*UPDATE: Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and advice on this sensitive subject. DH and I decided to put the remains in our garden and plant some bulbs on top that will bloom this time of year. When I see the flowers bloom each year, it will be a lovely reminder of the little one we loved so much.
I posted earlier about bleeding, and unfortunately I ended up losing the baby yesterday. Sorry if TMI, but the baby and sac came out totally in tact. I called my insurance company to see if they would cover the cost of chromosomal testing, and they said since the test is not for me, and the baby is not a covered a member, it would not be covered.
Right now the baby is in a cup in our refrigerator, and DH and I are struggling with what to do with it. I can't just throw it away or flush it down the toilet - it has arms and legs and beautiful little eyes, and I just saw the heart beating 2 days ago. A proper grave doesn't seem appropriate either. I'm thinking about putting it in a flower pot and planting some flowers, or putting it in the ground with a rose bush or tree. DH isn't sure he wants a constant reminder of our loss, but to me it seems like the little life will continue on by nourishing a plant or tree.
Has anyone else struggled with this situation? I appreciate any thoughts or advice.