Thursday we've been told that we lost our baby. After a couple of days brownish spotting we finally got into the docs for an u/s. My pregnancy apparently stopped developing at 5 wks and 2 days.
Something inside me tells me I shouldn't feel so lost because it never really developed into an embryo, but the ofter side still feels a big emptyness because nethertheless I thougth I was 8 weeks pg. does that make any sense???
I never ever had a D&C and I'm not really sure what to expect. Yes, my doc told me about the procedure but just from the medical point of view.
The D&C went without complications. I got to the hospital at 2 pm, they put me to sleep, did the D&C and I was on my way home by 5 pm. I got one pain killer at the hospital and I haven't need one since then. I bled heavyly last evening but over night and now it is not that bad anymore. The only thing really bothering me is my throat, I hurst bad and is still super sore from the breathing tube. I'm on a emotional rollercoaster today. I was still bfing my 15 month old DD, but with the narcotics I had to stop 24 hrs + 3 more days for some antibiotics. So now I'm not only grieving the loss of my baby but also the loss of my bfing because DD doesn't drink my milk out of a bottle and if I wean her for 4 days it makes no sense to start again (KWIM?)
Anyways, I just wanted to say thank you for all your kind words. you are all a bunch of amazing women
Last edited by Hessengirl; 08-26-2008 at 01:36 PM.
I'm so sorry for your loss and even though the baby stopped developing early I'm sure you still had hopes and dreams for the baby until you find out and that part makes it even harder. A loss is a loss no matter when it happened. Don't feel like you shouldn't feel like you feel because of the time line.
I had a D&C after a loss at 9w and went in that morning, was groggy for the rest of the day and had some bleeding. Next day I had some light bleeding like final day of my period and we went out and ate and selected tile for our new house. Anything to keep busy to keep me from thinking about things. Unfortunately there were some tissue left and later in the week I got pain and bleeding again and developed an infection. Had another D&C and it was just like the first. Bleeding first day, light the next and feeling much better after that at least physically.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I totally agree with the pp above: loss is loss no matter when it happens. Your grief is just as real as losing a baby anywhere within the 40 week timeline, and we are totally here for you.
I had a D & C without any complications, during or after. I have 3 female relatives who are medical professionals: 2 GP's and a nurse. They each told me that D & C's are very gentle procedures, which are commonly and quickly done. For me, it was like having period symptoms after, that's all. I hope this helps -- please try not to be worried about it.
Let us know how you're doing. We care about you, and we're going to help you through this.
How did everything go? My two d&cs I had bleeding for about 11 days, some light, some heavier. I was in some pain, and definitely used the pain meds prescribed. My first af came about 36 days later, both times.
And I second all the others, no matter how early, as soon as you find out you are pregnant you have hopes and dreams already forming, so no matter how early, it hurts like hell. Hugs and prayers
I am so very sorry for your loss. Please do not feel as if you have to apologize for grieving over your baby. I lost my son due to s/b at 37 weeks and my loss is no greater than yours. If you are like me, that is your child from the second you see that positive test result.
Please come here when you feel the need and release in whatever manner you feel necessary.
So sorry for your loss. Of course you feel a huge loss, if you were like me (and everyone else) you had already had dreams and plans for your LO. I hope your surgery went well and you are healing. I just stopped bleeding at three weeks, but I had some retained products. I was able to pass the rest naturally because the retained products were so small. Your bleeding should only be 1-2 weeks. As for you heart mending, that is going to take longer.