I'll Love You Forever, I'll Like You For Always, As Long As I'm Living, My Baby You'll Be
Asha, please add me to the long list of people who are thinking of you. I know how it feels to think that your DH/SO isn't supportive or upset by a loss, but I learned that men grieve differently than us (usually) sometimes they feel the need to be stronger and not show emotion.
What a horrible way to learn about your loss, on what should have been an exciting and joyous day. I am so terribly sorry for your loss...
I agree... Men just cope/grieve differently than we do. I was only 7 weeks for my m/c, but for the woman, we're connected to the bean from the minute we get that BFP. For the man, I think it's just so much more abstract. They don't feel the changes our bodies go through and don't connect to the baby as quickly. My DH has handled this in the complete opposite way from me. I am very obsessive, reading all about m/c's online, freaking out about what I might see every time I go to the bathroom, etc. DH is just going about his normal business as if nothing happened, won't say two words about it, is just like all is normal. He might be taking a little better care of me than normal, making me drink plenty of fluids (because the doc said to), etc... But all-in-all, everything is pretty much normal with him. I'm trying to take it easy on him... I know he doesn't get it because he's a man and men are dense.