Well, I was dreading this. The baby's remains were sent out for study, and now they've been sent back to our hospital. I had arranged (while I was in hospital having the D&C) that the remains go to the funeral home to be cremated. Just talking to them (they were SO great), they mentioned that because the baby was so small, there may be hardly any ashes at all. I'm wondering if we should even bother? The hospital will incerate the remains, but that freaks me out. I'm totally torn on what to do, so much that I don't even want to deal with it at all!
I do kind of want something of my LO, but at the same time, maybe we should just make our own memorial?
Of course I'll ask SO his preference, but I'm not looking forward to that conversation either.
This SUCKS!!!!! I was doing ok, until this. Next I have to prepare for the results and going back into the Dr's office, which USED to be a happy place is now a freakin' horrible reminder of what happened.
On top of this - I have a friend, who is a great friend but a little nosy at times. I'm very private and prefer NOT to talk about things. Or at least not to "overtalk" about them. She keeps asking if we got any results yet (about the cause of the m/c) and I'm getting sick of answering. Then I mentioned the remains being sent back here (which I didn't tell her before) and she asked what we were going to do, if we were going to have a ceremony, invite friends, etc. That was WAY too intrusive and I thought "it's none of your flipping business" and told her "No, we are not having anything, if we do it'll be private" and she stopped, but it is TOO painful to talk about. I guess I should tell her that eh? Or am I being wayyyy too sensitive??