Does it get easier?

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Does it get easier?

Will I ever stop randomly crying? My SIL just announced their pregnancy on her blog. Its their first and I'm so happy for them. I knew she was pregnant and she is due one week after I would have been due. I just feel so upset. I should be announcing I'm pregnant, not feeling empty and scared.

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yes, it does get better, but not quickly, at least not for me. My step-cousin is due with twins the same week I was due, and hearing about her pregnancy is hard, but not as hard as it was in the beginning. However getting an invite to her baby shower did not make for a good day.

I think this last loss I was pretty depressed a cried randomly for a few months. And unfortunately I think it is fairly normal. Sad

Hugs!

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I'm sorry, it must have been hard to read her blog. It does get easier, with time. Just be kind to yourself.

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I'm so sorry you are hurting. As pp's have said it does get easier as time goes by. The first pregnant chic I was around was an employee of mine and there were some days that I could talk to her about the pregnancy and be genuinely happy and excited for her and other days, I would lock myself in the office sobbing hysterically, asking God what makes her so much better than me that she gets to keep her baby (not by any means wishing anything bad upon her, just angry). It is so hard and unfair and I am sending lots of hugs your way.

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I feel for you, sweetheart -- I remember those random tears. Like the pp's said, it does get better but it does take time.

The very good news is that participating on a board like this is very helpful -- it helps us shift through our grief more quickly. So just by writing in here, you're helping yourself, you see?

There are also many more things you can do to help you shift through your grief. (I know firsthand, because I've done them all!! It's all good stuff). Check out the quick list at: http://www.pilari.org/articles/8/1/What-You-Can-Do----When-You-Feel-so-Powerless/Page1.html

Great big bear hugs,
Nicole

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It does eventually get easier sweetie! I cried every day for nearly 2 weeks and still randomly breakdown but those days are getting farther spaced apart.

We all grieve at different times and in different ways, you do what makes you feel "best"!

We're here for you!

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TIme lets you adapt to what has happened. It will still hurt, but it won't be a searing pain like the first time (fill in situation) hits you.

Damien passed over a year ago, and every once in a while I will have a very melancholy day and cry unexpectedly. There are still moments that inspire bits of jealousy. I still have my days where I just ask why me. However, I have adapted and learned to live in this new normal.

Please come here and vent/cry/whatever any time you feel the need.

Shelly

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Im sorry you are having a hard time. I had a loss in August and still feel very angry and depressed about what happend and feel really bad when I go to visit friends who have had babies or are preg. It gets easier just takes a while.

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It does get easier. Still, after 4 months, I find that I still have very bad days where I just break down. As Jen said, those bad days get further and further apart as you go along.

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I still have bad days, I think we all do. The Holidays do not help either.

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It slowly gets better. I lost Rebecca over 1 year ago. I haven't cried as frequently until someone announces a pregnancy. That hits hard.

Give yourself time to grieve and feel. Come here when you want to vent or share.
Robin

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Hugs Ashley.

I remember a few days after my miscarriage I went in to the convenience store to buy some snacks for DH and I (feel better treats) and I heard the woman in front of me talking to the cashier about how she was due in just a few weeks. The woman was pregnant, yes, but she also had holes in all her clothes, smelt like urine, cigarettes and alcohol - and there I was. I was so angry that that woman got to have child and I had lost mine - and she wasn't even taking care of herself! How could she deserve a child and couldn't?

I barely made it out of the store before I started to cry. It IS hard for a while....and it's allowed to be. Don't feel bad about crying. You're allowed to mourn.

Here's hoping it gets easier for you soon honey :openarms: