The holidays -- how'd you do?

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The holidays -- how'd you do?

Hi everyone,

I thought I would pop in and see how things are going. I know that the holiday season often was a reminder of those loved ones that we had lost -- family, friends... and our little ones that should have been gathering around the tree.

One of the things that we had chosen to do was to have one ornament on the tree for each of our children that we have lost / born too soon. It still saddens but at the same time does bring me comfort along with being able to incorporate my faith beliefs.

Please know you all remain in my thoughts and prayers!


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Hey, Missy
The idea of the tree sounds really sweet. I hope the holiday season was okay for everyone too. Smile
This is year number five, and while I didn't have a hardtime at Christmas, the New Year seemed really overwhelming. I'm not sure why, but it was sort of like "Great, another year of missing her is coming." kwim?
Anyway, I pray you and every one strength for the year(s) ahead.

Another year of missing her, no way to say goodbye
Why? Because my heart is so open, some days I only cry.
I cannot say goodbye to what I felt inside of me,
A precious baby growing...a face I cannot see.

But I have hope within my dreams and when I close my eyes.
I know that she exist somewhere, I feel her spirit close by.
So maybe if I can stop the thoughts, that too fast past me go,
I will slow down just long rest in what I know.

And I know...I love and miss you, Sarah.
love Mommy

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Xmas Ideas

The holidays have always been my favorite time of year until recently. My father died by suicide in '08 and I found out my baby has passed in my tummy on 12/23/09. I did the ornament thing for my dad and did the same for my baby already. There are a lot of sites with ornaments that can be engraved or personalized. I also light a candle for the ones no longer with us on the day of a holiday. Not only for my own piece of mind and desire to keep them with us in spirit, but also to remind everyone else to remember the ones we lost during those times. Any other ideas/traditions???

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I am so sorry for your losses. Sending hugs.
Maybe you can plant a tree for your dad and you angel?