Can't believe I am here (XP) - possible m/c ectopic ment
I just received my second beta blood results, and they went from 39 at 14DPO to 38 at 18 DPO. I still haven't been able to get any real answers as to what is happening. I'm stunned at the lack of interest, and proper knowledge the doctors I have been seeing have shown. I was told the other day that my U/S didn't show anything (too early) but they couldn't rule out an ectopic in the ovary. I just hope everything is resolved quickly. I'm devastated that after waiting so long, I have to wait even longer now. I would have much rathered AF, I'd be waiting to O again, and still hopeful. Now the thought of waiting for this pregnancy to end, so I can start TTC again is utterly horrific to me. I broke my thermometer Because I didn't think I'd need it.
To make things worse, I've just found out my sister in law is also pregnant, due in September. She's excited we get to go through the pregnancy together again. Our first babies were born 2 weeks apart.
DH has a day off work today, so I've told him the news, and he's being less than supportive. He hasn't even hugged me yet. I don't think he knows how to handle this.
Also, I'd like to hear from anyones experience with an ectopic pregnancy too. What the treatments are, how soon did symptoms show, and what are the chances of future pregnancies. Do they make you wait long till you can start again??
I'm sorry for your loss.
Ectopic pregnancies generally occur in a fallopian tube. I don't know the symptoms of one in the ovary. You are likely to feel some abnormal cramps specific to one side, although the pain can radiate across your abdomen. Sometimes they can be seen on an ultrasound, and sometimes a laproscopy is needed to determine. I think your doctor will monitor your beta.
If it's not ectopic, you might not have to wait to try again. If it is, your chances of having another increase. I'm sorry you have this period of uncertainty in addition to your loss.
Im so so sorry to hear what you are going through. This is the forum that we all hope we never have to join. I hope that even if we dont always have all the answers that you feel you can come here just to get support and let your feelings out. I find just coming here and writing a post about everything I feel and am going through at that time offers me a little comfort, I hope you are able to do the same.
I pray you get some answers soon as often the waiting and not knowing is the hardest part. At least when we know what we are dealing with we can try to come to terms with it. I hope your wait is short and you soon have the answers you need. Believe me, I can completely understand the anxiety and frustration you must be feeling. We try so long and hard for our much wanted babies, and then when things dont go as we planned it can be devastating.
As for DH, men often dont know how to deal with situations like these. Its different for them, they are not the ones physically going through it. Its frustrating for us when we do not know what is happening inside our bodies and why. If you need his support (which of course you do) then try sitting him down and telling him exactly how you feel, why it is so disappointing and frustrating for you. We of course all understand, we have all been there, but men often need it all spelled out for them. Im sure when he understands why you feel the way you do, he will come round. If not, come here to get the support you need. We understand.
Last edited by kt1981; 01-16-2008 at 07:21 AM.
I'm really sorry that you've had to come here, but rest assured it's a place of wonderful support. I've had 2 m/c so i can't give you advice about an ectopic. As for your DH, in my case my husband just feels like there is nothing that he can do to make me feel better (which is true), so he seems to keep his distance but tells me he's there if i need him-maybe yours just needs you to tell him what you want from him-we all know most of them wait for us to ask for most things anyways! i think they feel as if it is their fault sometimes.
i hope that you can find a doctor that will help you soon-if you aren't happy with the one you're seeing now, i would go to the ER or another dr. are you having any symptoms or pains? 4 weeks if very early to see anything, so maybe there is still hope. i really hope everything works out for you-keep us informed. we are all here if you need to vent or talk.
If it makes you feel any better, I read with an ectopic your betas would be going up, not down. I'm no doctor, so I could be wrong, but I would think you are having the same issue I had - a chemical pregnancy - and you should have AF any day now. I'm soooo sorry for your loss. On the positive side, you should be able to start TTC again right away (I know, we'd both rather just have the babies we were pregnant with in the first place). KUP.
I am so sorry for your problems with the drs. I so hope that it is a chemical pg or just to darn early to see a normal one. THe following is detailed so TMI:
Let me first tell you that i have undergone an ectopic pg and got well informed from the head of the teaching university where the surgery was done. If the doctors are suspecting there might be an ectopic pg of any form, may i ask why you havent been reffered to a hospital, preferably a larger one with the knowledge and equipment to handle this? Your hcg levels dont have to be high for an ectopic, just like for a pg they can be low to start with and gain in hcg at slower rates as it advances. Mine didnt show up as high until 8 weeks and then i had only a few hours to get a babysitter and get into surgery. The cramps mentioned above happen when the wall of the fallopian tube or other place the egg has nested outside of the uterus have ruptured from the egg attaching itself. THe poor egg doesnt know it isnt the uterus lining. Often on the side where such has happened you may also get a radial pain in the shoulder. THe u/s tech needs to be very well trained and experienced to detect an ectopic pg in the early stages, or the machine needs to be highly advanced.
If you are at all worried and/or have had cramping, radial shoulder pain, any tubal blockages in the past, or just know something is terriiblly wrong, bypass your dr and go to ER immediately and get thoroughly checked out.
PM me if you like. You are in my prayers
I'm so sorry! It is so devastating to discover that you are miscarrying.
Ectopics usually still have a rising HCG level, especially in the beginning. The doc is probably not too worried b/c it is so early and your HCG levels are so low. They will probably just continue to monitor. That's what they did for me, and they knew there was something in my tubes and I was much farther along.
About half of ectopics will resolve themselves, but if they find it is ectopic and still growing, they can give you a drug to get rid of it because it is so early.
I would ask for follow-up HCG tests, and if your levels aren't dropping, for another u/s. Try not to worry too much. 18 DPO is still very early.