I was about 8-9 weeks pg and we hadn't told anyone--we were waiting, like we did for Luke (13 months old), until we were out of the 1st trimester. I went in 10/10 and my m/w did an u/s and we saw the little bean and the heartbeat. Monday 10/15 I went in for another u/s (my m/w wanted the tech to do a measurement because the baby was measuring small) and I had a to wait over an hour so DH had to leave because he had to teach a class, and the u/s tech couldn't find a heartbeat--the baby had died over the weekend. I had NO symptoms at all of anything being different or wrong. I had to go in on Wed. 10/17 for a D&C. I had to wait 2 hours, which was horrible. The procedure itself wasn't bad and I only had bleeding for that day and no cramping.
It never even crossed my mind that I would have a m/c. I am just totally devasted and depressed about it. DH was doing great about being supportive, but not last night, when we found out that his identical twin's wife is pg and will be due when I was. I just lost it completely. I am just so miserable, and after last night I feel like I can't talk to DH anymore about it.
Anyway, just need some cyber hugs right now and any advice on how to "get through" this...how to get through this horrible pain and guilt and everything else...