Finally Put it all away..

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Finally Put it all away..

Well today I decided to put all my maternity clothes away which wasent much and some magazines and some baby rattles they gave me as my first gift away...I wanted to burst out crying but DH was home and I just Felt bad and didnt want to do it in front of him...Not that he hasent seen me break down I just want to be strong Like he is for me...Im the type of person who cries secretly I really cant do it in front of People unless everyone else is crying. Weird huh? but anyways...today Me and hubby also put some baby stuff my sister had given me for the crib..this suxs:(..but like I said before thank God I have you ladies to vent with....

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sorry

I am so sorry for your loss. You were strong for putting the items away. I haven't been able too yet. The are just sitting in the middle of what was to be the nursery. I am hoping that this time next year I will be expecting. The pain is unreal. You are not alone. Stay Strong.

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I feel your paind and again I am sorry for your loss.I have yet to put my bassinet away I just can't bare to do it yet.

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thanks girls....I guess its just more painfull for me to have it around...:confused:

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You are obviously a strong lady. I keep all of our baby stuff in the old nursery stacked up. We have so much that needs to be sorted out and packed away for now. I dont know what else to so with it.

Secret I dont like to cry in front of people either.

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Oh hon. I am so sorry. I remember that I had to have the baby stuff gone. I couldn't bear to look at it. It was a taunting reminder to me. I am so sorry that your heart was broken again. I understand about not wanting to cry in front of DH. I feel guilty over how much I cry in front of mine. I hope that you feel better soon. I pray that the both of you find peace.
Shelly

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I am soo sorry! :bigarmhug:

I remember packing my clothes after the loss, i held it together for dh as well, but it was so hard.

Thinking of you :bigarmhug:

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thanks girls...your all the best

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It hurt me almost more putting away the maternity clothes then the baby things. I had grown into my maternity wear right after the 6 week mark. I guess it is because I could relate strongly to being pregnant but the baby only reminded me of what wasn't happening and I wanted that stuff put away. DH and my mom hid some of the baby stuff right after the loss for me and it probably did me some good. Here's to hoping you need them all again someday.

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One time I expanded so quickly I ordered maternity wear online, but had a m/c before it even arrived. Taking that package to the store to return it was so hard. (I prob should of let someone else do it for me) I remember silently tears as the clerk credited my card, I'm glad she didn't ask any questions, that was a really hard day. I've held on to the baby clothes though. Even though I know my adopted children won't be that young and I'll probably need the space I just can't let go of those clothes.

I guess I just want to say, go at your own pace with moving things around, and it helps not to think about what other might say is the right thing. It sounds like you're doing that already, so good job!

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thanks so much skygirl...its been something that i deal with day by day.somedays are good some days are bad others i just feel numb..having friends like you and all the woman here who understand me is soo awesome...i could not have done it without you ladies

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:bigarmhug: I am sorry for your heartache :bigarmhug: That is so hard to pack it all up :bawl:

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Hugs! It is so hard, and I too hate to cry in front of ppl, even my husband. I have this stupid thing of not showing weakness (though I know it doesn't, all mental). I keep finding the few maternity clothes I had gotten out, and it hurts that I am not wearing them anymore. Sad