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    Default How to survive DH's high school reunion (preg, m/c, child ment)

    This weekend is DH's 20 year high school reunion and all the activities are family oriented. I know from their website that several have young children (toddlers and babies) and some are even pregnant and I already have this apprehension so I have no idea how I will react to all of this.

    It will be 4 weeks since the miscarriage (D&C) this Friday so I still struggle emotionally at times.

    Any ideas or tips on what you have done to try to emotionally get through events where there are toddlers, babies, and other pregnant women?

    TIA!

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    Wow! I wish i had some valuable advice to give. At the moment i'm still right in the middle of avoiding all things baby as much as i possibly can. I couldnt imagine being in a situation where i'd have to discuss these things with strangers and not want to run away!

    I know that's incredibly unhelpful, and i'm sorry. You are a braver lady than i!

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    Gosh, I wish I had some words of wisdom. I lost my son a couple weeks before Thanksgiving and we had a couple of family oriented things going on besides Thanksgiving (my MIL does a "family fun night" and there was a fundraiser for my nephew to raise money for JDRF). We skipped all of the events with the children. My DH went and saw the nieces and nephews on Thanksgiving, but I stayed away (I was having a hard enough time with my own family with NO kids there.)

    By Christmas I was doing better, but I really just hung out with the adults and I really only watched the kids open their presents from the dining room (where I couldn't see much.)

    I was around people who knew the situation...any other situation I just avoided. By mid January, I was able to face "the masses."

    I wish I was more help here with our situation...

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    at my SIL baby shower, I hung out with the guys on the back porch. There were no kids hanging out with the guys, and they sure didn't talk about their kids!
    Otherwise... grab a glass of wine?

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    I agree with just avoiding the kid stuff as much as feasible. The wine suggestion is great too. I will be praying for you. I wish you the peace and strength that you deserve/need.

    shelly

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    Thank you for understanding and your suggestions.

    DH had already decided we weren't doing the picnic, however forgot to tell me about it

    We have a football game tonight to attend and I think that will be ok and if not it is within walking distance of my In-laws house so I can always walk home.

    The evening event we have a room there so I can also easily leave if I need to.

    I'm going to do as you suggested hang out more with the guys. It will be kind of natural for me anyways as I work in a field which is dominated by males and my interests are cars and motorcycles so hopefully that will help too.

    Right now I feel positive I can get through this because we have a plan, but we'll have to see how it actually goes. A few days ago I didn't feel to same so ....

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