I had a d&c for a blighted ovum in Sep, and we started trying again, 6mo later, thrilled to be pg again. I had some bleeding 2wks ago, and had an u/s and we saw the baby with a beating heart. Yesterday was my first appt for this pregnacy (9wks) and my ob could not find the baby on his portable u/s machine. I was not overly worried, because to find it 2wk prior the tech had to do a vaginal, because my uterus is so tipped (she said almost folded over). So I had an u/s first thing this morning, and the baby's heart stopped beating some time last week. Of course, this is the day that my ob is out of office, and he is on call 1/2 the day tomorrow, so I have an appt at 1:30pm to discuss our plan of action. I think Friday is his surgery day, so I am hoping to have a d&c then, if at all possible. I waited to miscarry naturally last time, and waiting the 2wks was just torture, I think I would rather just have it over with.
I am just devastated, as expected. I never expected that having another child would be so difficult. Thankfully I have supportive friends and family, and help with my kids. I have lots of questions, if this has anything to do with my being rh-, or if they will do any testing since I have had two in a less than a yr.
I am so deeply sorry that you are going through this. Posting here was absolutely the most comforting and healing thing for me. I am praying that with time you will get the answers and comfort that you need. big hugs to you
I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I saw your post on another thread and was praying for you today. I miscarried May 1st, and the board has been really helpful with healing and knowing there are others out there who are going through something similar. I'm glad that you have lots of supportive friends and family--and this board too.
I am so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.
After my 2nd mc, I came up with a long list of questions for the doctor and also asked for more testing to be done. Do whatever makes you comfortable right now.
I am so sorry for your loss. It's hard enough to go through it all once, let alone for it to happen again. I can totally relate -- all I wanted was another child, and was simply devastated to have m/c'd more than once afterward. Especially because my first pregnancy was totally uneventful -- all had gone so perfectly well.
Whether or not to have a D & C is such a personal choice. I had one because I just felt I couldn't wait any longer, once I knew for sure that we had lost Alex. I was told by a close friend who's a GP that D & C's are really gentle, quick and uncomplicated procedures, and that was certainly my experience. No side effects for me at all.
I asked loads of questions too. With blighted ova and other m/c's there's so little they can determine as to the cause of our loss -- so I wanted to know all that I could. I found it strangely comforting to know (after my own battery of tests) that losing our angel babies had nothing to do with my health. It helped me with the grieving process too.
I'm glad you've written in. We're going to help you through this. Feel free to PM me anytime. I'm "all ears".
Thanks ladies for your words of support, it sure helps sometimes to "talk" to ppl that have perspective. It sucks royally that we all have had losses, but sometimes the words form those who haven't are not very comforting.
I hate how the brain just doesn't quit. I cannot sleep w/o reading myself to sheer exhaustion, and when my dh just came to bed, yeah, can't go back to sleep, just lay there and bawl. You really wouldn't think there could be so many tears in there. It is clearing up my stuffy nose that I have had though, lol.