Today in the mail was a bill for part of the services that I had done for the baby - the early bloodwork. The insurance won't pay for it. It's not like I asked for them to do it, either. I told my OB that I had a previous m/c, and he recommended the bloodwork. It's only $29, but just the thought of having to pay something for this baby that the insurance thought 'wasn't necessary' - of COURSE it was a good idea to do it! Sure, it didn't turn up any problems, but I lost the baby! Obviously there was just cause to do extra testing for this pregnancy.
Then, on top of that, there was also a catalog for baby toys that came in the mail today. I guess it's about time for them to start sending me those things for my first pregnancy (due in January/February). Is this just the beginning? I've heard of women getting samples, and coupons, and all sorts of stuff in the mail after a loss. It's hard.
I'm drowning my sorrows with Halloween chocolate and instant macaroni and cheese. This is NOT how I usually eat (in fact, we had to make special grocery store runs b/c we don't keep that kind of stuff in our house), but I suppose I could be doing worse. I'll feel better tomorrow, I'm sure.
Another former May '08 member...
I just got a pile of bills from all of the bloodwork I had done during my m/c too. And DH's complaining about the money thing is making me feel even worse...
I totally sympthize with you.
I am so sorry for the paperwork. The catalog had to hurt so much. I had the hardest time dealing with cancelling all of my registries. Once I did that, the mail quit coming for the most part. I hope that you feel better soon.
I can understand your pain. I still get emails about my pregnancy and how far I should be. I also get free samples and magazines. My husband checks the mail and throws things out, he doesn't want to upset me anymore than I am.
It is hard and we all understand. Sending you hugs and my thoughts.
Sorry you ar ehaving a rough time (from another May 0. And yes you will still get those catalogues and coupons and magazines--I like th PP who said it is your baby smiling down on you--a nice way to think of it
I am still getting coupons from Huggies for the toddler stages now... So they have to remind me my baby boy would be a toddler now?? Nice of them...
I recently started getting the insurance paperwork from my most recent m/c. It was from my initial OB appointment... It was denied, because it was supposed to be filed as a Global OB at the time of delivery. I haven't gotten a bill from the doctor yet, but I'm definately going to fight that one!
I was mad about a few bills too. I hated when DH would even ask me about the bills... did you get bloodwork on this day? or were you in the hospital on this day? Because he always checks the bills for mistakes, but then I'd start screaming at him for not knowing what the dates were...
wow, it's hard to go through these memories.
It was hard getting things in the mail after as well, but luckily they stopped after the magazine I had subscribed to ran out.