Well today I decided to put all my maternity clothes away which wasent much and some magazines and some baby rattles they gave me as my first gift away...I wanted to burst out crying but DH was home and I just Felt bad and didnt want to do it in front of him...Not that he hasent seen me break down I just want to be strong Like he is for me...Im the type of person who cries secretly I really cant do it in front of People unless everyone else is crying. Weird huh? but anyways...today Me and hubby also put some baby stuff my sister had given me for the crib..this suxs..but like I said before thank God I have you ladies to vent with....
I am so sorry for your loss. You were strong for putting the items away. I haven't been able too yet. The are just sitting in the middle of what was to be the nursery. I am hoping that this time next year I will be expecting. The pain is unreal. You are not alone. Stay Strong.
Oh hon. I am so sorry. I remember that I had to have the baby stuff gone. I couldn't bear to look at it. It was a taunting reminder to me. I am so sorry that your heart was broken again. I understand about not wanting to cry in front of DH. I feel guilty over how much I cry in front of mine. I hope that you feel better soon. I pray that the both of you find peace.
It hurt me almost more putting away the maternity clothes then the baby things. I had grown into my maternity wear right after the 6 week mark. I guess it is because I could relate strongly to being pregnant but the baby only reminded me of what wasn't happening and I wanted that stuff put away. DH and my mom hid some of the baby stuff right after the loss for me and it probably did me some good. Here's to hoping you need them all again someday.
One time I expanded so quickly I ordered maternity wear online, but had a m/c before it even arrived. Taking that package to the store to return it was so hard. (I prob should of let someone else do it for me) I remember silently tears as the clerk credited my card, I'm glad she didn't ask any questions, that was a really hard day. I've held on to the baby clothes though. Even though I know my adopted children won't be that young and I'll probably need the space I just can't let go of those clothes.
I guess I just want to say, go at your own pace with moving things around, and it helps not to think about what other might say is the right thing. It sounds like you're doing that already, so good job!