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Here I come

hello ladies

I am sadly joining you..... Sad

I had a natural M/C Tuesday evening.... My OB prescribe me drugs to make it happen because the "wait" was so so hard on me ....
I had a U/S end of March and then an other on the 21st and still an empty sac.... so I was having a BLIGHTED OVUM.... as they call it....

I now know I had one in October... but at the time I had no clue I was PG, never tested and when I called my "ex" OB about all the things coming out they just told me "this is what happen when you are old" (I am 41) :eek: -- when that happen it was like right when AF was due so VERY early and I had no clue

But this time around was way different as you know not easy when your body think you are PG for a while....

I had the darkest 3 hours of my life and I sure hope now I can put it behind me "with more ease".... but not easy

I go next week to my Ob ( a new one very nice) to do a U/S to make sure all is OK...

LIFE ISN'T EASY....

Magali

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I am so sorry for your loss. I too have had really early m/c and this one was so different so I can understand how you are feeling. i am sure life will really suck right now for you. Take time for yourself, take time to heal, cry when you need to. Reach out to support - here or otherwise.
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I am sorry for your loss. It is too bad your OB did not show any compassion toeards you. It only adds salt to the wound when we feel no one is listening or understands what we have to say or what we are feeling.

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"missy8632" wrote:

I am sorry for your loss. It is too bad your OB did not show any compassion toeards you. It only adds salt to the wound when we feel no one is listening or understands what we have to say or what we are feeling.

I really like my new OB she is nicer.... the other one his bedside manners were "different" I guess...

but to be honest bottom line Ex OB or New "nice" OB ... I just lost a baby due to my "old eggs"......

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"keops" wrote:

I really like my new OB she is nicer.... the other one his bedside manners were "different" I guess...

but to be honest bottom line Ex OB or New "nice" OB ... I just lost a baby due to my "old eggs"......

Sweetie, I am 41 too, the times I have had a blighted ovum I was younger so it is not necessarily your "old eggs". Did you have testing done as to why the m/c? I won't get my results until about May 20th and my family doc said that some of the tests may take longer.

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I need to Vent some sorry.....

The bleeding as seriously slowed down.. which is good because it was "heavy" for like 4 days :eek:
tomorrow morning I have my Appt so my OB make sure "all is gone".... and now I am freaking out she will find something wrong....

Since the news DH has been detach from me and I know he was super busy at work and Final exam are coming up too but still I finally told him Saturday.. I told him it was too hard to deal with it alone and him doing like I was not there or "nothing" happen wasn't helping.. and eh said "sorry" and things got better...

did it do the same to your relationship? granted I was a mess and sad big time (still is) but.....

sorry for the vent....

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"mom2robbie" wrote:

Sweetie, I am 41 too, the times I have had a blighted ovum I was younger so it is not necessarily your "old eggs". Did you have testing done as to why the m/c? I won't get my results until about May 20th and my family doc said that some of the tests may take longer.

Hugs.

No test done and my OB didn't suggest anything... I read that it is most of the time due to Chromosomal abnormality so not much anybody can do... mother nature took her pick I guess.....

I am making a list to talk with her tomorrow...

thanks for your support
Magali

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My DH had a job interview 1 hr after we found out...not great timing. Then he had final projects due and final exams. With all that he still took 3 days off school to be with me and help me. Still, when I need to be held he is there for me.

Sorry that your DH is not so supportive. I think it is hard for the guys to understand, the baby is so abstract to them at this point.

Hugs!

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DH is doing better that I talked to him Saturday evening... I know he had lot of pressure at work and then school and some interview he has to do for his group to hire new persons....
I wish I was that busy to not think about it... I am sure glad I have my DS to make me LOVE LIFE everyday

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So sorry for your loss. I also had a natural m/c and it was pretty much the worst night of my life. I really feel for you.

My DH is the least emotional person I know.. so that's kind of tough. But he took a couple days off of work last week to take care of me, so I definetly appreciated that.

Good luck at the OB, I go on Wednesday.

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got my U/S today and seems like some "stuff" are still in there so I need to take the meds to clean it up..
of course super busy here , DH very busy at work and I have to drive to Skagway and back this week end..
My OB want me to "clean" it up before this week end... and then do an other U/S next week before I go on vacation....
so I am going to take the meds when DS takes his nap.. I need to lay down for 30mn once I got the meds "in" but can't do this if he is awake

so here I go again... NOT LOOKING forward to this afternoon..... she told me (my OB) it should be "easier" and should not take much as there is only like 2cm left....

sorry I needed to share ....

Magali

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Ugh! I am sorry you still have to do through this. At least you avoided a d&c. You are really going to need your vacation.

Hugs.

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I am so sorry. Sounds like your o/b is on top of it though. Sounds like your vacation is perfect timing.

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now I am just waiting for the process to Start it says 2hr to 12hr after inserting the pills :eek:....

thanks for your support

Magali

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Nothing happened !!!

so I called my OB today and she said if I feel OK I am OK.. and wants me to do a PG Test in couple of weeks and to call her the results.. and she told me in 4 to 6 wks my first period will be very heavy
oh and if the bleeding (which has stopped) start again and go on and on I should call her...

I am confused.. why did I took the drugs for then ???
Did any of you had this experience???

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If you "passed" everything than maybe the medication did not need to work. If you have questions, do not be afraid to call your ob back and ask. :bigarmhug:

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"keops" wrote:

Nothing happened !!!

so I called my OB today and she said if I feel OK I am OK.. and wants me to do a PG Test in couple of weeks and to call her the results.. and she told me in 4 to 6 wks my first period will be very heavy
oh and if the bleeding (which has stopped) start again and go on and on I should call her...

I am confused.. why did I took the drugs for then ???
Did any of you had this experience???

Magali

Hmmm...I wonder if they thought they saw something but everything had already passed. Sorry you are going through so much confusion. I hope your first period is not horrible. I have not had one yet (5 weeks past my d&c) so I have no idea how that will be.

Hugs.
Margaret

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I'll call her back when we come back from our vacation trip (end of month) and see... I fell OK physically so... no cramps/pain and I have spotting only when I wipe ....

Thanks for your answers

Magali