Child loss and PG

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sarahsunshine's picture
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Child loss and PG

As many may know, we lost our DS (14mo) in an accident last Monday. I haven't been up to posting here, but I finally got the gumption. It's really tough on us. He had a perfect 14mo, was a smiley happy boy, and loved everything to do with outdoors. He laughed and smiled all the time, but never so much as when he played with his older brother. He is sorely missed by all of us, but DH and I are really hurting, going through waves of normalness, then crying terribly.

A week before the accident, I found out I was preggo with our #2 (older brother is DH's). Although we are absolutely thrilled with this, I'm very nervous that Baby#2 may not stick (crazy emotions), and I'm worried that if it doesn't, that we would be very hesitant to TTC again, as much as the joy of having DS around was amazing and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

I guess I'm still partly in shock that this whole thing happened to begin with...

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I am so very very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and serenity.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for a sticky bean.

Joined: 07/30/06
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I am so very, very sorry. I've been thinking of you and your family.

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I'm so sorry about your very terrible loss Sad That is something no parent should ever have to face.

Try not to worry too much about your pregnancy (easier said than done). No matter what happens, it is not your fault. You can't erase what has happened and, unfortunately, you can't control what will happen. Try not to let your fears for your new pregnancy stop you from grieving.

:bigarmhug::bigarmhug::bigarmhug::bigarmhug:

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

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I'm so very sorry. This tragedy touched us all here in Alberta. Our thoughts are with you and your family.:bighug::bighug:

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think anything anyone can say will make things better but we are a loving and caring community and your story touched us all. Even though we don't know each other IRL, we're all thinking of you and your family and praying for your little bean.

~Andrea

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Hi Sarah,

I normally post/lurk on the July 07 boards and I am so sorry about the loss of little Reed.

I have some indirect experience with the loss of a child while pregnant, my mother in law was pregnant with DH when she lost a child. I'm not sure how far along he was when she went through all of the stress and grief but the only side effects on DH were that he had a messed up liver (low blood sugar). He is fine now except that he gets kind of mean when he is hungry.

Again, I am so sorry for the loss of Reed. I don't normally post to much on July 07 but I enjoyed hearing your stories about him and seeing his pictures.

Emily

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I was so sorry to hear about your son. I can't imagine the pain you're going through righ tnow.

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Hugs and prayers. I am so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful little boy. Though I haven't posted on boards with you, I have seen your posts around, and he just radiated sunshine in every pic I saw. Definitely take the time to grieve for your son, and I hope and pray all is well with your new little one. Thinking of you often.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.

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I really, truly hurt for you. I think about you and your precious son a lot. :bighug:

I'm sure it's normal for you to think about losing this pregnancy... I think that thought crosses every pregnant woman's mind. But the odds are with you and you have lots of thoughts and prayers on your side!

Shannon

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I am so so very sorry that you are having to go through this aweful pain that no one should have to endure. I hope that you have a beautiful baby born at the end of all this. We will be praying for you!

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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Aurora J.

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Sarah
(((hugs)))) I have been following your story, You are such a strong person. I am so sorry you are having to go through all this. You and your family are still in my heart and prayers. I will be praying for you lil bean to stick. Tori

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I think after every loss, it reminds us of how delicate life is. It's normal to feel nervous and scared and conflicted. This child is not going to replace Reed, nothing will. But you can tell him/her stories of his big brother Reed and how he would have loved him/her too.

:bigarmhug:

Janel

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Sarah-
I am so very sorry for your loss of Reed. I too know how hard it is to lose a miracle. I lost my precious angel 11-7-2006 at 3 months old to SIDS. Like you I was pregnant too. Only I found out 5 days after Haley passed on. I too had thoughts of losing my precious baby because of all that was going on. My baby stuck around and was born perfectly healthy with no complications. I think Reed has his hand on your baby and won't let anything happen. Dameon is now a healthy 15 month old but since then Ive had problems carrying any baby past 7 weeks. I think Reed will definately watch down on you and make sure your blessed with your new miracle.

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All my love Sarah

Diane

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I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am about Reed first of all. I hope you know that your story has touched so many of us. Made us really rethink alot of things in life, and of course hold our families closer than ever. I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. I cannot imagine the grief. You are a very strong woman, and getting stronger everyday with this little baby growing inside you. I know nothing can make your fears go away...but I wish you all the best. Please keep us posted on how you are doing.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I am sending you some sticky vibes for your little bean.