM - man it's been an eternity since I've posted here! Things are crazy here and there's a lot of cabin fever going around... It's finally warm (heh like 15-20) so we're finally getting out again. Everyone got sick a week or so ago, so that was fun. I'm ready to go to the Bahamas or something!

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Tomorrow I can test Smile I debated it today but decided not to. With all the house stress I've been perpetually sick to my stomach but I think it's more mass anxiety. It's been one of the most anxiety producing weeks I've experienced in a long time. And NOTHING seems to go easily, they keep finding more issues, then DH's flight is cancelled....it's just a cluster constantly. I feel like we're trapped in a bad movie. Sigh. DH did get on a later but not too late flight so that is good. Now just hoping it leaves on time.

I keep telling myself the GOOD things we have going. Dh had two great interviews for two jobs he's very interested in. I had a great three month review at work people there are very happy with me. Evan is starting a gymnastics class tomorrow. There is a lot of good. I'm just stressed and the house feels like such a big unknown....and now once it's all back in shape I'll be terrified something will happen again until we sell it. It's awful. One day at a time and focusing on the fact it is only money....blah!

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Hang in there, Katie. And good luck with the test tomorrow!

My sister has her HSG next week. Fingers crossed her remaining tube (lost one to ectopic) is either open or gets forced open by the dye. She's been trying for over two years and deserves to finally get a break. She'll be such an awesome mom and it's so unfair that she has to struggle like this.

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Katie - Can't wait to hear the results of the test. Glad you can find some positive things to focus on with all problems that crop up, I am sure they will resolve.

Virginia - Fingers crossed for your sister.

It makes me sad that people like her can't have a kid, yet my SIL has 3 that she just basically abandoned and there are others like her. My aunt is pregnant with her 3rd and is already complaining about being overwhelmed with 2, complains about the kids being a handful ALL THE TIME! Just makes me so MAD! Ok enough with the rant.

Quiet day in the office, and DH and Dana are off to a hockey tournament, so I won't see them until Sunday. I hope to get some house work done this weekend since the only plans are to go to my BFFs baby shower, and Natalie's hockey.

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Virginia - Thinking about your sister! I hope she gets some answers or help.

Amanda - have fun at the shower, I hope Dana has a good tournament.

DH missed being there for the insurance adjuster but the gal handling all the interior work was there. It's a total mess but so far he hasn't told us to go pound sand. Not knowing if insurance will come through is making me a basket case. I mean we can find the resources and for that I should be thankful but it would be tapping in to things like 401ks that you really don't want to do unless you have no choice. I keep telling myself we will do what we have to do but I really want to know. We do have confirmation it was the furnace failing which is actually better - we had propane, we were on auto propane delivery, we have electricity we just had a bum furnace. Hopefully after all the house stuff DH can go to his parent's house and have a nice weekend with them, his dad has been sick and it will be good to see him. Then we just wait on insurance, scary....

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Any news, Katie?

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I couldn't reply this weekend bc I hadn't told DH but totally BFP :). Now I think that maintains our nearly flawless record of getting pregnant when not using protection near o haha. Of course I have had three early mcs so we will wait to tell anyone so this is not for Facebook etc. But it looks like of all goes well we will have a September baby!!

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Katie - Congrats and HH9M.

*AFM*

The shower was good, my friend won't be going long they'll likely induce in the next few weeks, meaning she won't make her February EDD, I told her it would be neat if baby could share a birthday with Natalie. I doubt that will happen though since Natalie's birthday is on a weekend this year. I won the guess the belly size game, got a nice moisturizing hand sanitizer as a prize. Natalie was at the shower and behaved extremely well most of the time, had a meltdown when we had to leave.

Natalie had hockey yesterday, I let her have a good nights rest so she was really happy on the ice had a wonderful time. If she learns to keep her feet closer together and and lift both she could really go fast, she'll be skating better than me in no time.

My cousin turned 19 yesterday and my parents held a small party for her, just dinner and cake/dessert. She was very happy and grateful for it she's never really had anything like it.

Natalie didn't want to go to school today, said she finds school boring, I might have to give the principal a call about it, this is not the first time she mentioned being bored.

For me today doesn't have much going on, I'm just in the office.

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Katie - CONGRATULATIONS!!! What wonderful news! I'm so sorry about all the house stuff. Hopefully it sells soon!

Amanda - how neat that Natlie is so good on the ice. I took Xander ice skating for the first time a few weeks ago and he really surprised me with how well he did! Not that he was like speed skating, but he STAYED UP most of the time! lol

Virginia - I hope your sister gets good news!

AFM - I got to drive Xander to school on black ice today, so that was fun... I drove like a total grandma, too. lol I need to move somewhere warm, because I've lived with this my entire life and I still hate driving in snow, ice, sleet, etc. I turn into crazy way overcautious lady, the one with the giant trail of cars behind her... lol But I saw a ton of cars go flying all over the place, so clearly I was in the right this time. haha I'm just sooooo sick of driving everyone around all the time! I feel like I spend half my day driving.

