I'm really trying to give DH the benefit of the doubt that maybe he's upset about the miscarriage and not sure how to handle it, but he is being so incredibly inconsiderate and pretty darn mean.
Had a giant family party to go to yesterday. I wanted to stay home while DH took DS so I could rest after the D&C and just take some time to myself to recover without having to chase a toddler around. DH says he's not going without me and that we will just stay for an hour and the minute I have to chase Luke we'll leave. Well, 5 hours at the party with me chasing Luke the entire time, and me asking to leave several times, left me tired and in pain. It didn't help that DH's grandma, a woman known for saying all the wrong things, was in my face lecturing me that my son behaves naughty because I let him get away with it and how long am I going to let him do that to me? She also told me I should have had twins because then my son wouldn't be so spoiled.
Today I say that I am resting and DH needs to take over baby duty. He says, "you need to help me a little", which means I change him, I get him dressed, I chase him when he goes behind the tv. Where's the rest? He's yelling at me telling me I'm acting insane. I say, yes, I AM going insane because I've gone through this horrible thing and I am not getting any time to myself to deal with it. He screams that we're not having any more children and he's going to stay in a hotel tonight and doesn't want to be with me anymore. He's so stressed, and he's been so stressed for a long time, due to finances and they way I "talk to him"...
All I have to say is, bulls***! I know, let's take the worst possible time in someone's life and try to make it worse. Let's rub it all in by saying "no more kids", so that was my last chance and now it's gone. I tell him he's being an a**, because really he is, and he throws it back in my face "then why would you want to be with me?" This is such crap.