Back once more (loss ment)

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Back once more (loss ment)

Well, here I am... again. I managed to get pg the cycle after my d&c in March, but sadly the baby is weeks behind in development and there is no heartbeat. My RE is fairly sure I'll miscarry soon.

I feel so numb right now. I can't cry, cry scream, can't rage... nothing. After losing 3 babies in 9 months, you'd think I'd be raising the roof in some sort of display. Maybe it's best that I can't cry right now-- I've also recently lost my job and I need to focus on finding another one. I just don't understand why. Maybe if I knew that, I could accept all of this better.

DH and I are good people, so why does it seem as if we're being punished?

Thanks for listening.

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Hugs Ka'. I am so sorry you are back again. It's not fair, and I don't understand it either. Sad Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers!

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I am so sorry for the loss of your baby Sad I wish I had answers to give you...The numbness will subside...And when it does..scream..throw things...curl up in a ball in the shower and just cry..And know that we are here for you :bighug:


After losing 9 babies...Most in 3-4 back 9 years ago...Having no answers..Number 10, Kaden, made it...I don't know why God needed all my other babies..I suppose one day I will find out...All I know is by His miracle, he allowed Kaden...Hang in there :bighug:


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I am so very sorry. I have no answers. I just have :bigarmhug:

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I'm so so sorry for your loss, Ka'. :bighug: :bighug: :bighug:


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Hugs! I'm in the same boat. 3 babies lost since just before x-mas and I'm also unemployed Sad It took 3 days for me to get upset after the last one, and then I just fell apart. The good news is that I feel a bit better every day. Give yourself some time.


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I'm SO sorry, sweetheart. I know how heartbreaking multiple losses are, especially when they come so close together. It's horrific.

I hope you can muster up the faith, and keep it. Like Marie, despite my losses we were blessed with Emma: she was born so strong and healthy. And she still is.

I don't know why some of us have to endure loss after loss, and some people don't. It's very, very hard. But I will keep you in my prayers that, next time, you'll get your little miracle too.

Keep writing in. You're not alone, and we're going to help you through this.


“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”
-- Helen Keller

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I am so sorry for your losses. There aren't really any words that seem appropriate or useful right now. I will pray for you.