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Katie - congrats and sticky vibes.

My sister's first test came back indicating she has low ovarian reserve. She has the HSG in a few days then they'll decide if they are going to keep trying or pursue adoption.

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So sorry she didn't get better news Virginia Sad I hope she gets to be a mom via one route or another. Seems so unfair some of us can get preg by one well timed DTD and others have so much trouble.

Lauren - come south! It's been rainy but not cold and people FREAK out if there is ice. I like it. I wondered if I'd miss winter...nope not so much!

Amanda - that has to be hard I hope they can help challenge Natalie

AFM - still waiting to hear back from insurance but so far no denial or any indication of a problem so that is good. No real pregnancy symptoms but I'm 13 DPO so not really shocking. I will give it a week or two then find myself a doctor LOL

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Just doing a quick update, should be working not on forums. My BFF got a date for being induced, it's this Friday.

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Good luck to your BFF, Amanda! How far along will she be? I hope everything goes smoothly.

Katie - Start looking around for a doctor now so you have time to find one you like.

AFM: I've been feeling less and less done over the past couple weeks. I'm hoping it's temporary, but it hasn't gone away yet. DH is pretty sure he wants to be done and I was feeling okay with that after Arthur was born, but now I find myself daydreaming of adding not one, but two, more. I must be crazy. I think finding out that my mom plans to retire next summer is to blame. I was thinking of having another June 2015 and that's the month she'll be free! Now if only we were planning to move right near her instead of potentially 10 hours away. :sad11:

Arthur is awesome. They're all awesome. Raymond is doing great in school and it taking ballet/tap twice a week. He loves it and is doing a really good job. He's also starting a lego engineering class in a couple weeks and DH has been teaching him a little guitar and I've been teaching him a little recorder. We drums and a kids' piano, too (no room for a real one yet) and we're waiting to see what kind of instrument sticks. Alex is super excited for Kindergarten next fall. He's still by far the most social member of the family and has been going kind of stir-crazy this winter without his playground and biking time. Oliver is finally starting to talk and may actually have weaned again (ha ha. It's been a week or so, but who knows). He loves preschool and likes to put his backpack on every morning (including weekends) just in case. And Arthur is babbling and smiling and trying to laugh. Everyone comments on how big and happy and alert he is. His sleep isn't amazing, but it's good enough. He loves his food.

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Virginia - I am not sure I could consider with having to handle 4 kids so close in age. Natalie is willful, spirted and entheustic it's wonderful but exhausting.

I think it's great that you don't force sterotypes on your boys, so many people do, hope he's enjoying dancing.

Sounds like you have a wonderful bunch of boys.

*AFM*

My BFF, has been having some complications with her pregnancy, that's why she's being induced, I think she will be around the 37 week mark (give or take a few days).

Natalie had a much better day at school yesterday, and she was entheustic to go today.

Dana went skiing for her second time ever (first time she was about 6 and CRAZY!) she said she had fun but didn't do very well, though some of the kids from the ski team helped her out, she liked that.

Doing house work today, it seems never ending...

On our way home from Nat's school on Tuesday we found that they flooded the baseball diamond and turned it into a skating rink, going to take Natalie there after school today.

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Virginia- I say go for it Smile you have great kids you are great parents the more the better! I have googled some practices with midwives so that is good. Unfortunately depending how it plays out there is a very real chance dh might miss it. If it is middle of the night or a bad timed weekend we may nit have anyone to watch the boys. The realities of being twelve hours from family. We may have some friends by then but close enough to call at 2am ?? That seems hard to imagine....

Amanda - I skied growing up but haven't in years. I hope Natalie had fun!!

I am on a week long business trip ugh. Hoping it goes fast I miss my family already at least I am bus

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Katie - get out and meet your neighbors! Hopefully you'll click with one and have somebody nearby when you need a hand.

Amanda - I hope your girls have fun with all the winter sports. I grew up skiing (cross country and downhill) and skating but haven't done anything more than sledding with the boys. I'd love to get the whole family cross country skiing or snowshoeing if we manage to stay up north. DH is pretty clumsy, so I don't want him near ice skates or a ski slope. He'd injure himself.

Yes, 4 is crazy sometimes. Arthur is doing a growth spurt and he doesn't mess around. He was up hourly to eat last night. I'm going to start having a mother's helper next week a couple times (a neighbor's teen daughter). I hope it works well. It would all be totally manageable if DH had decent, reliable hours. But, I'm not sure there are any jobs like that anymore.

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Virginia - I used to alpine ski, haven't in years though, would love to do it again but it's EXPENSIVE. We all have skates so we do that at least a couple of times each year, I am clumsy but haven't managed to harm myself in any way skiing or skating.

Here is a picture of Natalie skating out doors at the baseball diamond.

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I love the picture! I'll have to get another of Arthur up soon. He's getting so big so fast. I was putting away baby clothes the other day and made a big donate box and when Raymond heard we were giving some of the tiny baby clothes away he almost started crying and said he still wanted more babies. Awww.

