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    Hubby is deploying

    Going to stay with my mom for a month up in Nebraska to get *some* help with Andrew and to get away while I 'adjust' to my feelings.

    I've unfortunately picked up smoking again. Not much, 1-2 a day, but I'm still so disappointed in myself. I wont be smoking in Nebraska, but I have a feeling that when I get back home (alone), I'll probably have one to round out my day. Just dealing this last week alone with Andrew drove me to massive depression (not helped by my Reglan prescription for milk which causes crazy depression). My plans are when I"m back in Florida that I will have LOTS of play dates with my BFF and go see my family friends (an hour away) a bit more often as well. I figure the less time I"m at home to sulk, the better.

    But, the positive is that even though Rob is deploying, he will be back with the main force, so he wont be gone very long comparatively speaking. Sometime in September is what we're told. His conditions terrify me though. He says he will be living in a tent and his "office" is a plywood shelter. Please keep him in your prayers/thoughts during this deployment.
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    We'll miss you - check in and let us know how you (and Andrew) are doing ok? I'll think of your DH and all the other men and women away from their families. Enjoy the time with your mom in Nebraska, and visit us here when you can!
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    I can't imagine what it must be like. I'm glad you're going to spend time with your mom instead of all alone. GL and keep in touch when you can.
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    Every deployment is 100% different so I'm not going to go on some soapbox and yadda yadda you about how "you can do it". My 'advice' is just do the best you can. I, personally, was always surprised at how well I ended up adjusting. It's harder with a kid, I won't downplay that (Jacob was 5 months old when DH left for the last one), but I will also say he kept me MUCH more distracted then when it was just me alone trying to cope with DH being gone.

    Hopefully his deployment won't be super long (to me that's the worst part, the length- I can handle him being gone for a few months, but after that 6-7-8 mark I start getting REALLY antsy. If activities will help, INVOLVE YOURSELF! I mean there are probably more things than you realize out there (and things Andrew could go with you to; or things FOR him to do/enjoy as he gets older)-- for me, it was almost more overwhelming to be on the go 24/7. I would also start looking into a regular babysitter Or someone you can use a few times and become comfortable with. You guys should get family separation pay (right?) so that would help offset the costs of a babysitter. If nothing else, go get yourself a pedicure once a month, go to the library and read a book for an hour, go to a craft store and wonder, just do something for you!

    FWIW as far as 'conditions' DH has done everything from tents with no internet to "the hilton of Iraq" with Burger King and Starbucks on his FOB's/the base (no, I'm not kidding). Believe it or not, his "hilton of Iraq" location was MORE dangerous than his tents and no internet location. I won't let myself think about it-- IMO, that's the best way to handle it and when people ask me "Oh, aren't you worried about him", I laugh and say: "of course I am, but if I sat on my butt all day and "worried" I wouldn't be able to function. I know he'll be safe, so let's not even talk about it."

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    Well i think as far as babysitting goes, we do have my BFF (who has a 9 month old) and my neighbors across the street. My neighbors obviously are the easier choice because they can devote the attention to andrew whereas my friend might not be able to since she'll be chasing her own child. The neighbors have 2 pre teen/teen boys and then a 4 year old girl, so it would probably be easier for them to babysit and we are starting to become pretty good friends with them too. Infact, they're mowing the lawn while we're gone for free

    I've done 2 weeks alone, and by the end of the two weeks, i was sooo drained mentally, phsically and emotionally. This deployment isnt very long - basically long enough to be a pain in the ***, but not long enough for him to miss too many moments. They're aiming for sometime in september last we heard. But, that's always subject to change knowing them.

    I think I really need to start leaning on my family friends a bit more - they are like family to me. It is my (passed) father's best friend and wife/daughter. Their daughter was born 2 weeks after I was, so we grew up together until they moved away when we were around 7. They are still like family to me though and I KNOW my dad would want me to be around them as much as I can. I've only seen them a few times since moving here though since it is such a long drive.

    When I was over visiting last weekend, the mom offered to watch andrew so me and Ashley (their daughter) could go out on the town and hit up the bars or see a movie or something, so I will DEFINITELY be taking her up on that!
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    I'm going to start with something you may not want to hear, but maybe it is time to get Andrew on formula and get off the drugs that cause you depression. I know you struggled a lot in the beginning and I think you've done an excellent job with getting him breast milk, but I think it's time you start taking care of yourself. Both my girls were on formula, even though I wanted to breast feed, and both have grown happy and healthy. I wanted to put in my 2 cents, but you are the parent and the choice really is yours.

    Sorry to hear your DH will be going away, my DH has only gone away for 1 week trips with work and I found those weeks difficult, so I can't even imagine how hard it will be for you. I am glad you have a chance to go to Nebraska and get some help from your mom, also it sounds like you have some other great family support, definitely use that option. I am a strong believer in getting help from friends and family when it comes to getting help with your kids, no matter what their age.

    I'll be checking your Facebook for updates, but would love to see some updates here when you have a chance.


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    I tried stopping the meds for awhile but it didnt seem to matter either way how I felt, so I figure if I'm going to be depressed, I might as well atleast make milk for Andrew in the process. I'll find a way to work through this depression.
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    I'm glad that you will be with family and friends! Spending time with people who love you is really important. We'll miss you around here, check back in when you can!
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    Lots of ((((huggles)))) I'm sorry that your DH is being deployed.

    I was prescribed Reglan to try and up my milk supply too, but after one day on it I had almost every bad side effect listed on the bottle, the shaking and all that. It was awful. So I stopped. I'm sorry if it's contributing to your depression. I hope getting some help from family and friends will help you out.


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