My DH's life ended because of an accidental Methadone over dose. I sobbed for like an hour in my employer's office. Also, If you were in my position, when do you think would be an appropriate time frame for taking off my rings? I have been thinking about this a lot lately and it bugs me.
Wow -- I am so sorry. I've worked as a drug & alcohol counsellor for (far too) many years, and I understand all about methadone. Your DH was brave to make this very positive change in his life. And I think you're a wonderful woman to have supported his journey.
As for the rings, I'm not sure if there is a 'right' and 'wrong' time. It's a very personal choice, and I agree with the woman above -- please do it when and if it feels right for you.
I once knew a middle aged widower who couldn't part with his wedding band. He collected coins and had a fabulous ancient Roman coin -- about the size of a dime, with a perfect image of Alexander the Great on it. My friend decided to have his wedding band melted -- the jeweller created a new setting, holding the coin. My friend still wears the ring today, 13 years later. It continues to give him comfort.
But that's only one person's decision about what to do with their ring: it's a very personal choice. I'm sure you'll know exactly what you want to do with yours, when the time is right.
Please take it easy, and keep posting here. We care.
I think the "appropriate" time is totally up to you. Take them off now, or keep them on forever, it's totally up to you. When you feel ready to move ahead, you may be ready to take them off, but don't ever do it because you feel you HAVE to...
I think the appropriate time is entirely up to you. I work at a cemetery and I see people who've just lost their spouses who already have their rings off, and I see some people who lost their spouse many many years ago who still have them on. Do whatever works for you. If in your heart, you're still married and want to keep them on, there's nothing wrong with it. And if in your heart you're still married but the rings are too painful, then take them off or switch them to the other hand or put them on a chain around your neck.
Oh Honey I am so so sorry. My mom was on methadone for pain for about two years it scared the crap out of me because she would take more than she should all the time. As for you rings I agree with the others there is not a time that is to soon or to far away. You do it when you are ready. Much love Tori