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My BFF had her baby Saturday Morning, it's a girl, both mom and baby are doing well. Smile

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Virginia - hopefully we'll be moved prior to baby and have some neighbors to meet. Where we are no one talks. It's a nice street but there's no social interactions at all. Hopefully we'll move to a neighborhood but we'll see. Can't wait to see Arthur!

Amanda - yay for your friend! I hope they are home and doing well! And your daughter looks so at ease on skates with the hockey stick! You'll have two running around playing before you know it!

AFM today I head home after an entire week away. OMG I am so sick of hotels, eating out, being away....I miss my family like crazy. Nuts how homesick one week can make me! But I'll be home tonight, then two days of work and a weekend with the family! Saturday Evan will have gymnastics and then after we're going to the local school fair where we can learn about the magnets and all the districts etc. We have a year but it's good to get the info now I think

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I have a bit of spotting this morning. We will see but this is right around where I have mc'd twice before so I'm not feeling hopeful. I had just contacted a birth center and started to feel excited. We will see....spotting doesn't make me hopeful

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I hope it works out, Katie. Do you have any more tests around? It could give you an idea of where you stand. With my 5w m/c my test when I started spotting was way lighter than I'd expect. I've never spotted with a viable pregnancy, but I know many women do. Good luck.

AFM: we're in the midst of registering Alex for kindergarten for next year. Crazy! Arthur has another cold (head cold this time) and his sleep has been terrible again. DH and I are having trouble agreeing on where we want to go and what we want to do when we move. It's really stressful. I didn't know how hard it would be for me to face potentially moving away from family, but now that it's getting closer ever time he brings it up I get really anxious. I hope we can find some compromise (I've never lived more the 3 hours from my parents and right now everyone is within 1.5 hours of each other. I love it!)

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Come to NC I could use a mama friend Smile It is hard good luck with your decisions. I don't regret moving but it is a challenge and making friends as an adult who is very happy to be home has its challenges.

Well I had the light spotting yesterday morning but nothing since. I only have digital tests. I will just wait....I can't change things so we wait. If things do go ok I did find a birth center an hour away where the boys would be welcome and I think despite the drive hassle we will go with that.

Our ny house is close to back together. What a huge hassle...It has been one stress after another I need a break!

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Come to NC I could use a mama friend Smile It is hard good luck with your decisions. I don't regret moving but it is a challenge and making friends as an adult who is very happy to be home has its challenges.

Well I had the light spotting yesterday morning but nothing since. I only have digital tests. I will just wait....I can't change things so we wait. If things do go ok I did find a birth center an hour away where the boys would be welcome and I think despite the drive hassle we will go with that.

Our ny house is close to back together. What a huge hassle...It has been one stress after another I need a break!

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can you drive an hour during labor? I know after this most recent one finding some place close is going to be my highest priority if we have another baby. I'm glad the spotting stopped.

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I think I can so long as I air on the side of caution which I suppose may lead to a false alarm or two but with Rory I knew I was in labor around 6pm I didn't go to the hospital until after 1am but I could have gone earlier. So I think I can make the trip I just have to not hang at home. They said they have people come from much much further than an hour often, she wasn't phased by an hour at all, or kids, she said her daughter was there for her birth. We have a tour planned in Feb (tour is required prior to first appointment).

No issues this weekend so yay to that!

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I'd have loved a birth center, but with my medical issues and the fact that my labour is so fast and the nearest center is over an hour away it couldn't have happened.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Katie that the pregnancy is healthy.

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I'm hoping we can do a birth center if we have more. I've always wanted one, but haven't had one nearby.
I'm glad your house is back together!

Yesterday I kept running into people who mentioned they came from a big family (6-7 kids) or had one (a really nice old lady I met). It sounds so nice, but like so much work.

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Well Virginia I definitely think if any mom can do it you clearly can! You have 4 all 2 years apart and seem to do it was relative ease.

Things here seem good. Maybe the light spotting was implanting? I don't know but it never came back and I officially felt coffee aversion starting this week and that's my sign LOL THe only time I ever don't want coffee is the first trimester. I have had none today and the idea makes me feel barfy. That and I'm drinking gallons of water. I'm feeling excited and nervous and all those things!

The house should be ready to be shown mid week! DH is going to NY to see everything and be sure we're happy with it all. We're still waiting on insurance but it seems like it's fine though I keep bracing myself for the fact that could change ? Either way the house is just about complete and that's a relief. What a stressful month. DH also got a job. He has mixed feelings he has loved being home and the boys have had a wonderful time. On one hand he knows four months home is more than many dads (or parents) ever get and on the other he wishes it could be more. But it is a great paying job that has no travel and seems to have limited stress/after hours responsibility. So we'll see. With the baby coming we'd like to get the NY house sold and buy here so we'll see how it all comes out!

This baby has me EXHAUSTED I have been asleep on the couch by 9 every night!