Can I join in with you ladies? (miscarriage & ttc ment)
+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 13

Thread: Can I join in with you ladies? (miscarriage & ttc ment)

  1. #1
    Posting Addict
    Join Date
    Jun 2007
    Posts
    13,260

    Default Can I join in with you ladies? (miscarriage & ttc ment)

    Hi Everyone. My name is Julie (29) and last Monday the 24th I went in for a sonogram. I was supposed to be 9.5 weeks with a due date of Oct 26th and they found my baby measuring 6 weeks without a heartbeat. They ended up doing 3 sonograms. Wednesday I went in for a D&C and have been "recooperating" ever since - if that's what you can call it. I found it ironic that my due date was the 26th of Oct and they took my baby on March 26th.

    My DH (35) and I have been trying to conceive religiously since Aug 06 and had even before then a bit as well. This is my first confirmed miscarriage although both my DH and I believe that I had one about a year and a half ago, especially after what the doc described would happen if I miscarriaged before surgery. My doctor also told me not to expect any results as I might not get much info back after having this surgery. We go back to meet with her this Thursday. I'm anxious that I'll forget to ask certain important questions. She felt that this might have just been a chromosomal issue and that "next time" things could be completely different. So many say that you are very fertile after a miscarriage but my doc said I shouldn't try again until after 3 regular menstrual cycles.

    I think I'll have a lot of questions. So, I hope that is okay.

    I'm so sorry to all of you for your losses. I'll read the rules of this board and jump in soon if that is okay.

    Sorry that this is so long - thought I'd start somewhere...
    Last edited by LauraT; 04-02-2008 at 01:35 AM. Reason: to remove signature

  2. #2
    chrissy77g
    Guest

    Default

    I am so sorry for your loss!


    Christine
    Jan 29, 2008 - D&C @ 9 weeks

  3. #3
    Mega Poster min150mph's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    Location
    TX
    Posts
    2,584

    Default

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a d&C and got an infection and spent several days in the hospital and had to have a 2nd D&C and because of that my doc suggested I'd wait 2 cycles. I guess each case is different, but I do think the risk might be higher if you had a D&C due to the scraping of your lining vs. a natural m/c, but you might want to check if 3 cycles is really necessary.
    Last edited by LauraT; 04-02-2008 at 01:36 AM. Reason: to remove signature

  4. #4
    Contributor
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Location
    New York
    Posts
    15

    Default

    Hello
    I am so sorry for your loss.....I , too had a D&C on Wednesday. So somewhere, someone was going through the exact same thing as me. I should have been 10 weeks on Monday and lost my little angel on Saturday. Same thing here, they said it never grew past 6 weeks. ( we saw it and HB 2 weeks ago). I was due on Oct 22. It would have been my 3rd child. My doctor told me to wait 2 cycles to try. I have heard conflicting reports from others on this subject. I think we will wait the 2 cycles. just to be safe. If you need to talk I am here. Melissa

  5. #5
    Contributor healinghandz1's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    Michigan
    Posts
    130

    Default



    I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my little angel on March 18 at 12wks. This board has been a tremendous help to me. Everyone here knows your frustration and pain. Since my m/c I've become obsessed with TTC again. I've read every article I can find. I have bought every aid possible. That's how I'm dealing with my grief, everyone has there own way.

  6. #6
    Posting Addict
    Join Date
    Nov 2005
    Location
    Moderator of the pregnancy and infant loss support board
    Posts
    6,536

    Default

    I am so sorry that you needed us...but glad that you found us..

    I am so very sorry for the loss of your babies

    As far as the wait goes...Being an older mom (meaning, because I am old, lol..they were a bit more honest with me) , and ttc again...I was told by my reproductive endocronologist that the *3 months* that docs tell you to wait? That the other 2 are for emotional healing..Meaning...They believe that *you* need the time...AND, *they* don't want to deal with a woman that they feel has not had enough time to emotionally heal...What do I believe? I believe that that time is different for each woman...And that sometimes..as in my case....You just can't wait to be *healed* enough to ttc again due to old age..

    Now, I am no doctor..I can only tell you what my RE told me...But as long as your losses were earlier on...*I* would say that you are good to go after a month...This is barring no testing is scheduled?? (I think you mentioned testing will be done on your 2nd confirmed loss) If your doctor thinks testing may be necessary. Depending on the results...I would wait...If results show nothing wrong with baby?? I would want more testing done on myself, and my dh..

    Just something to think about

    Marie
    Last edited by mom@41; 03-30-2008 at 09:07 PM. Reason: clarity

  7. #7
    Mom22Boys+1Angel
    Guest

    Default

    My loss was at 15 weeks and my doc rec'd 3 cycles before TTC again. But he said in the same breath there was no reason to worry if I got pg again right away. We aren't planning to TTC anytime soon since the emotional fallout requires more recovery than merely three cycles. I think the amount of time to wait is more about emotional recovery than physical. I personally felt like I had to be able to withstand another miscarriage before I could allow myself to think about TTC.

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  8. #8
    nicoleballinger
    Guest

    Default

    Dear Julie,

    You are very welcome here to this board -- it's filled with compassionate, beautiful people who are very supportive, and who all understand your thoughts, feelings, etc. Tragically, like yourself we have all 'been there'.

    Got questions? Fire away, any time!

    This is a place of healing, where you can just be yourself -- there's no need to put on a brave 'mask' -- people are very 'real' here. That's a big part of why this board is so effective in helping us move through our stages of grief, each in our own way.

    My heartfelt condolences for your loss (I can relate; I lost an angel baby in exactly the same horrible, shocking way). It's very hard to determine the cause of loss so early in pregnancy, but 8 ~ 10 weeks is the most common time -- my ob/gyn told me this is the time when experts believe m/c's are caused by a blighted ovum (this sounds terribly blunt --- I'm sorry -- but when our egg is 'a dud'). The very good news is that these m/c's don't seem to be caused by anything that's physically wrong with either the mother of the father --i.e. it was just that single egg, not you or your husband, nor the rest of your many eggs remaining.

    What's also good news, Julie, is that blighted ovums seem to happen (statistically) more with older women than with women as young as yourself. In other words, those of us who are older are at far greater risk of having another blighted ovum fertilised, compared to a younger woman such as yourself. So your odds are great -- that is, your odds of having a full term, successful pregnancy next time! I pray that you will.

    Write in any time. We're here for you, and we care. Welcome to the board.

    Great big cyber hugs to you,
    Nicole

  9. #9
    Posting Addict shellyhudson's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Location
    San Diego, CA
    Posts
    8,632

    Default

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

    Please post here anytime that you feel the need. I hope that you find the solace and support that I have from this board.

    Shelly

  10. #10
    Super Poster EmmyG's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Location
    Washington, DC
    Posts
    552

    Default

    Welcome to this board. I'm sorry you have to be here, but I'm glad you've found us. I honestly don't think I could get through a single day without this haven.

    I had a very similar experience earlier this month... my 8-wk u/s showed a 6-wk gestational/yolk sac and no fetal pole or heartbeat. I was scheduled for a D&C, but had a natural miscarriage two days before the surgery. I am also 29, and my dr. also told me to wait for 3 spontaneous periods before trying again.

    I agree with all of the PPs that the odds are in your (and my!) favor regarding the chances of your next pregnancy being a full-term one. Your doctor can advise you on when your body will be physically ready, but only you can know when you are emotionally ready. I hope this board helps you heal, and helps you find the answers you are looking for.

+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
v -->

About Us | Contact Us | Privacy Policy | Sitemap | Terms & Conditions