Here I come
I am sadly joining you..... :(
I had a natural M/C Tuesday evening.... My OB prescribe me drugs to make it happen because the "wait" was so so hard on me ....
I had a U/S end of March and then an other on the 21st and still an empty sac.... so I was having a BLIGHTED OVUM.... as they call it....
I now know I had one in October... but at the time I had no clue I was PG, never tested and when I called my "ex" OB about all the things coming out they just told me "this is what happen when you are old" (I am 41) :eek: -- when that happen it was like right when AF was due so VERY early and I had no clue
But this time around was way different as you know not easy when your body think you are PG for a while....
I had the darkest 3 hours of my life and I sure hope now I can put it behind me "with more ease".... but not easy
I go next week to my Ob ( a new one very nice) to do a U/S to make sure all is OK...
LIFE ISN'T EASY....
I am so sorry for your loss. I too have had really early m/c and this one was so different so I can understand how you are feeling. i am sure life will really suck right now for you. Take time for yourself, take time to heal, cry when you need to. Reach out to support - here or otherwise.
I am sorry for your loss. It is too bad your OB did not show any compassion toeards you. It only adds salt to the wound when we feel no one is listening or understands what we have to say or what we are feeling.
I really like my new OB she is nicer.... the other one his bedside manners were "different" I guess...
Originally Posted by missy8632
but to be honest bottom line Ex OB or New "nice" OB ... I just lost a baby due to my "old eggs"......
Sweetie, I am 41 too, the times I have had a blighted ovum I was younger so it is not necessarily your "old eggs". Did you have testing done as to why the m/c? I won't get my results until about May 20th and my family doc said that some of the tests may take longer.
Originally Posted by keops
I need to Vent some sorry.....
The bleeding as seriously slowed down.. which is good because it was "heavy" for like 4 days :eek:
tomorrow morning I have my Appt so my OB make sure "all is gone".... and now I am freaking out she will find something wrong....
Since the news DH has been detach from me and I know he was super busy at work and Final exam are coming up too but still I finally told him Saturday.. I told him it was too hard to deal with it alone and him doing like I was not there or "nothing" happen wasn't helping.. and eh said "sorry" and things got better...
did it do the same to your relationship? granted I was a mess and sad big time (still is) but.....
sorry for the vent....
No test done and my OB didn't suggest anything... I read that it is most of the time due to Chromosomal abnormality so not much anybody can do... mother nature took her pick I guess.....
Originally Posted by mom2robbie
I am making a list to talk with her tomorrow...
thanks for your support
My DH had a job interview 1 hr after we found out...not great timing. Then he had final projects due and final exams. With all that he still took 3 days off school to be with me and help me. Still, when I need to be held he is there for me.
Sorry that your DH is not so supportive. I think it is hard for the guys to understand, the baby is so abstract to them at this point.
DH is doing better that I talked to him Saturday evening... I know he had lot of pressure at work and then school and some interview he has to do for his group to hire new persons....
I wish I was that busy to not think about it... I am sure glad I have my DS to make me LOVE LIFE everyday
So sorry for your loss. I also had a natural m/c and it was pretty much the worst night of my life. I really feel for you.
My DH is the least emotional person I know.. so that's kind of tough. But he took a couple days off of work last week to take care of me, so I definetly appreciated that.
Good luck at the OB, I go on Wednesday.