no one understands the devestation of a m/c? I feel like people almost seem to blow it off like "Oh well! Just have to keep trying, right?!". And, "It happened for a good reason. It just meant that the baby wasnt right". UGH! As if that makes it any easier right now? Jeez!
Sorry. I think Im having a delayed emotional reaction to my m/c. It happened in the wee hours of the morning on Monday. And now Im getting almost angry about it?! Or maybe Im just angry at the responses Im getting from my family. Am I being way too sensitive? Is this normal?
I am so sorry for your lost. People can be very insensitive and some just don't even want to say anything. They kind of pretend that it did not happen. I am not sure why people are like this but it has been my experience. It seems like older people 60 and over are the worst. I think it is because in their generation they just did not discuss these things.
As far as getting angry it is a good response, it is part of the healing process. Be patient with yourself. I m/c in June and am still very sensitive on certain days. It takes time. Use these boards to vent whenever you need. The women on here on fantastic.
You're not being over-emotional. I really think unless you've been through it people don't get it. I guess it's just not tangible to them they way it is to you. But it's still no excuse for how flippant some people can be. My former best friend really seems to think I should have just walked it off! Some people just don't get it!
Don't take it personally, some people just don't know how to handle grief.
I'm sorry you are not feeling supported right now sweetie!!!
All the girls have said it perfectly! So many don't understand how it feels...and even some that HAVE had m/c aren't sensitive! I think a lot of people don't know how to comfort us when it happens. Many hugs to you!! I'm so sorry for your loss!
Hey I completely get it too. I am so very sorry for your loss and that you had to join us. Sometimes it feels people think our pregnancy doesn't mean anything unless it results in a baby we take home. It's absolutely okay to be mad. Allow yourself to feel how you do...no matter if you think it's right or not. It is the days I don't feel or say anything about it that I worry about myself. On the days that I vent away on this board I know I am on a path to healing.
I am so very sorry for your loss. No, I do not think that you are being overly sensitive. You have lost your child. I don't care why it happened. It makes it no less painful. I am sure that you (like I) would rather deal with the complications that come with a special needs child rather than not have the child to love. People just don't get it. I know for me, once that BFP showed up I was in love fully and completely. I was destroyed when I lost my angel as I am sure you were when you lost yours. Sometimes I just wish people would learn how to say I am sorry and leave it at that. Again, I am so very sorry. I wish you peace.
I definitely think that most ppl do not get it until they have been through it. Myself being one of them. I have had two close friends have miscarriages, and though I knew at the time it was hard for them, I did not understand how hard until I was there myself. The one that I am still friends with I apologized to. Hugs!