I am so sad

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I am so sad

Hi, I'm new to this board. I had a m/c in 06 at 10 weeks and I never though it would be so hard to deal with. We were TTC for a year but it wasn't until the m/c that I truly realized how much I want a baby. Two months after the loss I went full swing in the TTC mode again. I was driving DH crazy!

The m/c made me fear that I may never be able to have a child. Logically I know it's ridiculous, I know the statistics are in my favor (just like they were with my pregnancy... I hate statistics...)

3 weeks ago when I found out I was pregnant again. I was trying real hard not get attached to my baby. I was cramping throughout the 3 weeks, the doctors said it was normal as long as there was no bleeding. Yesterday I started to get pain in my lower back, and I started spotting today. It's exactly how it occurred last time. I am so sad.

I don't know how to break the news to my husband. His father is terminally ill and doing very badly right now (the doctors say it could be hours or a week). The whole family is by his side. DH doesn't need this and I need to support him not give him more bad news...

This has just been a bad year.
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Thanks for letting me vent on this board. I really need this.

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I am so sorry you are going through this for a second time. JMO, but even though your DH is going through a tough time, I don't think it's better to keep something this important from him.

Please stay strong.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Have you called your dr again? Some spotting in early pregnancy can be normal. When I was on the december boards there were more than a couple girls there that had bleeding, at times somewhat heavy, and they are doing fine with their pregnancies. Please call your doctor, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully everything will be alright with this baby.
Please keep us posted.

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I say go in and get checked. My SO is from Montreal & says you will be seen right away & will probably an ultrasound to check.

We are in Alberta now & I am sure that it is basically the same here. Are you seeing your same doc as last time? If so, he should be able to get you in soon as well.

Please keep us posted and PM me if you need to talk more.

Diane

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I am so sorry for your loss. Sad

:bighug:

Please get yourself checked out, like the other ladies suggested.

PREG MENT

I am 12 weeks pregnant right now and i bled bright red for two weeks off and on earlier. I though each time for sure i had lost the baby, but it turned out to be a subchorionic bleed, which is quite normal. There are lots of reasons to bleed during pregnancy and not all of them bad. Smile

Sarah. x

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All of you were right about getting checked. I just got back from the ER and got an ultrasound. everything looks good aside from the bleeding. They don't know what the cause could be. I will keep my fingers crossed. I guess I jumped the gun a little (probably a defense mechanism from my m/c last year)

My father in law passed away yesterday. I guess one bad event was enough for us this week. Now I can concentrate on helping my husband and his family.

Thank you all for your support, it really felt good just to write this down. It's beautiful to see how women who don't really know each other reach out. This board is a powerful tool.

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So wait... Is the baby ok then? I'm confused.

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"Topo" wrote:

So wait... Is the baby ok then? I'm confused.

Yup, bub is fine i think. Biggrin

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i'm sorry to hear about your FIL and happy for your baby. my grandmother always says that as one life leaves the earth, another one enters....that's your babe, i'm sure of it.

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"uropachild" wrote:

[quote=Topo]So wait... Is the baby ok then? I'm confused.

Yup, bub is fine i think. :D[/quote]

Wow! Congrats!