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Feeling Blue

I m/c 15 days ago. I was 4w2d. I know that I wasn't that far along but I already got attached to my baby. I was really emotional the first couple of days but then I was okay. I realized that things happen for a reason and that we now have the opportunity to go back to school and save up some money before we have a family.

But... I the last two days I have felt so down. Every where I look there are pregnant women or little babies and I just....miss mine.

I know that I will be back to feeling fine soon, I just wanted to vent.

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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Please don't make it seem like your loss is any less significant. As soon as you find out you are pregnant (well even before hand) you are filled with hopes and dreams for the future. YOur loss is significant and I am so sorry to hear of your mc.

Thinking of you.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I know you probably bonded quickly with the baby. It is amazing how quick it happens, the bonding process. Vent here when you need too and remember be patient with yourself.

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im so sorry for your loss sweetie...

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I am so sorry for your loss honey.

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You have come to the right place to vent and get support. There are ladies here who have experienced losses at many different stages of pregnancy and none is judged to be any easier or harder to deal with. When you find out you are pregnant you develop hopes and expectations and dreams for the future and the loss of your child isnt just that, it's also the painful loss of those dreams for the future.

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Jess...I'm so sorry you had to come here Sad I read a book, I can give you the name of it if you want, that helped me a lot. One part says 'wether in the womb for 8 hours or 80 years beyond it'. Regardless of how far along you were, you lost a baby and no one should have to go through that. The ladies on here are a wonderful source of support. I'll be thinking of you :bigarmhug:

Teresa

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I am so very sorry for your loss. I was attached to every one of my children from the very moment that I knew I was pregnant so I can understand your feelings. I am glad that you are trying to see a positive in the middle of such a negative. Vent away any time that you need to hon. That is what we are here for. No matter when the loss occurs, it is still a devastating loss. I wish you peace and healing.

Shelly

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I am so sorry for your loss. Don't fret about what point you loss your baby. The fact is, that it is a horrible thing for anyone to go through no matter how far along you were. We support all stages of loss and we are all here to support everyone that has to join this board. Take care and if you ever want anyone to vent to, you can PM me.

Take care~
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I had a similar experience to yours this past June. I am so sorry for your loss. Vent away and get your feelings out. Talking about it really helped me (and continues to help me). (((HUGS)))

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Sorry to hear you had to come here.the ladies are wonderful here and a great shoulder when ya need one.

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Thank you everyone for your support. My sister made me feel like I should be okay now. She actually told my mother "she's not over it yet!?" She's never been through this, so I know that I shouldn't let what she says get to me. I mean she is the one who mourned the death of her fish for days! And I can't mourn the death of my child!

I am going to take as much time as I need to feel okay, and she can either deal with it or leave me alone.

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Jess, a baby is a baby no matter how far along you were. It was a life that you had high expectations for. Grieve as long as you need to. That is all a part of healing. Hang in there sweetie! hugs to you.
Erin

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It's amazing how unsupportive people can be. That's why this board is such a great place. I didn't take the time I needed to grieve and because of that things are still difficult for me today. Please don't make the same mistake. ITA, it is not your sister, or anyone elses place to tell you when, where, or how long you should grieve the loss of a child.

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Oh, hun! I'm sorry you're feeling blue! But it's completely normal! Don't let anyone make you feel otherwise! My loss was really early as well, I only knew I was pregnant for a total of 17 days, and YOU KNOW how much I struggled. I'm some ways, the baby I lost at 6 weeks was more real to me than the one I'm carrying now at 27 weeks.

Have you thought about maybe doing something special to remember your angel? I named mine and I made a memory box for him. I'm also going to get a tattoo to remember him when I can. I find doing those sorts of things really helped. It's helps me to know that, at least to me and DH, Caleb will never be forgotten.

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I haven't made a memory box. I went to James Avery the other day and bought a charm to put on my bracelet. I am having it engraved right now with 9-9-07 (the day we lost him).

This is the charm.
http://secure.jamesavery.com/jewelry/search/product/CM-534/Boys-Baby-Shoes/

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The charm is beautiful. Im so sorry about your loss... :bighug:

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I am so sorry for your loss.

Bonnie

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Jess the charm is beautiful!

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I think the charm is gorgeous and perfect! I'm so glad you found something to remember him by. :bigarmhug:

~Amber~