I'm having a really hard time dealing with DH right now. He is dealing with this by trying to control everything and getting very mad at me all the time. He keeps calling everyone in his family trying to get their, and everyone they know's opinion on my situation, then tries to bully me into doing what the in-laws have agreed I should do.
He wants me to harass my doctor until he gets a OB's opinion on the ectopic possibility. My doctor has already examined me, ordered blood tests, and consulted with a radiologist (doctor) that specializes in obstetrics and is highly regarded in the medical community (he read my ultrasound). I don't think it gets better than that.
I'm comfortable with the doctor's (and radiologist's) opinion and course of action. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my doc over this.
Finally yesterday I was so fed up with it all that I wrote a curt (but not mean) email to DH, his brother and parents telling them that I didn't believe that my 'personal medical condition and care are an appropriate topic for family conversation'. I asked them to 'please respect my privacy during this difficult time'. I also said that I would personally email them any important news, so they need not ask me about it, and I asked them not to discuss or share the info I give them.
DH is really mad. He says he doesn't know if he can have more kids or stay married to me because he doesn't trust me. He blames me for lying to him and keeping info from him. It's not true, but he never listens to what I say them blames me for not telling him in the first place.
:help1: I really can't deal with him any more. I just needed to get that off my chest.