1st intercourse after m/c

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1st intercourse after m/c

I had a natural m/c last Tuesday. Because of hemorrhaging I only bleed for 5 days. After waiting another 5 days I thought I was ready to sleep with DH. We took it slow and shallow. Now 2 days later I'm still very sore/raw and I have brown sludge when I wipe. I don't know if it was just to soon, to dry (no lubrication), or I've developed an infection. I was just wondering if any of you can share your thoughts/stories? I don't go back to the Dr. for 5 more days.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, hon. :bigarmhug:

After my d&c last Monday, my doctor said absolutely no intercourse for 2 weeks. Maybe 5 days was a little to soon? I hope this helps.


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My doc had me on pelvic rest for 2 weeks after the bleeding stopped. I'd hold off on DTD again until you see your doc.

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You're probably still just bleeding from the miscarriage. I bled for four weeks after my miscarriage, but the last week was sorta the brown sludge you're describing.

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I bled for close to 8 weeks. If it is infection you should develop a fever, and then you need to RUN, not walk, to your Dr.


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I'm sorry for your loss :bigarmhug: After my D&C my doctor also had me on pelvic rest for 2 weeks. I think my bleeding lasted for about that long as well. It was probably just a little too soon for DTD. I'd stop doing that until your next dr visit when you can ask him about it.

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my doc did not put me on pelvic rest, but she might have forgotten. I actually dont remember when we dtd after the d&c. It might have been just over a week, but Im not sure. Im sorry Im not much help! Im so sorry for your loss.

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I'm sorry for your loss. I had a d&c but i was also told not to put anything in there for 2 weeks.

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it doesn't sound like an infection. I slept wiht my DH about 7 days after my m/c as I had stopped bleeding but I started spotting again right after. I think it's because everything is still recovering from the loss, I would give it a few days, if it doesn't clear up go and see your doc

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Hi. I'm a lurker; I had a D&C last Thursday, but before that I had that brownish-sludge for about 2 weeks. After the first week of bleeding I thought my miscarriage was over, about 10 days after I found out I had m/c I DTD with my hubby; It's probably just still from the miscarriage. I would stop bleeding for up to 4 days and then start again....
I ended up having to have a D&C because my body wouldn't complete the process and my HCG's were slowly going back up...
I'd wait until you see your doc.
Are your hcg levels back down yet?


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I don't have anything new to add, I was also told 2 weeks. Keep us posted if you'd like on how your doc appt goes. I, too, am sorry for your loss~ :bigarmhug:


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After my three natural losses, I was told not to have sex for at last 2 weeks. After my D&C, I was told 4 weeks. I had the brown-sludge for weeks and you want to make sure your cervix is completely closed (which is why you're waiting) so no infections occur.

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i did it 5 days after. we were in bed and i was getting all worked up about the new apartment, the old apartment, the MC and i told hubby to make me forget. it worked! anway, i thought my bleeding had stopped at that point but he seemed to stir it all up again and i went for 2 more whole days with it, but it was always BRIGHT for me, then it just stopped completely.

my DR did tell me we could resume as soon as i was comfortable, but i lost mine on a saturday and didnt want to go to the ER so i waited til monday to see them and the bleeding was down to a trickle by then. i was only 6 weeks and they said my body did a very good job of taking care of it anyway.

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:bigarmhug: I am sorry for your loss. I miscarried on February 1. I bled for about a week, and I think I had sex about a week after I stopped bleeding. I didn't have any problems. AF came on March 8. I was only about 8 weeks along. My doctor didn't say anything about waiting to have sex, but I didn't even get to see her after the miscarriage; I just saw the nurse and the ultrasound tech. I think that many doctors tell women to wait a couple of weeks after miscarriage before having sex because like a PP said, if the cervix is not completely closed, you could get an infection. Watch for signs of infection, such as a fever. If you do have a fever, you should see your doctor ASAP.

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