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Pitying you in what way?? Has someone said something to you?? Or, is it just a feeling you are getting??
Your sadness could be a mixture of the two....I am sure it is hard to see all your friends go on in pregnancy... And although I know you are waiting to find out if you are preg labor day (I so hope so!!) .....Maybe the *what if you are not* is creeping in on you....Which could be contributing to the sad feelings you are having, iykwim?
I think you will do well at the event...Remember, you could have a little one growing in you!!! Keep that in mind when she makes her announcement...Hold onto that hope!!
To answer your question?? Feeling the way you do most certainly does not make you selfish!!! Your feelings are normal, considering what you have been through...
Melissa, don't be so hard on yourself. Your situation will change and one day you will be "part of the gang" or whatever that means. People will not judge you for having or not having children, and if they do, they weren't worth the effort to begin with. Good luck sweetie!
It doesn't make you selfish, it makes you human. You wanted your baby. It normal to mourn the loss in many ways. I still have a hard time with pregnant people. It's suppose to be ME, not them (as if there is a limited number of pregnancies to go around)
It is so not selfish. After my last m/c in Aug 05 everybody around me got pregnant and I was so upset and sad. A couple of my very good friends got pregnant around the time Jeremiah was born and then died. It was hard and I was very emotional not wanting to deal with them. It wasn't and still isn't fair that they had healthy babies that are at home with them and I don't. Am I greatful for the things I have? Yes totally and completely- but I will always be jealous of those that have what I have lost. Thats just human nature not being selfish.