3 month since miscarriage (child ment)

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3 month since miscarriage (child ment)

Hi Everyone... I had a miscarriage back in the beginning of December. We lost our little angel on December 2nd at 11 weeks. He (we felt it was a boy) stopped growing around 8 weeks. I have been having a really hard time coming to terms with this. Some days I do great, and then others I just want to fall apart. My two kids are the only thing that are getting me through this. It seems EVERYONE is having their babies right now, and it is absolutely driving me nuts!

My husband and I have seemed to be suffering also. Our physical relationship has all but diminished. I feel that I just can not get pregnant again now and go through this again. I wind up in tears every time we try to be together. I'm sure this has to do with the miscarriage, and I also started BC pills after the miscarriage. I was wondering if this happened to anyone else, or if we are the only ones having this problem.

Thanks for your responses in advance.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I did not start b/c after my losses, but I was an emtional mess for a number of months. I could hardly hold myself together, and were it not for my two children I would have probably stayed in bed all day every day. I did not have problems with the intimacy, as I really felt I needed that bonding with my dh, but heart was not always in it either. But I know many women have had a very hard time being intimate after a loss. Hugs and prayers!

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I felt just like you....Give yourself time hun...Don't put a time limit on your greif..Everyone is different...try not to compare...Just take the time you need, however long that may be.

Also, keep in mind that men grieve differently then woman...These links found in our resource center may be of help to you, and to your dh.

http://www.menweb.org/mangrief.htm

http://members.tripod.com/~Tamy/father.html

I am so very sorry that you lost your baby Sad

Marie