The chromosomal report isnt done yet though. My MW called and read it to me. The baby essentially was perfect as far as they were able to tell he had no gross malformations or anomolies. Everything was as it should be. My MW was particularly interested in the kidneys as the baby had no fluid around it and she wondered if the kidneys didnt develop but they looked normal and were the correct size. The sex was marked down as probable male differential or something like that meaning they were pretty sure the baby was a boy which was what dh and I thought. My placenta did come back with chorioamnionitis or an infection of the placenta and amniotic fluid. My MW said there is no real way to know if that is what caused the baby's death or if it happened after the fact. She said normally if I had an infection I would have felt sick and had a fever. But she said its possible I did and just didnt get sick. To me it makes perfect sense I think the Sunday night before we discovered the baby was gone I broke my waters I felt a lot of pressure and peed a ton and just felt weird, my MW was skeptical though since i didnt seem to keep leaking fluids afterwards. But when I heard about the infection it all just make sense to me like I was at peace with what happened. We still have the chromosomal results to get through and its possible something will show up there. However having had 6 healthy children my MW thinks it is highly unlikely we would have some rare chromosomal abnormality. However Downs, Tri 13, or Tri 18 are possibilities I think. She hopes we get the results next week. We decided to name him Noah Frederick. Noah bc it means peace, rest, and comfort and we always name our boys 4 letter names and Frederick bc it is my gpa's mn who passed away years ago and we always do a family mn.
I hope having that information has helped you feel more at peace with how it happened. There was nothing you could have done...just one of those things. I'm glad you decided to name him and I hope that helps with the healing process, too. How are you doing?