2nd M/C in 1year.......I must be defective.........

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2nd M/C in 1year.......I must be defective.........

I found out early today that I lost this preganancy.....it's our 2nd loss in less than 12mos.....at least this one "seems" to have happened on it's own (the first was an ectopic that we had to medically end). I am at my whits-end.....stop this emotional roller-coaster, I WANT OFF !!!!

They are continuing to monitor my QUAD's until they drop back to zero....we are suppossed to go in to meet with the Dr. on 7/17 to discuss what are options are and what we want to do at this point. They want to give me time so that I'm thinking more clearly. Right now, I don't know what I will do.

I guess I'm just feeling down, and needed someplace to vent a bit.....

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I am so very sorry

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I am so sorry you lost another baby :comfort:

This board is a wonderful place to come...The women are very supportive....as we have all been there..

Is your doctor gonna recommend testing at this point??

Marie

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I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you are able to get some answers to your questions. So many women have m/cs and go on to have healthy pregnancies. Don't lose hope. KUP.

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I am so sorry for your loss. We are all hear when your spirits need lifting.

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Julie

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I am so sorry for your loss.

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You are NOT defective...you are hurting, sad, and scared...NOT defective. I'm so sorry. I truly understand what you are feeling. You didn't do this....it is awful, but I have come to realize, things happen...sometimes for no reason and that we will never know the reason. Please stay on this board and talk to these women. They are wise. I'm hugging you tight...
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Lisa

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I am so sorry for your losses.

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I'm so sorry for you loss and no your not defective because if you were then most of here would be so I'm going with the "we are all normal functioning chicks!" I know your DR appt is a ways away but I would suggest you go in prepared with some questions and testing that needs to be done. PM me and we talk about it further if you would like.

Once again I'm sorry for you loss and sending you a big HUG!

Vickie

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Oh I am so very sorry for your loss. You are not defective and I have lost 3 babies in 11 months. This board is so nice and supportive. I am so sorry again.

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I am so sorry for your losses.

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I've had two m/c's since March, so I completely understand your pain. I also had one a year ago, and still no babies. It is so hard to deal with, just know that we are here to support you. I will send you loads of these....

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...and hope they help just a little...

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So much has happened, and I don’t really know where to begin. July started off with the news that we’d “lost” the pregnancy….again. That make 4 for 4 with me –vs- having a baby. Not the news we wanted or expected, but we delt with it. I was in a lot of pain, so I took a couple of days late last week, and stayed in bed. Last Sunday and Monday, I started having a reaction to the heat and humidity…..my hands, feet, forearms and ankles all swelled up like little vienna sausages, so I went to see my PCP, who put me on a diuretic to reduce the swelling. I also went and had my final (well what I thought would be) quant level bloodwork done. Last Tuesday night, I get a call, at home, from my OB-GYN. I hadn’t miscarried……I had ANOTHER ectopic pregnancy, and would need to go to the ER immediately to be given the shots to chemically END the pregnancy. This is now TWO ectopic’s in less than a year !!! I was NOT in the mood to deal with this again, but DH and I went to the ER, and sat for more than 5hours (past 11pm), and they STILL had not done anything. I got FURIOUS :angry5: , and ended up walking out. I then had to go back last Wednesday afternoon and have the methotrexate shots (finally) done. That night I slept from 6:30pm until I got up at 6am. Needless to say, my body felt like it was run over (numerous times) and I felt like CARP !!!

We saw my OB/GYN today to talk about where we go from here, Apparently due to my medical history it is probable that if we continue on our own, I will most certainly have an ectopic every time.. We decided that we're going to go the route of IVF. I now have to decide (by the end of the summer) if I want to have them "attempt" to try an correct the problems w/ my faulty tube (which is not guaranteed) OR just remove it, to eliminate the possibility of ectopic recurrance (which is what I am leaning towards). We have our first appointment with the IVF doctor on Sept 10th, so we're going to take it easy (no more UNPROTECTED :love1: ) for the summer. Plus, we've got vacation coming up at the end of the year, so we'll be busy working to pay that off.

Thanks again to everyone's good wishes for us......we DO very much appreciate it.

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Urgh! I am so sorry you had to go through all that. Thank you so much for updating us.

I hope you have a truely restful summer and get the answers you need to be able to make your choices about your future pregnancy plans.

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I am so sorry :bighug: You have been through so much :comfort:

Please KUP as to what you decide to do about your tube?? Also, how your appt goes with the IVF doc?

If you do not have a recommendation from any regarding IVF....REACH or SIRM are both great places....wonderful RE's....

Will be thinking of you...

Marie